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2 Keys to Change: Practice Saying No. Do Something Everyday

I don’t know if some of you probably know this person but Warren Buffett is one of the world’s richest people and Warren Buffett has been quoted to say that “The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people have learned how to say no to almost everything.” There’s a lot of people reading this that are trying to be very successful in the changes that they’re trying to make in their life but as soon as they get an offer to go do something, as soon as someone asks them to go do something, as soon as something comes on the TV that they’ve been wanting or needing to watch, as soon as they get distracted by shiny objects, they say no to themselves and yes to all of that. Then they sit back wondering how come I’m not becoming very successful in the change I’m trying to make.

If you say Yes to everyone else

Because if you say Yes to everyone else you’re saying No to yourself. I’m telling you this as a family member or a person watching this firsthand or secondhand going through addictions, this is what you have to know if you are trying to make changes in your life. You must put yourself first, put yourself second, put yourself third, put everything else underneath you. And here’s the reason why. Because for everything and everyone you put above you you remove yourself from the equation. You disconnect yourself from yourself. If you’re disconnected from yourself, if you are not a priority in your own life you will not be able to become very successful at the changes you’re trying to make. You might have momentary moments of success but they won’t sustain long term. A lot of you who come from dysfunctional homes, chaotic homes, there’s a lot of codependency in your DNA because of the way you were brought up. You feel bad when you say no and you gotta stop that. I know you think that people care as much as you think they do if you say no to their request. I know you think that they’re going to be offended or they’re going to judge you. But trust me when I tell you this. Outside of a moment in a conversation they do not care because the same way that you are always thinking about yourself and your loved ones and your child or your spouse or your work or your bank account or your fridge or your laundry so is everyone else, and when everyone else is thinking about themselves and their lives guess who and what they’re not thinking about? You in your life. So put yourself first. If you’re trying to make changes in your life and allow yourself to become a more polished, powerful, empowered version of yourself and then let that person go help if and when appropriate. 

So keep No in your vocabulary. If you’re trying to make changes. Make ‘No’ one of the most commonly used words of your vocabulary. I’m not saying forever, but at least in the initial stages of trying to make lasting change.

Are you Willing to do something Everyday?

This is the key element. You will never be able to change anything in your life until you are willing to do something for what it is you’re trying to change every day. Some people say, “Whoa whoa whoa whoa everything was good until now but you just said I got to do something every day.” Yes, and here’s the reason why. Because prior to making the change whatever you were doing you were doing it every day. Therefore the only way to counteract, the only way to actually intervene and make sustainable changes that you’re desperately wanting to make, is to do something for that change every day. I want you to hear this. Don’t get overwhelmed. I’m not saying you have to do 10 things for it every day. Even one thing, even a small incremental step, as long as it’s in the direction of that change is good enough. Perfect is the enemy of good enough. You don’t got to do this thing perfectly. You’re going to fall, you’re going to fail, you’re gonna struggle. Just get up and continue moving in that direction. 

 

In order to make changes in your life you got to learn how to say No, stop being a Yes man. Start saying No. And in order to make changes in your life you must do something every day for what it is you’re trying to change, because you are living your life the same damn way every day, and in order to make changes you got to do something every day.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.