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3 Steps To Break the Cycle of Abuse

Breaking cycles is not a modern thing. I think the fundamental elements needed to break any type of cycle in life are actually timeless things, whether it was a thousand years ago, 500 years ago, current day or a thousand years from now. I believe in order to break multigenerational patterns and cycles of dysfunction and abuse there are certain characteristics. There’s no new technique that does it.

Step 1. Look at your Life and Reflect

Number one is you have to look at your life – you have to reflect, look at your life and answer the following question. Is the life I have, in the way that I’m experiencing this thing called life, what I want it to be, how I envisioned it to be? If the answer is yes, cool! If the answer is no, that’s where we move to the next stage.

Step 2: How and Why did Life end up this Way?

The next stage is, how did my life end up this way, why did my life end up this way? And that’s where the beauty of doing some healing work and reflective work into the past and looking at the different life experiences we had, the good, the bad, the ups and downs, the everything in between, looking at our traumas, looking at our family dynamics, looking at the way that we’ve experienced life, looking at the challenges we’ve gone through, processing them, talking through them, working through them.

Step 3: Break the Pattern

And once you get to the present moment, this is how patterns get broken. You make a commitment, a sincere desire followed by massive action to make the future look different than the past. If that commitment is there no matter what happens, as soon as you see red flags, you don’t engage. As soon as you feel certain feelings in your past that you’re feeling right now you don’t continue. As soon as you start hanging out with people that you shouldn’t be hanging out with you discontinue. As soon as you’re willing to change patterns in your life that were in the patterns of the past when you start to make those changes on a moment by moment by moment basis moving forward, ultimately those moments create this thing called the future. That future will be different than the past. When that future is different than the past it will no longer have the same cycles in it.

When do you Break the Cycle?

So there ain’t no modern version to do this. It comes from the basics – you look at your past, you look at your present, you look at your future. If you want your future to be different than your past you got to do something different. And by the way, when do people change and decide to break multigenerational patterns of dysfunction and abuse? Simple – when the pain of staying the same becomes too much. That pain threshold is different for everybody. I don’t know what it is for you but if you want to break that cycle the only human being that will break that cycle is you. No one can take that away from you. I strongly encourage that if you come from some type of family dysfunction, to do whatever you got to do to break the cycle. Because if you don’t you are susceptible to the high percentage of somewhere around 75 to 80% of repeating exactly what the hell happened to you to somebody else. So I’ll leave that up to you. 

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.