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10 Causes of Failure in Life and Recovery

What is up, everyone? Welcome, welcome, welcome welcome back to another Saturday episode of the family education and support group with your host Parham. I am grateful for the opportunity to be here back with you another Saturday. And you know we’re going on four years of doing this on Saturdays – started off in March of 2020, go figure why we started then, but it’s been a wonderful journey since then. Good Morning to everyone that’s going to pop up! Let me do a quick introduction of myself in this live stream and what the purpose and intention of it is. So we do this talk pretty much every week and it’s for anyone who has ever experienced any type of pain as a result of addictions, mental illness, trauma or grief and loss, so those are some pretty intense life experiences and when we go through them they’re scary, they’re overwhelming, they’re all consuming, and not just for the person that’s going through the experience, but oftentimes, more often than not, for the loved ones that are watching it and going through that experience with them like they’re on a roller coaster. They sometimes don’t even want to be on so there’s a lot of education, information that’s valuable in this stage, because the support that you gather helps you navigate through those challenging times in a way that you don’t lose yourself and harm yourself and hurt yourself in the process. 


Like I said, my name is Parham. I got a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy with an emphasis in Child Development. I am a licensed Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor. I’m personally in recovery myself. Since June 13th of 2008 is when I decided to kind of shift gears and change my life around. I coach high school basketball, I teach at a local community college. My life is full and I’m grateful for it. This is one of the things that I love to do is to be able to get in front of human beings and do my part to teach and educate and provide information to hopefully allow them to have the tools necessary to make the changes in their life that they desperately want, need and deserve. Every talk I ever do is dedicated to one thing and one thing only and that is the possibility of human transformation. I believe that all human beings including myself have the ability to transform our lives, how we live, who we are, what we do in any given moment that we choose to. So why not have that moment be right now for you? All that being said, I’m going to get into today’s talk and today’s talk is a subjective topic because the word ‘fail’ can have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people. But the premise of this talk is why do people fail in their lives and why do people fail in their recovery? It’s a good question to ask because first of all we have to define what does that failure mean to you? What is failure? I don’t know, I’m not a big fan of the word ‘failure’ believe it or not, because I believe that a life experience that is negative, that one can perceive as failure, can also be the catalyst in the opening for positive changes in life to happen. Because if you ever do something and you fail, the failure gives you a bunch of data and information of why it happened, why did that outcome get achieved, and once you know the why of that, the next time you can go about it and change the outcome. Without that lesson it’s hard to get to success. For most people that succeed, there are countless times that they failed prior to it. I mean, one definition of success is how you go from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. People that are successful have gone through failure after failure after failure and in the gap between those they have not lost their enthusiasm and motivation to continue going forward. 


So yeah, the group’s kind of talking to each other and saying what’s up to each other. I respect that, I like that! Marilyn seems to be in a good jolly mood and saying what’s up to the community. Marilyn, co- facilitate? Do what you got to do, I’m okay with it. Jim, what’s up? Katalin, VA. We got some people in the house so I’m going to go through and share some of these with you and hopefully get some value out of them. 


  1. The first one that we have is people that fail, have a lack of purpose. In this early stage of recovery for people, if you’re in an early stage, if your loved ones are just figuring it out, if you’re in an early stage for yourself, the only purpose you have is just to get well. I’m talking about your mind, your body, your spirit, your relationships, just to get them healthy again. And that’s a beautiful purpose to have, a beautiful wonderful purpose to have. In the program, the 12 step programs, they teach that our primary purpose is to help the next person that’s suffering. So that could be a wonderful purpose to have too. However I want you to know this. That in life as a whole, not just the recovery component, of life as a whole, people that fail oftentimes lack a well-defined purpose in their life. What’s your why? What’s your motivating factor? What’s the reason when you get up in the morning and do the things you got to do? What’s the sense of purpose you have? And a lot of people tie that sense of purpose to someone else. I do it for this. I do it for my kids. I do it for my job. That’s okay, it’s beautiful, it’s honorable, but if you don’t have a purpose for yourself and you don’t define what that purpose is for yourself, the day will come when you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, angry, tired, whatever it is, and you’re going to feel lost in this world. Having a purpose is such a powerful thing and if you don’t know what it is maybe sit down and think what do you want it to be? We all need it. We all need to have that sense of purpose in this thing called life because it gives us a compass. It gives us a directional map. It gives us a reason to get up every single day and do the things we do. So the number one thing was lack of purpose.


