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EMDR Therapy for Enhanced Brain Health

Are you or someone you know struggling with addiction? At Buckeye Recovery Network, we are committed to helping individuals overcome the complex challenges of addiction. We offer comprehensive outpatient addiction treatment services in Huntington Beach, CA, where we utilize innovative therapies like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. In this comprehensive article, we will delve deeper into how EMDR therapy can have a profoundly positive impact on your brain health.

Understanding EMDR Therapy

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is an evidence-based psychotherapy approach developed to help individuals process distressing memories and overcome emotional trauma. This transformative therapy focuses on the intricate connections between memories, emotions, and physical sensations, ultimately promoting profound healing and resilience.

EMDR and Brain Health: The Connection

The link between EMDR therapy and brain health is backed by substantial research and empirical evidence. Here’s a closer look at how EMDR therapy can significantly enhance cognitive and emotional well-being:

  • Neuroplasticity: EMDR therapy harnesses the brain’s remarkable ability to rewire itself, facilitating the formation of healthier neural pathways. This neuroplasticity is instrumental in the recovery process.
  • Emotional Regulation: Through systematic processing of traumatic memories, EMDR therapy helps individuals gain better control over their emotions, reducing symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress.
  • Trauma Resolution: One of the most striking aspects of EMDR therapy is its efficacy in processing traumatic memories. By reducing the emotional charge associated with these memories, it mitigates the long-term impact on the brain’s functioning.
  • Improved Focus: Enhanced brain health often translates into improved concentration and mental clarity, allowing individuals to engage more fully in their daily lives and recovery journey.
  • Enhanced Self-esteem: As emotional wounds heal through EMDR therapy, individuals frequently experience an increase in self-esteem and self-confidence, enabling them to face challenges with renewed strength.

EMDR Therapy at Buckeye Recovery Network

At Buckeye Recovery Network, we take pride in offering expert EMDR therapy as an integral part of our comprehensive addiction treatment programs. Our team of licensed therapists is extensively trained in EMDR techniques, ensuring a safe and supportive environment for your healing journey.

Real-World Impact of EMDR Therapy

Let’s take a closer look at the real-world impact of EMDR therapy on brain health:

  • A study published in the Journal of Traumatic Stress found that EMDR therapy significantly reduced the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in veterans, showcasing its efficacy in trauma resolution.
  • According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), integrated approaches like EMDR therapy play a crucial role in addressing co-occurring mental health and substance use disorders, ultimately promoting brain health and long-term recovery.

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If you’re ready to prioritize your brain health and embark on a transformative journey to recovery, reach out to Buckeye Recovery Network today. Our compassionate and highly skilled team is here to support you every step of the way. Don’t let addiction hold you back from living a fulfilling life—take the first step towards a healthier future now.

FAQs

EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, is a psychotherapy approach that helps individuals process traumatic memories and emotional trauma. It utilizes bilateral stimulation to facilitate memory reprocessing.

While EMDR therapy can be highly effective, it is often used in conjunction with other evidence-based addiction treatment modalities for comprehensive care.

EMDR therapy is generally considered safe, but some individuals may experience temporary emotional distress during or after a session. Your therapist will closely monitor your progress.

EMDR sessions typically last between 60 to 90 minutes, depending on individual needs and the complexity of the issues being addressed.

EMDR therapy may not be suitable for individuals with certain severe psychiatric conditions. A qualified therapist will assess your suitability for this therapy during an initial evaluation to ensure it aligns with your unique needs and goals.

Get Spectacular Growth with these 3 Principles

If you don’t learn from your past experience you’re bound to repeat them. There are many Eastern traditions and philosophies that say the lesson will repeat itself until the student learns the lesson, and if you are someone in life that has experienced something multiple times in your life, whether it’s getting in a relationship with somebody that had red flags, whether it’s engaging with risky or impulsive behavior despite knowing the consequences, whether it’s taking highly addictive and powerful substances to regulate your emotions, if you don’t learn the lesson it will repeat itself, and then you have to ask yourself the following question. Do I want my past to continue in my future? If the answer is No, reflect on your experiences and do something about it. If you don’t care and you want to live same s___, different year, and you want that Groundhogs Day effect and you want tomorrow to look like yesterday, and next year to look like last year, and next decade to look like last decade, by all means keep doing your thing. It’ll happen for you.

We talked about the Top 4 Keys for Growth in a previous post. And the 3 Key Insights about Growth in another post. Here we will discuss 3 principles to get spectacular growth in the new year.

1. Take Responsibility for your Growth

By default you must take responsibility for this thing called growth. We have to, we must and a time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man or woman you want to become and start being the man and woman you want to be. So there’s a time in your life – it’s going to come – I don’t know when that is – it might be in this very moment right now, it might be down the line, but there is a moment in your life that you’re going to look at yourself and you’re going to say, “I can’t wait anymore to become the person it is that I know I want to become.” The time is now. I hope that moment comes for you so much. I really hope that you get struck by that moment and guess what, that moment that we realize that this isn’t it, and I want to become something more.

Starting to take responsibility usually comes from:

#1, The Gift of Desperation

#2, The Gift of Inspiration

Desperation is painful, it’s dark, backs against the wall. We do some good work there. Inspiration is a little bit more mellow, cool, calm, collected. 

 

The now is all we ever have so I tell people the future don’t even exist, and they say, “dude, you’re crazy, what do you mean it doesn’t exist?” I’m like alright, let’s do an experiment. When is it right now? They’re like, “September 23rd 9:46 a.m.” I’m like, “alright cool, now what’s this future you’re talking about? They’re like “alright what about Friday? Next Saturday is the future.” I’m like, “yeah so when it’s next Saturday and I ask them what time is it now?” They say, “Well it’s September 30th.” And it’s now. 

 

You see, the future is just a bunch of Nows that accumulate together and they create this thing called tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, because when those times come they’re not the future, they’re the now again. So by living the now in the best possible way, headed in the right direction towards our goals, dreams, ambitions, not headed in a certain direction of things that hinder us, when the future arrives it’s going to work out somewhere relatively close to what we want. Rarely ever is it exact. If you’re expecting perfection it’s not going to happen but it comes out very, very similar. There’s a really cool clock that is out there and on every hour of it so where it says one, two, three, four, five, six, all the way through it just says now, now, now, now, now. So it’s like what time is it? It’s now.

2. Buy into the Hot Poker Principle

The hot poker principle says make sure that you look around and carefully assess your closest associates or the closest people you hang out with or the closest connections you have in life and why is it important to do so? Because that is exactly the direction you are headed. So see who you hang out with, what you expose your mind to, what you put into your body, what you do X Y and Z. Look at your environment, do a whole 360 analysis, do a PET scan, CAT scan, CT scan, all that kind of stuff. Do the most deep dive you can and once you gather that data just know that’s where you’re headed. 

 

If you are like me you want to head to places that you want to go, places that you want to get to. I listen to great audiobooks and podcasts and I watch really good things that stimulate my mind on television, usually in documentary form, educational variety. I like to go to great places and I like to go see great things, and I like to surround myself with greatness. It’s not that I want to become X Y and Z but if I do so I head in that direction and become my version of whatever that life is going to be like. But it’s inspired through that, so the hot poker is like we get as hot as our environment allows us to get, and by the way on the flip side of it, if you are constantly hanging out with people who are toxic, cold, distant, shut off, argumentative, they complain a lot, what do you think’s going to happen to you? You think you’re going to thrive in that environment? You think you’re going to accomplish all your goals, dreams, ambitions, take responsibility for your growth? 

3. Determine which Areas in your Life you need to Grow

You don’t need me or a high level psychologist or a very profound deep analytical thinker to tell you what areas in your life you need to grow. Take a look at your life, take a look at all the different areas, total well-being, mind, body, spirit, relationships, and then just ask yourself, “am I satisfied with who and what I am right now?” If the answer is yes you’re probably doing something fairly well for yourself. If the answer is no, you say, “okay then who and what do I want to be in all these areas: mind, body, spirit, soul, emotions, relationships?”

Vision Gap is the gap from where you are to where you want to be.