  1. The next one I have is a lack of ambition to aim above mediocrity. So you know how you go to a restaurant and they bring you some food? If the food is straight mediocre, I’m talking about like a 3 out of 10, a 4 out of 10, you might take a few bites and be like, “oh I don’t know if I want this,” and you might leave it and say that was horrible. Now if you’re hungry and starving and you eat it and you’re like this is horrible, but you’re gonna eat the food. What happens is if you’re continuously hungry it doesn’t matter what the type of food is. Mediocre is going to do okay. Life is the same way – you might have a life that you’re just not excited about. It feels like that food tastes – it’s not horrible but it’s definitely not good. And what happens is we get comfortable in that space of living a life that is not horrible. But it’s not great, it’s not exciting, and when did that happen? Why did we just settle for mediocre? Why do we settle for mediocre relationships? Why do we settle for mediocre life experiences? Work life balance? Mediocre communication skills? Mediocre health? Why do we settle for that? It’s because people lose the ambition to aim above it. Because it’s too hard, it’s too far away, it’s too impossible. That’s okay. That means you’re just committing to a life of eating that food at that restaurant that’s a 3 out of 10. So please, if you experience mediocrity in your life ask yourself why am I not aiming a little bit higher? Why am I not raising my standards to get to that next level, to get to that next step, to get to that next life experience, so I can feel happy, joyous, free, fulfillment. Is it fear? Probably, but if we don’t overcome those fears then we’re just settling for what we got. So it’s a choice. Either you do it and get a life a little bit better than the life you got, or don’t do it and keep the life you have. And that’s okay. It’s none of my business. But I hope you make the choice for yourself.


  1. The next one we have is lack of self-discipline. This one’s interesting because people think that if they don’t want to do something today because they’re tired or they just don’t feel like it, that sometime in the future they’re going to all of a sudden have the motivation and the energy and the enthusiasm to get it done. I want you to know that is categorically false. There is no such thing as that future moment is better than this future moment at this current moment. It doesn’t exist and people that don’t have discipline keep postponing what needs to be done to the time that they think they will. I did this talk for our program participants this morning and I told them, “Hey, there is a bunch of stuff that you need to do right now that you’re not doing,” and obviously there is. And you know what’s preventing them from doing it? “I just don’t feel like it. I’m tired. I don’t want to be here,” but in their mind they’ve already made an agreement, a false agreement that when they leave these types of structured settings and these types of programs, that then and there they will start to become self-disciplined. And when they go there and realize that without having the person to say, “Hey wake up in the morning, get in the van, go to treatment, let’s go to the grocery store, let’s go to a meeting at night,” when you don’t have that person telling you all those things and pretty much on some level requiring you to do those things you think you’re going to do it on your own? From my experience those who can’t do it now can’t do it later. So if you can’t do certain things in your life right now and you think in the later time you’re going to do it, not if you’re physically injured, if you have a broken leg and I’m saying, “go out for a walk,” and you’re like, “well I can’t do it now but when it heals I can,” that’s different. But the things that you can do right now, if you’re not doing them and you think that in the future you will, you’re lying to yourself. I told those kids, the program participants, “some of you might say how dare this guy tell me that in the future when I’m out of this place I won’t live my life and do the things I want to do? I’ll show him.” So if you go out there and do what you got to do and come back a year later and say, “Hey, you remember you told me when I’m not in sober living or structured living I’m not going to be able to do well? Well, I wake up, I go to school. I go to work, I do this, I do that, and I just want to let you know that you were wrong.” You know what I would say? “I’m so freaking happy to hear that. I’m happy to hear that you figured it out and you got your life together. It’s awesome to see that you’re one of a thousand people that wasn’t able to do it here but able to do it then. So congratulations on being a unicorn and proving me wrong. And keep it up!” That’s exactly what I would say, because the statistics say, the relapse rates say if you don’t do it now you’re not going to do it later. And that’s a choice again.


We got some comments. That’s a good point too Jim. Jim said, “Today’s discipline and the right reasons, not the wrong reasons of staying in.” Like that active negative channel lifestyle of substance use and negative behavior, there’s actually a discipline to it. It’s very loose but there’s a discipline to it because you got to do the same thing over and over again and it’s so much easier, is’t it Jim, to be disciplined the right way? Oh so much easier.


  1. So the next one we got here is uncontrolled desire for something for nothing. So in the world of people who struggle with mental illness, substance abuse, maladaptive behaviors, they love instant gratification. I mean, our freaking whole society does, but they love it even more. Because when they feel their emotions get dysregulated they seek for something to chill it out right then and there, to calm them down right then, and then take the anxiety away, take the sadness away. People in society, if they’re feeling down and stressed out they’ll go buy a bunch of stuff, they go to the store for retail therapy. They’ll feel a little bit better right there. People go eat a bunch of stuff to feel better right there. Go date somebody, call someone they know they shouldn’t hang out with, just to get that little validation and that warmth and that lack of loneliness. But here’s the thing – if you have an uncontrolled desire in life to continuously get something for nothing, to not put in the work, the effort, the energy, the bandwidth needed in order to earn what it is you get, it’s going to lead to failure because it’s not sustainable. Now once in a while it’s okay to just come home and relax and just kind of be at peace and not do anything. That’s okay once in a while, but in life you have to do, in order to get. You have to be engaged in order to receive. I mean it’s just that’s the way it works. And a lot of people who struggle with mental health, mental illness, they don’t put in the work and it’s because their life has been so hard before, and now it’s like, “man, I just don’t want to do it anymore,” but that’s not going to work either. So the uncontrolled desire for something for nothing.


Hey Allan, what’s up bro? Hey, always good to see you. I know you said if you’re here it’s a good thing so you keep coming back and I’ll take your word for it, good job! 


  1. The next one we got here is something called ill health is definitely one of the causes of failure. I’m not gonna beat this one too hard because I believe that for all human beings it’s almost impossible to avoid or not get exposed to something on your phone or the internet or the TV that’s talking about the importance of health. You all know it. You don’t need some guy in his living room in the morning telling you about why it’s important to take care of your health. So ill health is one of the biggest causes of failure. And ill health is not just what happens, like a disease you get in your body. Ill health happens at the level of the mind and the thought, the type of thoughts you have, the quality of thoughts you have, the way you think, the way you perceive. If that is disrupted, if it’s ill it’s going to lead to failure. Your physical body, if you’re unable to move, bend, stretch, walk, take care of your physical body it will lead to failure with your relationships, your communication. If it’s not there, if it’s not healthy, if you suppress all the time, if you avoid your emotions, if you overt the truth it’s going to lead to ill health. I’ve yet to meet somebody that’s really doing well in life and is really really sick mind, body, spirit. They might have something. You might say, well that person is a psychopath and they’re doing well in life financially. I’m not talking about that stuff man. Money’s cheap, money’s cheap. I’m talking about true health, mind, body, spirit. If you don’t have it it’s really hard to succeed in life because I don’t think those people that are psychopaths that have a lot of money, if you ask their loved ones about what they think about them they’re not going to be like, “oh he’s wonderful, he’s always there, he’s always present! That person’s like a shell around their family. This is what Jim’s talking about. He’s going through some health challenges and he’s had to overcome them, so not the recent ones but before it goes to the doctors, give them some reports, they give them some numbers, they give some suggestions on how to improve those numbers and change them, and that’s the information the doctor provided. Now Jim has the option. Do I make the changes necessary? Change my lifestyle, improve my health? Or do I continue doing what I’m doing because it’s too hard to do so or I don’t want to. That’s the only choice. Jim made the choice to make improvements and he goes back to the doctor six months later, years later, and all those numbers that the doctors reviewed with them had completely changed. Some of them eliminated and gone. Some of the medications no longer needed. See it’s not like he just got lucky. He created it. And I want you to know that whatever you’re experiencing in life that is causing you to have ill health there are solutions for it and I know there’s some rare stuff out there and this and that and my heart goes out to you, because that’s just life sometimes for people. But for the most part the things that we create for ourselves as a byproduct of the way we live our lives, if it got caused by a negative way of living life, then it could probably get at least improved with a positive way. So please please please don’t underestimate the power of your health.