Growth allows you to go from here to there, but remember in order to do so you can’t cruise or coast or everyone will do it. You must climb and once you develop it it’s on you. Your responsibility, your life, your choices. This post, by the way, was inspired by a guy named John Maxwell who is way more popular and famous in the world of personal development than most people. But it’s someone that I look to for inspiration and I’ve learned a lot from him for leadership to run a business, to treat employees, also to apply in personal recovery. So the beauty of these personal development talks when we do them is not just that they apply to life of recovery. They also apply to life. I want everybody watching this to be able to say, “Hey, last year when I heard that talk on growth till this year, I’ve actually made some growth in my life”

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

3 Key Insights about Growth in the New Year

You might have heard about the Mamba Mentality. Mamba Mentality means one’s constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself. So the constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself. Many of us come into this world and we always compare ourselves to someone else and the problem is we compare our insides to somebody else’s outsides. Somebody else has a package that seems alluring and like wow, but on the inside I feel lost, stolen, afraid, broke. How do I achieve that when we don’t know those individuals on the inside might have certain feelings? So comparison is dangerous, expectations are dangerous, so what’s the best way to do it? Just a constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself.

 

We talked about the Top 4 Keys for Growth in a previous post. Here we will discuss 3 key insights for getting consistent growth in the new year.

1. Growth equals Change and Change equals Growth

You will never change something in your life until you’re willing to do something for that thing every single day. You might be saying, “whoa dude that’s a little too excessive.” Well, I’ll ask you this question. What is it you want to change in your life? And you might come off with three, four, five different areas and I say, “okay, how long have you been struggling with this?” and some of you might say a couple years, some of you might say a decade, some of you might say my whole life. Well, do you as an adult, realistically think that something you’ve been struggling with for days, years, decades, can just all of a sudden change by just kind of doing a little here and doing a little there and putting a little effort here and putting a little effort there? No, you will never change anything you want to change in life unless you’re willing to do something for that every single day until it becomes the new version of who you are. Then you don’t have to try anymore, because it’s what you do and who you are and what you stand for and how you live your life. 

 

To go from where you are to where you want to be, yes you have to do something every day for that to change. If you don’t it won’t. How do I know? Go look at your own past, go look at everybody else that’s trying to change things in life, and you’ll catch a very interesting theme – they all lack consistency – every last one of them lacks consistency. And if you’re not willing to do that right now my friends, here’s the question for you. I don’t need an answer.

If not now, when? When are you going to start to do something every day for the things in your life you want to change?

Is the answer next week, next month, next year, next decade, for some of you maybe in the next lifetime? It’s none of my business which one you choose but you must answer that question to yourself – if not now, then when?

2. Growth on the Inside Fuels Growth on the Outside

A man or a woman who is at peace with themselves is at peace with the world and all the people, places and things in it. When you are having a problem with something or someone out there, sometimes there is a problem with something or someone out there, but oftentimes there is a disconnection with self that is taking that person, place, situation and it is changing it and it is warping it and it is adapting it to something that’s eating you away. It takes up space in your head but it doesn’t pay you rent. It takes up your bandwidth and it doesn’t give you any energy. So what you want to do is always find out how you can grow on the inside emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, and the question to always ask when you’re just trying to work on yourself and improve is not “what am I getting from this,” but “what am I becoming?” Not what do I get from these talks or from these groups or from these sessions or from whatever, but what am I becoming, who am I becoming? And that person that I’m becoming, where is he or she headed to? It’s not about what we get but what we become, what we transform into.

You can’t walk 10 miles into the woods and expect to walk out in a mile.

I truly believe in that – we don’t get places overnight, nor we will get out of them overnight. Shed the ego and grow the soul. The ego is not your Amigo, and the soul grows pretty beautifully. When we give it the right nutrients and put it in the right environment and keep it around this therapeutic space and surround it with people that kind of also do the same, the soul feels something pretty cool. We feel it grow moment by moment, sometimes it’s like a warmth to it, there’s a beauty to it.

3. If What you did Yesterday still looks Big to you Today you aren't Growing

I call this the Al Bundy syndrome. Some of the younger cats might not know who and what I’m talking about but there was a show in the late 80s, early 90s called Married with Children. I was a young child, I was not allowed to watch it but I would secretly sneak and watch it all the time because it was funny. Al Bundy is the main character and he’s a shoe salesman, which I don’t know – poor guy in the show – gets such a bad rap for being a shoe salesman. It’s an honorable role – you can actually go work in a department store, make probably more than a therapist can selling shoes. But for whatever reason they made fun of him for that. So he was like a failure in life and drank beer, sat on the couch, watched TV, really wasn’t thriving, but what Al Bundy would do was back when he was 17 or 18 years old, when he was in high school he was a quarterback and he threw like four touchdowns in one game and and that’s the highlight of his life. 

 

So my friends, if what you did yesterday still looks big to you today then that means you’re not growing. If what you did last year still seems big to you today that means you’re not growing. If what you did last decade still seems big to you today then you’re not growing. And vice versa, a year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now, wherever you are in life right now can’t look big – you have not arrived. This is not it. We do live in a moment by moment by moment interaction with life.

In life our head can be in the clouds but you have to make sure that your feet are planted firmly on the ground.

But this isn’t it. There is a version of your life that comes with improved relationships with others. There’s a version of your life that comes with an improved relationship to yourself. There’s a version of your life that you’re feeling more fulfilled because you’re doing things you’re passionate about, you’re engaged in life because there is that version that hasn’t happened yet. So don’t settle for this version – get that one. And guess what, if I’m ever lucky enough to talk to you when you’re there I’ll let you know that ain’t it. And here’s the thing, I’m not one of those people that says, when you get somewhere then you have to get somewhere else. Whenever you arrive somewhere that you worked your butt for, make sure you stand there confidently, you look at the view and look around you, and just take in the beauty.

Don’t minimize success. Don’t minimize the little victories in life.

Sometimes without those and acknowledging them we can’t build upon them to get bigger ones. So if you’re a young person in recovery right now and you’re like, “hey, I just got to my 30, 60 days, 90 days man,” celebrate that! Not with alcohol and drugs, celebrate that look at who you were 30-60-90 days ago, and the darkness and the despair you were experiencing, and look where you’re at now. But this ain’t it. When you get to a year sober, two years sober, three years sober, you’ll look back at this and be like, when you get there that ain’t it either.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Top 4 Keys for Growth in the New Year

There are a lot of people in life, especially in recovery, that have a hard time with consistency. They’re good at doing things once or twice or 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, if you’re lucky but then they fall off. So I want to be able to talk about and teach about what are some keys that you can Implement in your life that will help you become more consistent. And the main catalyst to that is to have the constant quest for growth. 

Here are the top 4 Keys for Consistent Growth.

1. Growth is not an Automatic Process

Just because you start something and the calendar days go by and the pages go from one week to one month to two months to three months just because you’ve started it and some time has gone by that does not mean that you automatically will grow as a byproduct of that. There are people that do something for 90 days and after 90 days they’re exactly the same person 90 days removed, that’s it. So how do we know if we are actually growing in the process of the things that we start? It’s actually quite simple.

You are on the road to success if it feels like it’s uphill all the way, yes all the way.

Now don’t get me wrong. There might be times in your climb that you have to rest and you have to look at the view and look at the perspective and say, “Wow, look how far I’ve come,” but if you want to succeed it’s going to be uphill all the way. I’ve said this before and trust me, I’ll say it again. A lot of people have uphill dreams but they have downhill habits. A lot of people want to get to the top of the mountain but instead of climbing they coast. Last I checked nobody’s ever coasted their way to the top of the mountain – you must climb. So if you’re on the path and the road of success feels like it’s uphill all the time, and when you get psychologically, emotionally, physically burned out you don’t just jump back down. You go on a resting stop. 

 

Have you ever seen people climb Mount Everest uphill the whole time? They’re stopping and resting and sleeping and going to the bathroom and eating and just kind of cruise controlling but they ain’t ever cruising their way to the top of that mountain. So if you look at your life and say, “I’m just kind of coasting,” just know you ain’t coasting anywhere good. So if you want to grow you have to set time aside for it – it’s not automatic. 

 

Left to our everyday devices we have evolved into something completely unnatural to us. Human beings have evolved into this thing called human doings. Most of us identify with the things we do, not with who we are, and because we do and do and do and do, sometimes out of necessity and survival, and sometimes out of programming and conditioning, we forget that sometimes you have to pause. You got to sit, you got to reflect and look at the human being that’s doing all that doing, and set a time for growth. Set aside some time for growth. We owe it to ourselves.

2. Growth is the Great Separator amongst Those who Succeed and Those who do Not

For example, if two people go on a path at the very same time, let’s say two people go on a path of recovery. 90 days later, six months later one of them might be making significant progress in growth when it comes to their health, their family dynamics and relationships, potentially their ability to obtain and maintain employment. And another person who came in at the same time has the same amount of time away from substances, but after 90 days or six months, they do not have any type of progress in those areas. Growth is the separator between those who succeed and those who do not.

The capacity to develop and improve skills distinguishes leaders and followers.

So if you’re trying to become a leader whether it’s a thought leader, whether it’s a leader in your industry, whether it’s a leader in your recovery community, whether it’s a leader amongst a house of individuals who are trying to get their life better in a structured home, whether you’re just trying to become something more than the previous version of yourself, if you don’t actually grow you’re never going to separate yourself from other people. If somebody played one hour of piano everyday and somebody played one hour of piano three times a week, and on week one it’s not that much difference, yeah one person had four more hours. In four weeks still not that much of a difference, yeah that guy practiced 16 hours more than the other person right? In 52 weeks one person practiced 200 hours more than the other person. In 10 years, one person played 2,000 hours more than the other person. The separation becomes astronomical. So what you do consistently every day will increase the growth gap and just imagine applying that to all areas of your life, my friends.

3. Growth takes Time but the Passing of Time does not equal Growth

Experience doesn’t mean anything. And you might be saying, “Whoa man, what do you mean experience doesn’t mean anything? I’m an experienced person. I’ve been through a lot, I’ve seen a lot, I’ve heard it all. How does my experience not have any value?” Because how many people go through an experience and then repeat that experience again and again and again and again? You see, if experience alone meant anything, that means we won’t have to go through the vicious cycle over and over again. 

 

So how does experience become important? When it is reflected upon. Reflected experience is the most valuable asset you can have. It’ll increase your insight into your own self, your own behavior, your own processes with the intention of creating a different outcome. If you do not reflect upon your experience your experience is worthless. If you are someone who’s going through addiction, recovery, mental illness, if you go through an experience that leads you to be emotionally triggered, to be dysregulated, and you end up using substances as a result of it, that experience you went through is meaningless unless you find out why, how, when, where. Reflect on it so therefore the next time you get sober again you use all of that reflected experience to prevent, and hopefully change, the outcome. Because if you don’t it will happen again, just like everything else in life. 

Reflective thinking turns experience into insight.

Insight is a really powerful thing, and I always like to say that some people say, “hey man, I can’t stop thinking. I think all the time.” Reflection and thinking are two different things. When we think and overthink and worry it is almost always future-based things we have no control over, outcomes that we have no control over, situations that we have no control over. We spin out, we spiral out of control. We ruminate on it, it becomes incessive, and sometimes we even start to get physically sick from all the worry. Reflection is past-based – it’s on things that have already happened. You reflect back on it and do reflective thinking. You gather information, you use that information, you apply it to the future with the intention of changing your outcome. 

4. The More we Grow the More we Know we Need to Grow

When we’re thinking about the future, the illiterate of the future is not the person that can’t read and write for the most part. At least if you’re watching this and you’re engaged in some type of life I have a good feeling that you can read and write at some level, that’s not it. The illiterate of the future is someone who can’t learn something in life but then says, “Hey, I really got to unlearn this because it comes from a really bad place. It comes from dysfunction and then once you unlearn it you have to relearn the proper one.

The illiterate of the future is not someone who can’t read or write but it is someone who can’t learn, unlearn and then relearn.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

10 Keys to Consistent Growth in Recovery and Life

What’s up, Pacific Sands Recovery and whoever’s there, I know a few of you guys at least are looking forward to being here on this Saturday September 23rd of 2023, and today we’re going to be talking a little bit about how we can be consistent in our life how we can grow in our life in various areas such as our emotional well-being, our physical well-being, our mental well-being, our spiritual well-being, how we can go from where we are in life to where we want to be.

 

So my name is Parham. I’m your weekly host of this talk. We do this pretty much each and every single Saturday. If you ever missed me live, all of our videos can be found on YouTube under our Live section – they’re all pre-recorded. And this is an interactive hour so we kind of go through and you can ask your questions. When you do write things for me I can always pull them up. For example, when the Flahertys said Good Morning I could put the comment up here, or if it’s a question I could put the question up. I do my best to answer all of your questions to make it feel kind of interactive. We got Eileen from Miami Beach, what’s up? So I do have a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. I am a licensed Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor. I am in recovery myself since June 13th of 2008, a long time but it’s not really the quantity of the years but the quality of the days. So today I’m having some good days. And Katalin, my friend, what is up? Keep on coming back. So this channel, if you’re wondering what it’s for, we talk about various things. The main concept behind it is for anyone who firsthand or secondhand has experienced pain as a result of addictions, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss. I think that captures a pretty wide net of human beings and experiences and the goal is for you to get some education, get some information, get some (potentially) knowledge that would increase your insight into your own behaviors, inspire you to change your patterns and behaviors, and ultimately create a life that you want. Not a life that’s based in your past and all the experiences you’ve had but a life that you can create moving forward. Oh this is cool man, so we got Bita as always, but also we got Ricky from the forge, man, hey I’m happy, thank you for putting this up on Saturdays, I’m truly grateful for it. I hope that this talk can provide a little bit of – I don’t know – a little bit of value to the participants over there. That’s wonderful though, I appreciate that. So let’s get to it and let’s get to today’s talk.

 

Today we are talking about 10 keys to consistent growth. Now there’s a lot of people in life, especially in recovery, that have a hard time with consistency. They’re good at doing things once or twice or 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, if you’re lucky but then they fall off. So I want to be able to talk about and teach about what are some keys that you can Implement in your life that will help you become more consistent. And the main catalyst to that is to have the constant quest for growth. In this channel sometimes we talk about something called Mamba mentality and mamba mentality means one’s constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself. Hey Aviva Joon, what’s up? Love listening to me? Well, I love you listening to me, I like that. So the constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself. Many of us come into this world and we always compare ourselves to someone else and the problem is we compare our insides to somebody else’s outsides. Somebody else has a package that seems alluring and like wow, but on the inside I feel lost, stolen, afraid, broke. How do I achieve that when we don’t know those individuals on the inside might have certain feelings? So comparison is dangerous, expectations are dangerous, so what’s the best way to do it? Man, just a constant quest to be one’s best version of yourself, and it’s a very easy way to measure it. So what we are going to do right now is get into these 10 keys for growth.

 

  1. Starting with number one. Growth is not an automatic process. Just because you start something and the calendar days go by and the pages go from one week to one month to two months to three months just because you’ve started it and some time has gone by that does not mean that you automatically will grow as a byproduct of that. There are people that do something for 90 days and after 90 days they’re exactly the same person 90 days removed, that’s it. So how do we know if we are actually growing in the process of the things that we start? It’s actually quite simple that you are on the road to success if it feels like it’s uphill all the way, yes all the way. Now don’t get me wrong there might be times in your climb that you got to go rest and you got to just kind of look at the view and look at the perspective and say, “wow, look how far I’ve come,” but if you want to succeed it’s going to be uphill all the way. I’ve said this before and trust me, I’ll say it again. A lot of people have uphill dreams but they have downhill habits. A lot of people want to get to the top of the mountain but instead of climbing they coast. Last I checked nobody’s ever coasted their way to the top of the mountain – you must climb. So if you’re on the path and the road of success feels like it’s uphill all the time, and when you get psychologically, emotionally, physically burned out you don’t just jump back down. You go on a resting stop. You ever see people climb Mount Everest uphill the whole time? They’re stopping and resting and sleeping and going to the bathroom and eating and just kind of cruise controlling but they ain’t ever cruising their way to the top of that mountain. So if you look at your life and say, “I’m just kind of coasting,” just know you ain’t coasting anywhere good. Good morning Mom and Dad, always a pleasure! Good Morning JD, holding it down man, appreciate you! So if you want to grow you got to set time aside for it – it’s not automatic. So left to our everyday devices we have evolved into something completely unnatural to us. Human beings have evolved into this thing called human doings. Most of us identify with the things we do, not with who we are, and because we do and do and do and do, sometimes out of necessity and survival, and sometimes out of programming and conditioning, we forget that sometimes you got to pause. You got to sit, you got to reflect and look at the human being that’s doing all that doing, and set a time for growth. Set aside some time for growth. We owe it to ourselves.

 

If you’re new by the way, I put up different topics, I talk about it. If you have a question about it feel free to ask it. Let me close these blinds – they are making little spots on my face. Alright, well we’re just gonna have that little distraction light. It’s always good to be a little distracted in life, nothing is perfect my friends.