That’s right Alan, we do all have free will. And you know, Integrity is defined as doing what you are supposed to do when no one’s watching. Doing the right thing when no one’s watching. That’s what I was telling our program participants. It’s easy to do the right things when the house manager’s watching you, when you’re being held accountable at a treatment place. But when they’re not around you have it in you to do it. Some do and some don’t. But we do have free will when it comes to that.


  1. The next one I got here is unfavorable environmental factors in childhood. So most people that experience some type of trauma growing up, maybe some type of abandonment, some type of abuse, mind, body, spirit, soul, some people that experience moving a lot city to city, disruption in the family, early death of someone, parents being addicted to drugs and alcohol, or mental illness in childhood has an impact. Now I know some of you might be from the old school. Probably don’t watch this if you’re that way. But some people say none of that stuff matters, what happened to you as a kid. Figure it out. Well I mean, good luck, because the reason why it matters is because when you’re going through traumatic experiences as a child your brain’s developing so your brain develops in a moment by moment interaction with the environment. And when it’s developing these neural pathways, the way that we’re able to download information, process information, take action based on that information, the way we’re able to regulate our emotions, and experience emotions, all that stuff gets disrupted. So as an adult if it’s not dealt with it can lead to failure because what’s gonna happen is you’re going to fail in interpersonal relationships. You’re going to fail with professional relationships. You’re going to fail with connection to self. And you think it might not relate but it does. Here’s the thing. it’s not a death sentence because there are a significant amount of human beings in this world that have experienced some or maybe even all of those challenges in their childhood. And if it meant that if you experience it then you’re done it’s not the case. Because our brain has the ability to make new connections and create new neural pathways. There’s something called brain plasticity which our brain kind of regenerates with beautiful things and relationships. If you had bad ones and you start having some good ones with people that are rooted in trust and connection you start to heal all that, and when/ if you do so what happens is those unfavorable environments in childhood, while they never go away they don’t have the same pull and the same gravity on you. Sometimes people say, “Well in my childhood someone was abusive.” Do you guys know that 75% of people that experience some type of abuse, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, that kind of stuff, they repeat it in their life with other people. You might say they don’t have to or they don’t need to or it’s a choice. I agree with you but only 25% of people were able to actually not do that. So does that mean the other 75% have something wrong with them? No, that’s how hard it is to break through the unfavorable environmental factors of childhood, because that child when they’re a kid, and let’s say they were being physically abused, do you really think that when they grew up they said I’m going to physically abuse somebody? No man, it was the most painful experience they ever had – they felt unwanted, unloved, they felt this small, they felt like they didn’t mean anything in life. And because they didn’t heal from it later on in life, if they’re doing some type of abuse they’re like, “what the hell’s happening?” But that’s how these multigenerational patterns continue. Someone’s parent was a drug addict, alcoholic and the kid’s like, “I hate that stuff. I’ll never do it,” and later on they’re drinking and doing drugs. Do you think that kid planned for that? So these are real examples by the way, and there are people that say, “Hey, I was abused as a kid. It was horrible. I’ll never do it to somebody,” and they don’t. But the statistics say the other version of it is actually what happens more often. So please don’t discredit that stuff. I know for those of you who are on this channel, you obviously know that mental health matters and development matters, and who you are as a human being matters and all that kind of stuff. So just know that we have the ability to transform. We really really really do. And if I didn’t believe that I swear to God I would not be doing this. I would not be doing this if I didn’t know that.