 

  1. The next one we have is number two – this one you’ll identify with a lot. Growth is the great separator amongst those who succeed and those who do not. So for example, if two people go on a path at the very same time, let’s say two people go on a path of recovery. 90 days later, six months later one of them might be making significant progress in growth when it comes to their health, their family dynamics and relationships, potentially their ability to obtain and maintain employment. And another person who came in at the same time has the same amount of time away from substances, but after 90 days or six months, they do not have any type of progress in those areas. Growth is the separator between those who succeed and those who do not. So sometimes I like to read quotes that stand out to me. “The capacity to develop and improve skills distinguishes leaders and followers.” So if you’re trying to become a leader whether it’s a thought leader, whether it’s a leader in your industry, whether it’s a leader in your recovery community, whether it’s a leader amongst a house of individuals who are trying to get their life better in a structured home, whether you’re just trying to become something more than the previous version of yourself, if you don’t actually grow you’re never going to separate yourself from other people. If somebody played one hour of piano everyday and somebody played one hour of piano three times a week, and on week one it’s not that much difference, yeah one person had four more hours. In four weeks still not that much of a difference, yeah that guy practiced 16 hours more than the other person right? In 52 weeks one person practiced 200 hours more than the other person. In 10 years, one person played 2,000 hours more than the other person. The separation becomes astronomical. So what you do consistently every day will increase the growth gap and just imagine applying that to all areas of your life, my friends.

 

  1. So the next one we got here is, Growth takes time but the passing of time does not equal growth. So there’s some invisible slaps I hit here. So we’ll read that one again – growth takes time but the passing of time does not equal growth, and now this one is something that rubs people the wrong way. You ready? This next statement that I have is going to rub people the wrong way and here it is. Experience doesn’t mean anything. And you might be saying, “Whoa man, what do you mean experience doesn’t mean anything? I’m an experienced person. I’ve been through a lot, I’ve seen a lot, I’ve heard it all. How does my experience not have any value?” Because how many people go through an experience and then repeat that experience again and again and again and again? You see, if experience alone meant anything, that means we won’t have to go through the vicious cycle over and over again. So how does experience become important? When it is reflected upon. Reflected experience is the most valuable asset you can have. It’ll increase your insight into your own self, your own behavior, your own processes with the intention of creating a different outcome. If you do not reflect upon your experience your experience is worthless. If you are someone who’s going through addiction, recovery, mental illness, if you go through an experience that leads you to be emotionally triggered, to be dysregulated, and you end up using substances as a result of it, that experience you went through is meaningless unless you find out why, how, when, where. Reflect on it so therefore the next time you get sober again you use all of that reflected experience to prevent, and hopefully change, the outcome. Because if you don’t it will happen again, just like everything else in life. Reflective thinking turns experience into insight. Insight’s a really powerful thing, and I always like to say that some people say, “hey man, I can’t stop thinking. I think all the time.” Reflection and thinking are two different things. When we think and overthink and worry it is almost always future-based things we have no control over, outcomes that we have no control over, situations that we have no control over. We spin out, we spiral out of control. We ruminate on it, it becomes incessive, and sometimes we even start to get physically sick from all the worry. Reflection is past-based – it’s on things that have already happened. You reflect back on it and do reflective thinking. You gather information, you use that information, you apply it to the future with the intention of changing your outcome. 

 

Got a couple comments here. Damn right! If you don’t learn from the past experience you’re bound to repeat them. 100% and what that whole learning from it is a part of the reflection I’m talking about. There are many Eastern traditions and philosophies that say the lesson will repeat itself until the student learns the lesson, and if you are someone in life that has experienced something multiple times in your life, whether it’s getting in a relationship with somebody that had red flags, whether it’s engaging with risky or impulsive behavior despite knowing the consequences, whether it’s taking highly addictive and powerful substances to regulate your emotions, if you don’t learn the lesson it will repeat itself, and then you got to ask yourself the following question. Do I want my past to continue in my future? If the answer is No, reflect on your experiences and do something about it. If you don’t care and you want to live same s___, different year, and you want that Groundhogs Day effect and you want tomorrow to look like yesterday, and next year to look like last year, and next decade to look like last decade, by all means keep doing your thing. It’ll happen for you.

 

Let’s see what Miss Katalin said. “I have a constant struggle of trying to grow and allowing myself to rest. The barrier between washes out and I act out in the moment. I sometimes don’t find the Midas touch.” So balance is an art, my friend, and I don’t think that there needs to be a struggle with finding it, okay? So what I like to do and hopefully this is going to help you also Katalin, is this. I know you’re specifically very task oriented, you’re very organized, you’re very cerebral, you have a certain type of educational background that makes you think a certain way, then what if you started to incorporate the rest and the self-care and the slowing down and the shutting off within the confines of a schedule that you’ve created, so you’re not just waiting to go all in and grow and then say okay I’m burned out, I need a little bit of rest. How about you get a little proactive about it, how about even when you feel like you don’t need too much rest you add a little self-care and rest in your day? That way the need for compulsion, to be compelled that I need to rest, I’m so fried, I’m burned out, goes away. Because you proactively address it. See, I’m really worried about the people that work so damn hard and then they get so burned out that they say, “I need a little bit of rest, how about we just rest in between on the way there, until we get to the end? And guess what, sometimes there’s days you need a little bit more and a little bit less, and that’s okay. But plan for it. Remember my thing about planning I learned from John Wooden? If you fail to plan then plan to fail. If you fail to plan in life then plan to fail. Great question, Katalin. It doesn’t need to be a struggle, my friend, you just need to find out what you can do to make it feel a little bit easier and lighter to stay on that path of growth. And too often the lesson gets more and more intense if not learned. Almost every time you want to know why by the way, if you don’t learn the lesson, because here’s the thing – the first time it happens you don’t know any different. So the first time you do something and you get burned, you get hurt, you get harmed, you get negatively impacted, you’re like, “what, I didn’t know any better, now I know.” But then if you don’t learn the lesson and it happens again not only does the same feeling happen but also now you have a little bit of something called guilt. Now you’re like, “oh man, I know better. Why did I keep doing this to myself? I should know better.” And then it happens again and again and again, all of those feelings of “I’m a failure, I can’t change, I can’t do it, I’ll never figure it out.” It just gets worse, the layers get worse and worse so the sooner you change the destructive patterns by doing some reflection on your experience to get a different outcome the less you’re going to worry about the intensity of how hard these lessons are later on in life.

 

  1. The next one we have (by the way any questions are welcome) – the next one we have it says, the more we grow the more we know we need to grow. Now this one comes with a really cool quote, you ready for this? It says, “The illiterate of the future is not someone who can’t read or write but it is someone who can’t learn, unlearn and then relearn.” Wow, so when we’re thinking about the future and your future, the illiterate of the future is not the person that can’t read and write for the most part. At least if you’re watching this and you’re engaged in some type of a life I have a good feeling that you can read and write at some level, that’s not it. The illiterate of the future is someone who can’t learn something in life but then say, “Hey, I really got to unlearn this because it comes from a really bad place. It comes from dysfunction and then once you unlearn it you got to relearn the proper one. 

 

Miss Jess, don’t be upset that you’re late. Better late than never, yes better early than late, but better late than never. And also life is life, right? Sometimes we get places on time, sometimes we don’t give yourself a little cushion, give yourself a little compassion. Listen to it from here, then go back and watch the first 20 minutes of me rambling, we’re all good. Happy to have you here, Vinnie, what’s up buddy? Hope everything’s good with you over there. Appreciate all the work you do helping the YouTube channel. Yeah, we got a lot of more subscribers because of Mr Vinnie over there, so thank you for your work.

 

  1. So the next one that I have here for you my friends is, growth equals change and change equals growth. So I’m gonna say something – I rarely talk in absolutes okay, I rarely talk in absolutes, like black and white, all or nothing. But you ready? You will never change something in your life until you’re willing to do something for that thing every single day. You might be saying, “whoa dude that’s a little too excessive.” Well, I’ll ask you this question. What is it you want to change in your life? And you might come off with three, four, five different areas and I say, “okay, how long have you been struggling with this?” and some of you might say a couple years, some of you might say a decade, some of you might say my whole life. Well, do you as an adult, realistically think that something you’ve been struggling with for days, years, decades, can just all of a sudden change by just kind of doing a little here and doing a little there and putting a little effort here and putting a little effort there? No, you will never change anything you want to change in life unless you’re willing to do something for that every single day until it becomes the new version of who you are. Then you don’t have to try anymore, because it’s what you do and who you are and what you stand for and how you live your life. So to go from where you are to where you want to be, yes you have to do something every day for that to change. If you don’t it won’t. How do I know? Go look at your own past, go look at everybody else that’s trying to change things in life, and you’ll catch a very very very interesting theme – they all lack consistency – every last one of them lacks consistency. And if you’re not willing to do that right now my friends, here’s the question for you. I don’t need an answer. If not now, when? So if not now, when? When are you going to start to do something every day for the things in your life you want to change? Is the answer next week, next month, next year, next decade, for some of you maybe in the next lifetime? It’s none of my business which one you choose but you must answer that question to yourself – if not now, then when?