  1. So the next one that we have here is negative personality. Our negative personality people out there, where are you? I have a lot of empathy for you, you know, I really do, because I don’t believe that it’s something that we’re born with. I don’t believe that some people are just super negative all the time, I really don’t. I know that if someone is very negative as an adult there is a very high possibility and probability that somebody was very negative in their life, very critical in their life, never saw the good in their life. And as a result they start to develop a specific way that they view themselves and view the world which is in a negative light, but again it’s a choice. So I’m going to teach you guys something about the power of our perspective. When something happens in life or when you view something in life or when you experience something in life, in that moment, in that very moment, we are given a choice and that choice is the perspective that we choose to view that event or situation or person as if you view it in a negative way. That doesn’t mean that thing is negative. It just means that you’re viewing it in a negative way. If you view it in a positive way it doesn’t mean that thing is positive, but you’re just viewing it. Things and circumstances have no meanings on their own. They really really don’t. It’s the meaning we give to it. It’s the perspective we give to it. It’s the choice of the power of our perspective. For example, someone might wake up in the morning and say I have to go to work today, and someone wakes up in the morning and says I get to go to work today. See, “I have to go to work” – the negative connotation about the force, the being pulled somewhere against your own will because you have to, because you have to pay the bills and survive. Versus “I get to go to work today,” meaning I’m lucky enough to have a job, I’m lucky enough that my body and mind is able to work, I’m lucky enough that I’ll hopefully get some money out of this so I could pay my bills. Just that different view – “I have to go to work,” “I get to go to work today.” Just that different view, I promise you is the difference between a high quality life and a low quality life. You might be saying this guy’s crazy but now apply that to everything. “I gotta go work out.” “Oh my God, I gotta go work out.” “I have to go work out,” and “I get to go work out today, thank God!” Apply that to everything and if you’re a negative person, well the homework assignment that I have for you – I have some homework for you. Each day, whether in the morning or sometime like a spot check throughout the day or just at the end of the night, I want you to sit down on your phone or pen and paper and write down five positive things that happened. Five positive things you saw, five positive experiences you had, five positive moments that you downloaded that day, write them down. And I want you to do that every single night. Five positive things that happened and you know what, if everything else was negative in your life that’s okay. Force yourself to find five. If you can’t find five try a little harder. If you can’t find five try a little harder and what happens is by the end of a month – it’s only a one month assignment –  you’re going to have 150 examples of positive things that happened in your day, in your world, in your life. And as a negative person I want you to look and say I see the world negatively at all times. I think everything’s bad and you know doomsday is happening. But you see those 150 examples of positive good things that happened in your life and I want you to really look at it and really start to challenge your mindset and say, “Wait, is the life I have as negative as I think it is? Are the situations I’m in as negative as I think they are? Or is there some positivity in my life?” And what happens is, the more you start to focus on the positive side something really cool is going to happen. The world is going to start showing up more positively. There’s a couple quotes in when I talk about perspective I always share. They’re both by Wayne Dyer. The first one is, “Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world.” Same world. The second one is, “When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.” So there it is for you. When it comes to your perspective if you’re a negative person it’s all a mindset thing. I could find happiness and peace anywhere if I choose to, anywhere in any given moment. And early on in recovery I was trained by somebody that told me, “in recovery we only have good days and better days. We don’t have any bad days.” And he said, “A bad day is when you close your eyes and you take a walk down memory lane to a time and place in which you were depressed, hopeless, helpless, lost under the influence of drugs. People don’t trust you. Those are bad days. Everything else now is just good or better.” We can experience some painful life experiences but they don’t have to dictate the perspective we view life in. It’s just a moment in time so remember you have the choice of the perspective you choose in all given situations. 


Let me see. There’s a comment here somewhere. “We’re born into environments that most of us become part of.” That could be family, friends, I mean we’re communal by nature. That’s why we’re born into it, by the way Allan, but later on in life, the beauty of it is that we get to create our own environments. We get to create who we want in our space, why we want them where we want to go. Our environment. We have actually a little sense of control over it and that’s why I always say choose your environment wisely and the people you hang out with and the energy that you give to those people, cherish it. Just because we’re born into something doesn’t mean we’re going to be doomed with it. Jessica: “Oh wow, I’m late.” It’s okay, you’re never late, you’re on time. Go back and watch it 30 minutes and repeat, you’ll be good.


  1. The next one we have here was procrastination. We all know what that is. It’s an avoidance pattern. It’s not something you just picked up. It’s something you’ve had for a very very very long time. It’s almost always rooted in fear. Fear of the outcome, fear of failure, and the thought that in a future life experience you’re going to have the motivation to do what you don’t want to do right now. It’s categorically false. If you don’t want to do it now you ain’t going to do it in the future. If anything, when you have to do it in the future you’re pressed against something called time, you’re pressed against something called pressure. It’s not as easy to do it. I’m guilty of it sometimes. My life gets so damn busy that I don’t procrastinate by choice. I do it because the last minute is all I had free to do it and I put myself in a bind sometimes but I’m always working on it to be more proactive about it and I hope you do the same. You got to really dive deep into why you procrastinate. It’s not just because you’re lazy. When people tell me they’re lazy I just say, “No man, you’re not lazy. You lack focus and motivation. You lack a sense of urgency.” So procrastination has nothing to do with laziness. It’s a deeper psychological thing that has to do with avoidance patterns. And then if you want to figure out why. Just look back into your history and find out when and where you started avoiding, why were you avoiding it, and you’ll realize that it happened at a time in your life when your brain was developing. So procrastination becomes a part of your life. You think it’s who you are but it really isn’t. It was just a maladaptive way of dealing with the anxiety you had around getting things done. 