 

  1. Alright, the next one we have here is, growth on the inside fuels growth on the outside. I’m a big believer that a man or a woman who is at peace with themselves is at peace with the world and all the people, places and things in it. When you are having a problem with something or someone out there, sometimes there is a problem with something or someone out there, but oftentimes there is a disconnection with self that is taking that person, place, situation and it is changing it and it is warping it and it is adapting it to something that’s eating you away. It takes up space in your head but it doesn’t pay you rent. It takes up your bandwidth and it doesn’t give you any energy. So what you want to do is always find out how you can grow on the inside emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, and the question to always ask when you’re just trying to work on yourself and improve is not “what am I getting from this,” but “what am I becoming?” Not what do I get from these talks or from these groups or from these sessions or from whatever, but what am I becoming, who am I becoming? And that person that I’m becoming, where is he or she headed to? It’s not about what we get but what we become, what we transform into.

 

Let’s see what we got here. There’s a comment. Dorothy, you said – first of all, Hi Dorothy! Second of all you can’t walk 10 miles into the woods and expect to walk out in a mile. Damn right! I truly believe in that – we don’t get places overnight, nor we will get out of them overnight. Shed the ego and grow the soul. Yeah the ego is not your Amigo Miss Katalin, and the soul grows pretty beautifully. When we give it the right nutrients and put it in the right environment and keep it around this therapeutic space and surround it with people that kind of also do the same, the soul feels something pretty cool. We feel it grow moment by moment, sometimes it’s like a warmth to it, there’s a beauty to it. So thank you for those comments.

 

  1. The next one we got here, number seven I think, I didn’t put one of these up but that’s okay. Number seven says, if what you did yesterday still looks big to you today you aren’t growing. I call this the Al Bundy syndrome. Some of the younger cats might not know who and what I’m talking about but there was a show in the late 80s, early 90s called Married with Children. I was a young child, I was not allowed to watch it but I would secretly sneak and watch it all the time because it was funny. My parents kind of knew but they didn’t know, that kind of stuff, because they kind of liked the show too. But long story short, Al Bundy is the main character and he’s a shoe salesman, which I don’t know – poor guy in the show – gets such a bad rap for being a shoe salesman. It’s an honorable role – you can actually go work in a department store, make probably more than a therapist can selling shoes. But for whatever reason they made fun of him for that. So he was like a failure in life and drank beer, sat on the couch, watched TV, really wasn’t thriving, but what Al Bundy would do was back when he was 17 or 18 years old, when he was in high school he was a quarterback and he threw like four touchdowns in one game and and that’s the highlight of his life. So my friends, if what you did yesterday still looks big to you today then that means you’re not growing. If what you did last year still seems big to you today that means you’re not growing. If what you did last decade still seems big to you today then you’re not growing. And vice versa, a year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now, wherever you are in life right now can’t look big – you have not arrived. This is not it. We do live in a moment by moment by moment interaction with life. I do say that in life our head can be in the clouds but you got to make sure that your feet are planted firmly on the ground. But this isn’t it. There is a version of your life that comes with improved relationships with others. There’s a version of your life that comes with an improved relationship to yourself. There’s a version of your life that you’re feeling more fulfilled because you’re doing things you’re passionate about, you’re engaged in life because there is that version that hasn’t happened yet. So don’t settle for this version – get that one. And guess what, if I’m ever lucky enough to talk to you when you’re there I’ll let you know that ain’t it. And here’s the thing, I’m not one of those people that says, when you get somewhere then you got to get somewhere else. Whenever you arrive somewhere that you worked your butt for, make sure you stand there confidently, you look at the view and look around you, and just take in the beauty. Don’t minimize success. Don’t minimize the little victories in life. Sometimes without those and acknowledging them we can’t build upon them to get bigger ones. So if you’re a young person in recovery right now and you’re like, “hey, I just got to my 30, 60 days, 90 days man,” celebrate that! Not with alcohol and drugs, celebrate that look at who you were 30-60-90 days ago, and the darkness and the despair you were experiencing, and look where you’re at now. But this ain’t it. When you get to a year sober, two years sober, three years sober, you’ll look back at this and be like, when you get there that ain’t it either.

 

  1. Alright the next one I got is, take responsibility for your growth. I don’t think I’ll ever have a talk with Parham that I don’t just pound it in your head virtually that you got to take responsibility for this thing called life. By default you must take responsibility for this thing called growth. We have to, we must and a time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man or woman you want to become and start being the man and woman you want to be. So there’s a time in your life – it’s going to come – I don’t know when that is – it might be in this very moment right now, it might be down the line, but there is a moment in your life that you’re going to look at yourself and you’re going to say, “I can’t wait anymore to become the person it is that I know I want to become.” The time is now. I hope that moment comes for you so much. I really hope that you get struck by that moment and guess what, that moment that we realize that this isn’t it, and I want to become something more. It usually comes from one or two things. Number one, the gift of desperation. Number two, the gift of inspiration. Desperation is painful, it’s dark, backs against the wall. We do some good work there. Inspiration is a little bit more mellow, cool, calm, collected. And someone right here, Bz Nabz who’s been around for a long time – appreciate you! Wrote something here about “the future is now,” which I wholeheartedly agree with. The now is all we ever have so I tell people the future don’t even exist, and they say, “dude, you’re crazy, what do you mean it doesn’t exist?” I’m like alright, let’s do an experiment. When is it right now? They’re like, “September 23rd 9:46 a.m.” I’m like, “alright cool, now what’s this future you’re talking about? They’re like “alright what about Friday? Next Saturday is the future.” I’m like, “yeah so when it’s next Saturday and I ask them what time is it now?” They say, “Well it’s September 30th.” And it’s now. You see, the future is just a bunch of Nows that accumulate together and they create this thing called tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, because when those times come they’re not the future, they’re the now again. So by living the now in the best possible way, headed in the right direction towards our goals, dreams, ambitions, not headed in a certain direction of things that hinder us, when the future arrives it’s going to work out somewhere relatively close to what we want. Rarely ever is it exact. If you’re expecting perfection it’s not going to happen but it comes out very, very similar. There’s a really cool clock that is out there and on every hour of it so where it says one, two, three, four, five, six, all the way through it just says now, now, now, now, now. So it’s like what time is it? It’s now. And I do believe in that, I do believe in that. We do call it a breakthrough, good stuff man.

 

  1. Okay, the next one we have here is buy into the hot poker principle. So the hot poker principle says make sure that you look around and carefully assess your closest associates or the closest people you hang out with or the closest connections you have in life and why is it important to do so? Because that is exactly the direction you are headed. So see who you hang out with, what you expose your mind to, what you put into your body, what you do X Y and Z. Look at your environment, do a whole 360 analysis, do a PET scan, CAT scan, CT scan, all that kind of stuff. Do the most deep dive you can and once you gather that data just know that’s where you’re headed. So if you are like me you want to head to places that you want to go, places that you want to get to. I listen to great audiobooks and podcasts and I watch really good things that stimulate my mind on television, usually in documentary form, educational variety. I like to go to great places and I like to go see great things, and I like to surround myself with greatness. It’s not that hey I want to become X Y and Z but if I do so I head in that direction and become my version of whatever that life is going to be like. But it’s inspired through that, so the hot poker is like we get as hot as our environment allows us to get, and by the way on the flip side of it, if you are constantly hanging out with people who are toxic, cold, distant, shut off, argumentative, they complain a lot, what do you think’s going to happen to you? You think you’re going to thrive in that environment? You think you’re going to accomplish all your goals, dreams, ambitions, take responsibility for your growth? Let’s see. “One of the best books by Eckhart Tolle is The Power of Now. It is one of the best books by anybody, about anything. I recommend listening to it on audiobook – his voice is very soothing. My first year of sobriety I listened to the power of now like a thousand times while I slept. There’s a chapter called, From Addictive to Enlightened Relationships – is my favorite one in there but it’s fascinating.