  1. Lack of persistence. Persistence is what makes every single thing become real. Some people go and apply for a job and they send it off and they wait. Two weeks later I’m like, “What happened with the job?” “Well, they never called me.” “That’s it? You just applied and called?” and it’s like, “Yeah, I applied to five different places and no one’s calling me back.” I’ll tell you guys this. I teach at Saddleback as you guys know and I went through my emails and from 2015 I was emailing the department that I’m working in and various people there. Some of them are no longer there. Some of them passed away. Some of them, I just said, “I really want to teach in this department,” and it took me seven years of sending emails and going and being a guest speaker for free, and letting them know why I want to do this, to get a job interview. And it took me a year and a half after that to get a class assigned. And if somebody says, “Oh I applied to the college. I never got a call back. I really want to teach there. I had a reference letter and nobody called me,” I’m like, “Alright, that’s cool.” The persistence it takes to get things done in life has to be almost obsessive. And that’s with everything. The persistence we need in order to get things done has to be obsessive or else your life will not be what you want it to be like. Think about all the people that had ideas like the Starbucks, the KFCs, all these stories that are out there. It wasn’t just like, “Oh we created this brand man, it was a failure forever until it wasn’t.” Sometimes there’s artists – I like this artist I’m going to go watch in June. His name is Russ. Big in his own world and a lot of lot of diehard fans. He tours the world and he’s a big deal. He always talks. He has a book and he said, “Man, I used to do shows in front of 30 people, 40 people.” He makes all his own stuff and you know he he’d wake up in the morning hoping his songs have some views on them. There’s like 300 of them. He’s like, “yeah I’m doing it!” Now it’s millions and millions and millions of people and hundreds of million views on his songs and stuff like that. And if someone doesn’t know they’re like, “Oh this guy man, he worked his butt off for 10 years before anyone even knew who he was.” It’s all documented you know and that’s some of the stuff I’m doing with this, by the way, these talks. It’s one of the goals that I have one day, so as you guys know, is to become a senior professional pickleball singles player which happens at the age of 50. So I’m 10 years away but I also want to travel across the country and I want to do personal development seminars and workshops. And when I have those pickleball tournaments I’m gonna find cities that I’m competing in and the few days before it I’m going to do a workshop out wherever I’m at. But this is my training ground. I have all these documented videos of me sitting in living rooms and talking fast and talking slow and being emotional and lecturing about personal development. And if one day I’m on one of those stages somewhere talking to people in a random state and they’re like, “Oh this guy’s such a good speaker,
    or “It’s a really good talk and we should go sign up for whatever it is,” whatever happens in that world, someone sees it and they say, “Oh it’d be really nice to do what he’s doing, to go talk the way he talks.” Yeah it would be, but it’s like since 2013 I was talking to people, and that’s what it takes sometimes to get really good at something. I hope you understand that because if you don’t you’re going to fail at what it is you want to do.


  1. And the very last one I have here is the lack of ability to make decisions. When you ask somebody, “Where do you want to go?” and they say, “I don’t know, what do you want to eat?” “I don’t know, what do you want?” “I don’t know.” That’s going to cause failure in life because here’s the thing. Everyone knows where they want to go, what they want to do, what they want to eat. They know what they like, they know their preferences, and when given the opportunity, when asked, they don’t know. So that’s going to cause an impact in every area of life because you’re never going to know how to make a decision. That will transform your life. Be decisive. Some people say, what if I make a decision and I’m wrong? Good, at least you’ll know sooner rather than later. At least you didn’t waste this thing called time and life being indecisive. So lack of ability to make decisions. Significant with people that fail.


Hopefully today was cool! I mean, I enjoyed it. Hope you guys enjoyed it too. If you have any questions, comments, concerns, feel free to send me a text or an email or a call. Love and appreciate all of you! We will be back next week, same time, same place. Adios! Bye everyone!

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.