 

  1. And the very last one my friends, is to determine which areas in your life you need to grow. You don’t need me or a high level psychologist or a very profound deep analytical thinker to tell you what areas in your life you need to grow. Take a look at your life, take a look at all the different areas, total well-being, mind, body, spirit, relationships, and then just ask yourself, “am I satisfied with who and what I am right now?” If the answer is yes you’re probably doing something fairly well for yourself. If the answer is no, you say, “okay then who and what do I want to be in all these areas: mind, body, spirit, soul, emotions, relationships?” The gap that exists there, so the gap from where you are to where you want to be is called your vision gap. Growth allows you to go from here to there, but remember in order to do so you can’t cruise or coast or everyone will do it. You must climb and once you develop it it’s on you. Your responsibility, your life, your choices. This talk, by the way, was inspired by a guy named John Maxwell who is way more popular and famous in the world of personal development than most people. But it’s someone that I look to for inspiration and I’ve learned a lot from him for leadership to run a business, to treat employees, also to apply in personal recovery. So the beauty of these personal development talks when we do them is not just that they apply to life of recovery. They also apply to life. I want everybody watching this to be able to say, “hey, last year when I heard that talk on growth till this year, I’ve actually made some growth in my life,” 

 

Some of you, by the way, who’ve been watching this channel for a while, I know for a fact you’ve grown. I’ve seen in your responses, I’ve seen in the things you say, the way you engage, the way you interact, so whatever path we’re on I’m glad we’re doing it together. 

 

This was a wonderful talk. I will be back next week. The week after that I won’t but next week I’ll be here and we’ll do another wonderful talk hopefully to improve your life. And like I say every week these talks are dedicated to one thing and one thing only and that is the possibility of human transformation. So my hope is that I was able to transform your Saturday morning just a little bit but my bigger hope is that you’re able to transform your life and experience a lot of different days from your past. All that being said, I love and appreciate you a lot. I’m off. See you next week, bye everyone!

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The Importance of Tackling Trauma in Addiction Recovery

Addressing trauma is a critical component of addiction recovery, and at Buckeye Recovery Network, our Outpatient Addiction Treatment Center in Huntington Beach, CA, recognizes the profound impact that trauma can have on individuals battling addiction. In this comprehensive article, we will delve deeper into the significance of addressing trauma, the intertwining relationship between trauma and addiction, and the evidence-based approaches we employ to facilitate healing and recovery.

Understanding the Relationship Between Trauma and Addiction

Trauma and addiction often coexist in a complex relationship, with each reinforcing the other’s negative effects. Here’s a closer look at why tackling trauma is pivotal in addiction recovery:

  1. Trauma as a Root Cause: Studies have shown that a significant number of individuals who develop substance abuse issues have experienced traumatic events in their lives. Trauma can serve as a catalyst for addiction, as individuals may turn to substances as a way to self-medicate and alleviate emotional pain stemming from traumatic experiences.
  2. Trauma as a Trigger: Traumatic memories can act as powerful triggers for addictive behaviors. When confronted with reminders of their trauma, individuals may resort to substance use to numb the emotional distress they experience.
  3. Co-Occurrence: The co-occurrence of trauma and addiction is pervasive. Those suffering from addiction are more likely to have experienced trauma, and those with a history of trauma may be at a higher risk of developing substance abuse problems. Treating both conditions simultaneously is essential for a successful and lasting recovery.

Evidence-Based Approaches to Addressing Trauma

Our commitment to addressing trauma is evident in the evidence-based and holistic approaches we employ to facilitate healing and recovery:

  • Individual Therapy: Our licensed therapists engage in one-on-one sessions with clients to explore the impact of trauma on their lives. Through evidence-based therapies like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), clients gain the tools to process and heal from traumatic experiences.
  • Group Therapy: Group therapy sessions provide a safe and supportive environment for clients to share their stories, receive validation from peers, and learn from others’ experiences. These sessions foster a sense of community and understanding among participants.
  • Holistic Healing: We emphasize holistic approaches such as yoga, meditation, and art therapy to promote emotional healing and resilience. These practices encourage self-awareness, relaxation, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Supportive Environment: Our compassionate and experienced staff create a nurturing and non-judgmental environment where clients can feel safe to confront and process their trauma. This atmosphere is essential for effective trauma recovery.

The Positive Outcomes of Addressing Trauma

Addressing trauma as part of addiction recovery can yield numerous positive outcomes, including:

  • Improved Understanding: Clients gain a deeper understanding of how trauma has affected their lives and contributed to their addiction, which is a crucial step in the healing process.
  • Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Through therapy, clients learn healthier ways to cope with their trauma, reducing the reliance on substances as a means of escape.
  • Enhanced Resilience: Clients build emotional resilience, self-esteem, and self-efficacy, equipping them to face life’s challenges without resorting to substance abuse.
  • Reduced Relapse Risk: By addressing the root causes of addiction, clients are less likely to relapse, leading to more sustained recovery outcomes.

Your Path to Healing Begins Here

At Buckeye Recovery Network, we are dedicated to helping individuals overcome addiction and heal from trauma. Our personalized and comprehensive approach ensures that you receive the support you need for a brighter and healthier future. Reach out to us today and take the first step towards your journey to recovery.

FAQs

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), approximately 75% of individuals receiving substance abuse treatment have experienced some form of trauma in their lives.

Research published in the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation suggests that trauma-informed care can significantly improve treatment outcomes, including reduced substance use and improved psychological well-being.

Trauma-informed care recognizes the impact of trauma on an individual’s life and integrates this understanding into treatment. It focuses on creating a safe and supportive environment for clients, which is not always emphasized in traditional treatment approaches.

While we respect our clients’ privacy, we have witnessed numerous success stories where individuals have achieved lasting recovery by addressing trauma through our comprehensive treatment programs. These stories demonstrate the effectiveness of our approach.

Buckeye Recovery Network offers family therapy and support services to help loved ones understand and navigate the complexities of addiction and trauma. Additionally, we can provide referrals to community resources and support groups for families seeking assistance.

Stress Levels on the Rise

In today’s fast-paced world, stress has become an inevitable part of our lives. Whether it’s due to work pressures, family responsibilities, financial concerns, or personal challenges, stress seems to be on the rise. In this comprehensive article, we will delve deeper into the impact of rising stress levels on various aspects of your life and discuss how Buckeye Recovery Network, an outpatient addiction treatment center in Huntington Beach, CA, can be your partner in finding relief.

The Rising Tide of Stress

Stress is a natural response to life’s demands, and in moderate amounts, it can even be beneficial, motivating us to accomplish tasks and solve problems. However, when stress becomes chronic and overwhelming, it can take a significant toll on our well-being.

Physical Health Implications

Chronic stress has been linked to a wide range of physical health issues, including:

  • Cardiovascular Problems: Prolonged stress can increase the risk of heart disease, hypertension, and stroke.
  • Immune System Suppression: High stress levels can weaken your immune system, making you more susceptible to illnesses.
  • Digestive Disorders: Stress can exacerbate conditions like irritable bowel syndrome and lead to digestive problems.
  • Weight Gain: Many people turn to comfort eating when stressed, leading to weight gain and obesity.

Mental Health Consequences

The impact of stress on mental health is equally significant. Here are some common mental health issues associated with chronic stress:

  • Anxiety and Depression: Chronic stress is a leading cause of anxiety and depression, affecting millions of individuals worldwide.
  • Substance Abuse: To cope with stress, some turn to alcohol or drugs, which can lead to addiction.
  • Sleep Disorders: Stress can disrupt sleep patterns, leading to insomnia and sleep deprivation.
  • Cognitive Impairment: Chronic stress can impair memory, concentration, and decision-making.

Relationships and Work Performance

Stress doesn’t just affect your health; it can strain your relationships and hinder your professional growth:

  • Relationships: High stress can lead to conflicts, misunderstandings, and emotional distance in relationships with family, friends, and loved ones.
  • Work Performance: At work, stress can result in decreased productivity, absenteeism, and even burnout.

How Buckeye Recovery Network Can Help

At Buckeye Recovery Network, we understand that stress and addiction often go hand in hand. Many individuals turn to substances as a way to cope with stress, leading to addiction issues. Our comprehensive approach to treatment addresses both addiction and stress management.

Experienced Team

Our team of experienced therapists and counselors specializes in addiction and stress management. They bring a wealth of knowledge and compassion to guide you on your journey to recovery and stress relief.

Personalized Treatment Plans

We believe in one-size-does-not-fit-all. That’s why we tailor our treatment plans to meet your unique needs. Our approach considers both your addiction issues and stress management requirements.

Evidence-Based Therapeutic Techniques

We utilize evidence-based therapeutic techniques, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical-behavioral therapy (DBT), and mindfulness practices. These approaches are proven effective in helping individuals cope with stress and prevent relapse.

Supportive Community

When you join Buckeye Recovery Network, you become part of a supportive community of individuals who understand what you’re going through. Sharing experiences and building connections can be invaluable on your path to recovery.

Flexibility and Convenience

Our outpatient programs are designed to accommodate your daily responsibilities. You can receive treatment while maintaining work, family, and personal commitments.

Contact Buckeye Recovery Network Now

Are you ready to take control of your life and manage your stress effectively? The path to a brighter, stress-free future starts with reaching out to Buckeye Recovery Network. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today. Our compassionate team is here to answer your questions, provide support, and help you take the first step toward a healthier, stress-free life.

FAQs

Common signs of stress include increased anxiety, irritability, fatigue, headaches, muscle tension, and changes in appetite or sleep patterns.

Stress can lead individuals to seek relief through substance use, which can eventually develop into addiction as a way to cope with ongoing stressors.

We offer a range of outpatient addiction treatment programs, including individual therapy, group therapy, family therapy, and holistic approaches to stress management.

The duration of treatment varies depending on individual needs and progress. Our team will work closely with you to create a personalized treatment plan that aligns with your goals.

We understand that financial concerns can be a barrier to seeking treatment. We offer flexible payment options and can help you explore potential sources of financial assistance to make treatment accessible to you.

The Importance of a Sponsor in Recovery

If you or someone you know is working towards recovery from addiction, understanding the significance of having a sponsor is vital. At Buckeye Recovery Network in Huntington Beach, CA, we acknowledge the role of a sponsor in addiction recovery without exaggeration. In this article, we’ll delve into the importance of a sponsor, the advantages they bring, the process of selecting the right one, and the support available at Buckeye Recovery Network.

The Role of a Sponsor in Recovery

A sponsor is a peer who has successfully navigated their own addiction recovery journey. Their main function is to offer guidance, support, and accountability during your recovery process. They act as a dependable ally, providing insight and assistance as you work towards sobriety.

Benefits of Having a Sponsor

Having a sponsor during your recovery journey offers several benefits, including:

  • Accountability: Sponsors help you stay on track by checking your progress regularly.
  • Experience: They can provide valuable insights and coping strategies based on their own recovery experiences.
  • Support System: Sponsors offer emotional support, which can be crucial during difficult times.
  • Relapse Prevention: They help you identify potential triggers and provide strategies to avoid relapse.
  • 24/7 Availability: Sponsors are available to assist you whenever you face a crisis or temptation.

The Designation of a Sponsor

Choosing the right sponsor is a significant decision. Here’s a simplified process:

  1. Identify Potential Sponsors: Attend support group meetings and get to know members who are open to sponsoring.
  2. Build a Connection: Spend time with potential sponsors to ensure you have a good rapport and shared goals.
  3. Ask for Sponsorship: When comfortable, ask someone to be your sponsor.
  4. Commitment: Both parties commit to the relationship, with the sponsor providing support and guidance, and you agreeing to follow their advice.

Why a Sponsor is Essential

Here’s why a sponsor is essential in your recovery journey:

  • Accountability: Sponsors hold you accountable for your actions and choices.
  • Understanding: They’ve been through addiction recovery themselves, so they understand your struggles.
  • Prevention: Sponsors can help you avoid relapse triggers and guide you through cravings.
  • Motivation: They offer motivation when you’re feeling discouraged.
  • Experience: Benefit from their experience and learn from their mistakes.

How Buckeye Recovery Network Can Help

Buckeye Recovery Network in Huntington Beach, CA, understands the importance of a sponsor in addiction recovery. We offer comprehensive outpatient addiction treatment programs that include sponsor matching. Our goal is to assist you in finding a sponsor who will provide support throughout your journey to sobriety. Take the first step towards a brighter future. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and let us connect you with a sponsor who can make a difference in your recovery journey.

FAQs

A sponsor is a trusted individual who provides support and guidance to someone in addiction recovery based on their own experiences.

Identify potential sponsors in support group meetings, build a connection, and ask someone willing to be your sponsor.

Look for someone with a strong recovery history, a good rapport with you, and a commitment to your sobriety.

While not mandatory, having a sponsor significantly enhances your chances of successful recovery.

Yes, we offer sponsor matching services as part of our comprehensive outpatient addiction treatment programs in Huntington Beach, CA. Contact us to get started on your recovery journey.

Going The Extra Mile With Self-Care

We talked about several different ways to incorporate self-care into your life in this, this, and this post. If you are someone who has already incorporated all of those practices and want to add on more, this post is for you.

1. Engage In Hobbies

Do things that make you lose track of time. For a lot of people experiencing addictions, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss, there’s something that happens and that thing is called anhedonia. What anhedonia is, is the loss of pleasure in things and activities that at one point would give us pleasure. 

 

So for example, if you were a kid riding a bike was just the most amazing epic experience of your life and now you’ve gone through this whole process of addictions, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss, and just the thought of getting on a bike is like “what’s the point, where are we going to go, it’s going to be so crowded over there, I just don’t want to do it.” See that’s this thing called anhedonia. That riding a bike gave you pleasure at one point but right now you can’t find it. So what we do is, we do it anyway, because as a kid it was never about where we were going or what we were doing, it was about getting on the bike and just going. It’s the journey, not the freaking destination. And as adults we forget that. We forget the joy that exists in the journey so if you want to break through anhedonia you have to do things that at one point gave you pleasure in your life, and you’ll find them and when you do, you lose track of time and that’s the magic. How did it get this hour of the day? It flew by. That’s the healing stuff.

When’s the last time you did something that made you lose track of time? When’s the last time you did something for the first time?

How about that question? The last time you did something for the first time? You know at some point in our life everything we did was the first time. At some point in your life everything you ever did in your life was the first time you were doing it, but now when I ask you when’s the last time you did something for the first time some of you might say years ago. That’s so sad. When did we stop living and we just started existing? Conscious choice again.

2. Limit Your Screen Time

Unplug to relax. Digital fatigue is a thing. I know that we all use these things called cell phones and laptops and we watch these things called televisions and we go to movie theaters and all that kind of stuff like that. I’m not saying that all of that is bad okay, so please hear me out, the same way that food isn’t bad, all this stuff isn’t bad. There is a beautiful time, a place, a purpose, a value from it, but you need to limit the screen time we have. 

 

Look at it this way – in big business like capitalist big business – rarely do they ever offer any of their products for free – it’s just the way the markets are, and we’re all cool with that supply and demand. There’s a cost for services – if you agree you pay for it they give you the service and it’s a handshake, it’s all good. So in big business there’s usually a cost associated with things but where a lot of people are struggling right now is on social media apps for example let’s just go with Tik Tok, Facebook, Instagram, when was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription for your Tik Tok account? When was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription for your Facebook account? When was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription to your Instagram account? The answer is never, never, never. So big business is providing us with a service for free, come on, that ain’t happening. So what is the commodity being exchanged for that service? If it’s not our money it’s our human attention – we are paying with us. We are paying with our attention and they can get that algorithm so damn good that your wall and your feet can be so personalized that it can capture your attention for hours and hours and hours and hours. 

 

Go look at your screen time on your social media apps and see if you’re using social media or is social media using you. For some of you older generation that may not have grown up with a phone in your hand, you might actually be using social media but for your sons, your daughters, your grandkids, your nieces, your nephews, your younger siblings, they think they’re using social media. Oh man, oh my, are they the ones being played. You know some of these kids got screen times of like eight, ten hours a day. Who’s using who? So limit your screen time. Unplug. I love going places, leaving my phone at home. People think I’m crazy, but I don’t care. I understand there could be an emergency and sometimes in life there is but I’ve also realized that in my 40 years of life there’s only been a few emergencies ever. If you break down all those into days you’ll come up with a very very very very very very very large number and if you break that down to the two incidents of the emergencies and that large number and you get a percentage it is so damn low that it’s not even mathematically important. What’s the point of being hyper connected to something that’s taking away our human attention to this thing called life? People functioned fine I guess back in the day without cell phones, I was okay, it was okay, life was good.

3. Seek Help When Needed

Mental health matters. Each of you that have logged on to this and are watching this live or later on you’re doing something for your mental health this is a professional – I am a professional – so you’re seeking professional help the same way you break something you go to a doctor, same way you feel something in your arm a tumor or something you go to the doctor and say, “Doctor, help me.” Mental health is the same way. I understand that it’s not until recent years, in the past 20, 30, 40 years that people started to really look at the mind and our mental health just as important as physical health but we’re here now and it’s important. If you haven’t already sought out help for it, do it. If you’re going through anything and you’re struggling with your mental health go get some professional help because it’s vital and critical and crucial for your survival. You can’t navigate this world without having your head on right. Our mental health matters. So if you are someone living this journey called life I hope this talk inspired you to be proactive and start to diagnose and assess what you actually need in life.

 

Create a self-care plan, execute it to the best of your ability, so when the time comes that life comes and punches you in the face you’re not going to get so disoriented that you can’t function. And that’s sometimes the best we can do. And you know if nothing happens then you’re just going to feel better and better and my hope is that every human being has a self-care plan and takes this seriously. The sad part about it, like I said earlier, it’s probably the most talked about Topic in mental health circles. When people get asked for help and it’s probably the least executed because, “Don’t you know, my situation is different, don’t you know how busy I am, don’t you know how stressed out I am, don’t you know how much responsibilities I have, I don’t have time for this stuff, I have to help this this and this person, oh I don’t have the money to eat that kind of food, I have to eat this kind of food, I don’t have the time to do it,” and as soon as you tell people to start investing in themselves all they do is tell you reasons why they can’t. I don’t know why that happens but you don’t have to be one of those people.

Live beyond your excuses, live beyond your reasons of why you can’t do something and find some reasons of why you not only can do something but you need to do something.

What’s the point of living life if you’re not living the best version of yourself? And the only person that could bring out that best version of yourself: go take a look in the mirror – it’s that person looking right back at you, and I hope that person’s smiling back at you today, and if that’s the case then we’re all good.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Go Deeper With Your Self-Care

Self-care is one that is best incorporated into your life slowly and gradually, and add on other practices and routines as you get comfortable with taking care of yourself. In a previous post, we talked about the Prerequisites for Self-Care 101. In the 3 Core Self-Care Steps, we talk about the basic things you can do to incorporate into taking care of yourself. In this post we dive a bit deeper into the practices that can bring you closer to finding peace within yourself.

1. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

A little bit goes a long way. As soon as I tell somebody to practice mindfulness and meditation they tell me reasons why they can’t meditate. “Oh I just can’t sit still, I just can’t quiet my mind, my thoughts are always going, it doesn’t work for me.” Don’t go there. Just listen to what this actually means. Mindfulness and meditation can be a very small part of your day. For those of you who don’t practice any type of breathing exercises and techniques when is the last time you stopped and took three, four, five, six conscious deep breaths while holding the breath in your lung, feeling your lung expand, exhaling all of that air and all the stress and all the toxins and all whatever’s inside your body leaving your stomach empty for a few seconds, and repeating that process? It’s a cleansing breath – when was the last time you stopped to do that? That has nothing to do with “I can’t slow down my mind, I can’t sit there and do nothing, I can’t just be quiet.” It has nothing to do with it. Mindful breathing is the easiest way to tap into what I’m talking about right here. It’s super simple but it’s also easy not to do.

I just get in this flow of watching it crash, hearing it crash, smelling the salt water, and it repeats and it repeats and it repeats and it repeats…

I was telling our program participants this morning for the ones who have a hard time with closing their eyes and all that kind of traditional meditation stuff, the way that for me and I’m an overthinker, I think a lot, I have a hard time sitting still, very hard time sitting still. When I wanted to get going with this and I’ve done this a bunch of times in the past few months because it’s sometimes overwhelming, I go and I stare at the ocean. I sit down at the beach, I stare at the ocean and all I do is watch the repetitive waves crash on the shore and all I do is watch. The waves go up, crash on the shore and I try to listen to the sound of the water crashing and I do this, and thankfully for me the waves usually don’t stop or they’re very frequent so I just get in this flow of watching it crash, hearing it crash, smelling the salt water, and it repeats and it repeats and it repeats and it repeats and before you know it I don’t notice anything around me and before you know it my thoughts get quiet and that’s a meditative state. Didn’t even have to think about my thoughts. The presence in that experience did it for me, so I don’t know what it is for you that you need to implement in your life that helps you practice mindfulness and meditation. 

 

Sometimes going on a walk and just observing everything you see that might be the color yellow or the color red and just being and just noticing it, or walking and just being mindful of every step you take – left, right, left, right – something as simple as that. These are all meditative practices. Most people can’t sit down and close their eyes and meditate for a long time. The ones that do have practiced that to get to that point. They train at it daily to get to that point. A lot of people compare their first day of meditation to the homie over there that’s been doing it for 27 years, like come on. Like the first time you hit a piano key you don’t expect to play like Mozart. If you want to be like that person, meditate every day. I know most people don’t want to be that excessive meditator – we got stuff to do, but the self-care routine is a part of it. Some days you’re going to need a little bit more of it, so find times to unwind.

2. Set Boundaries

Learn what your limits are and when and how to say no. When it comes to addiction and recovery there’s certain things that are very important. For example, the one that I’ll just reiterate – if you set a boundary with somebody make sure that you honor it and hold it because if you don’t they’re just going to push that limit over and over and over again. And then if you’re not going to enforce the boundary don’t set it. Just don’t waste your time. 

 

But when it comes to self-care you have to learn how to say no. Again, go back to the one about time. People say they don’t have enough time. I think that’s more of a boundary issue. I think it’s way more of a boundary issue that they just over exhausted themselves and overexerted and just overstretched themselves to the illusion that I have no time. But if they would have said no to a bunch of stuff the time would have been there. So a lot of people have a hard time saying no and that usually comes from childhood dysfunction. It usually comes from some type of an emotional disruption and they just want to say yes and they want to be approved and they want to people-please and they want to be the nice guy or the nice girl and all that kind of stuff and that’s okay if you want to do that – it’s none of my business. Just know that it’s going to have a cost on your mental health and when you set boundaries for yourself, it’s all on you to identify what those are and then you gotta uphold them and you got to learn how to say No. 

 

The homework assignment that I always give on this one is, learn to say no. So when someone asks you to do something, say no to them, especially if you’re the one that always says yes. And do that to like three different people. And when you say no to the requests don’t explain to them, don’t give them your reasoning why. Don’t qualify it, don’t make sure they’re okay and not upset. Just say no. It’s just an exercise. Later on you can go tell them what you were doing, maybe like a week or two weeks after it so you can actually sit with the feelings. But most people, when they say no they feel guilty and ashamed and embarrassed and like, “Oh they’re gonna think I’m such a bad friend.” If a one-time rejection of someone’s request makes someone else think you’re a bad friend your friendship probably wasn’t anything in the first place, just so you know that. At some point we have to honor ourselves and we can’t just do everything at our own costs of our own mental well-being because a lot of this stuff by the way turns into sickness in the body, my friends.

3. Connect With Others

The opposite of addiction is connection. It doesn’t have to be a lot of people. It could be a small little community like this that we have, it could be a couple of your close friends, family members, it could be a sponsor, it could be a therapist, whatever it is you just got to make sure that you connect. And the more we experience pain as a result of addiction, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss, the more we tend to disconnect. And that’s our natural response for many of you that are in the recovery process you know that’s dangerous. I don’t want to isolate. I’m going to go connect but there’s a lot of people who don’t know that, and they go into isolation, and what happens in isolation? Nothing good grows in the dark. It just tends to manifest in different ways, doubling down on potentially the addiction, doubling down on the mental illness, doubling down on the pain resulting from the trauma, making the grief and loss last forever. 

 

I’ve worked with people that someone in their life passed away like seven or eight or ten years ago and it never goes away. So this is something I’m learning, the pain is going to always be there but they are so they’ve isolated and stopped talking about it for so long that they feel the intensity of it as if it just happened, and that just tells me that they didn’t do the healing process. Now can someone be super emotional about something that happened years ago and just feel the sadness? Absolutely, but I’m talking about to the point that they can’t function in their life, impaired in every level at work, relationships, health, all that kind of stuff because of something that happened there. And when you go back and find out what happened they say they stop talking about it, they fully isolated, they just kind of gave up, they died when they died. So make sure that we connect. 

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.