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5 Major Pieces of the Puzzle of Life and Recovery

What is up, everyone? It is Saturday, August 5th of 2023. It’s 9:15 Pacific Standard Time, so if you’re watching this right now live, we are live, and if you watch this or happen to watch this later on on recording I hope that you are able to find some valuable pieces of information, some nuggets, some resources in this talk that might help you in your own personal journey through life. 


I’ll give a little introduction about myself and what we do here each and every single Saturday, and then I’ll kind of welcome some of the participants and we’ll go from there. So my name is Parham. We’ve been doing this live stream for a little bit over three years now and I’m really grateful for the opportunity to have this platform to be able to share some information with other human beings that might be interested about learning about their own process personal development, anything about addictions mental health, rebuilding trust, communication, family dynamics, self-care and a little bit of everything in between. 


So what’s up everyone? Saying hi I can see you all – this is interactive – so I can put your name up here. Marilyn, Jess, what’s up? Keep journaling my friend! Jim, Mely, the crew over there at Pacific Sands, Camille, so it’s really nice, I’m grateful for you guys, for being here. We’re gonna hopefully have a nice little talk.


A couple things about myself. So my name is Parham. I have a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy with an emphasis in Child Development. I am also in recovery myself – June 13 2008 is the day that I kind of just went on a different path of life. I coach high school basketball. I manage a facility, an outpatient facility in Huntington Beach, California for mental health and addictions. I am on the board. I am a college teacher that has not been assigned the class yet but I get all the emails. And everyone else, come on in. There’s been something that happened in our community – I’m not going to get too deep in it right now because I don’t have the information yet and it wouldn’t be right for me to speak on it but one of our group members had a pretty big loss in her life this past couple days and maybe one day I’ll have a little bit more information to give. But if you’re watching this and who you are, I want you to know that this Monday, as soon as two days from now, anytime after 10 o’clock, feel free to reach out to me and we can talk and I can support you to the best of my ability. So all that being said, what’s up everyone? We got everyone that’s coming in. There’s a lot of people in there so just what’s up? And yeah don’t forget to push the Like button, that’s nice I appreciate that! 


So let’s get into this. This talk is something that originally comes from a man named Jim Rohn and who Jim Rohn is, is the father of personal development. So it’s somebody that said, “Hey, I believe that life for people can get better but only if they get better,” and he went down this whole, entire path. Unfortunately passed away back in the mid 2000s but I still listen to them frequently, almost daily. And what I like to do is I like to gather the information that he teaches but then apply it to the recovery process, apply it to something that’s a little bit more tangible and realistic for the audience that’s on this station watching this, and also for my expertise. So life can be a complicated puzzle. Recovery can be a very complicated puzzle, a puzzle that has many many many many different parts, intricate parts, small parts, it’s overwhelming. You never see that when you pour the puzzle on the table – it’s like oh my goodness, oh my God, there’s too many pieces here. I don’t know where to go. Well lucky for you, Jim Rohn helped identify five major pieces of the life puzzle. So what I’m going to do is I’m going to use those same five pieces and apply them to the recovery puzzle. And by the way what is recovery? It’s to regain something that’s been lost, stolen or destroyed. What is that? Our connection to our self. Do you have to be struggling with drugs and alcohol to be in the recovery process? Heck no! If you are a family member of someone who’s going through the addiction process you need to find recovery, you need to reconnect to yourself. If you’re someone that went through trauma you don’t even have a substance abuse problem, you probably have to go on the path of recovery. If you’re someone that experienced grief and loss in the past, present for some of us that are experiencing present, we got to be on this recovery journey. And so hopefully this captures a wide enough net that a majority of people can apply the information from today’s talk into their world.


Okay so what are the five major pieces of the life puzzle? Well, number one is your personal philosophy on life and on recovery. What are your beliefs? What are your views? Some people think that being in recovery, whether firsthand or secondhand from addiction, so either you have it or your loved one has it, being in recovery for trauma, being in recovery for grief and loss, for mental illness first hand or secondhand, they think it’s a sign of weakness. They think something went wrong. They think that there’s a problem with it. That’s a philosophy they have because the same people that say “oh my life is doomed, now I have a problem with addiction, my loved one has a problem with addiction, my life is messed up now, because I just experienced this catastrophic loss, my life is is over now because of the traumas I had, I can never be able to form relationships and trust.” That is all a philosophy. 


You want to know what my philosophy is on the recovery process? It’s the greatest gift a human being can ever experience and you might be saying how is drugs and alcohol ruining someone’s life a gift? Because of what’s available and accessible on the other side in the path of recovery. How can going through trauma as a child be a gift? You don’t know what it was like, you don’t know what it felt like, but what it creates is the psychological and emotional muscles to be resilient in life to overcome the next obstacle and the next obstacle and the next obstacle. Being in recovery is a superpower. Being in recovery says I’m courageous enough to look at myself, to look at my life and say I want more, I want to do better, I want to be better. Being in recovery is like a superhero cape but that’s a philosophy that I have and I hope you start to embrace that same philosophy. I believe all human beings got to be in recovery. We’re all recovering from something but some people say they’re gonna go do it and some people say they’re not and sometimes those big glaring situations like addiction or mental illness or trauma forces us into it a little bit and if you haven’t experienced some of those you’re kind of like a little bit more cautious, but it’s all a philosophy. 


And the one way I like to look at philosophy in a more metaphoric simple way. Let’s use sailing for example – if you get on a sailboat and you get in the ocean I’m going to give you a news flash – you have no control or power of the direction of the wind, the strength of the wind, the type of the wind, but what you can set your sails based on the win to get to the destination you are trying to get to. We don’t have control over external stimuli sometimes but we have sails in our own life that allows us, despite the conditions, to get to the destination we want to get to. And please remember this, that direction is more important than speed. We are caught up in this world thinking that we have to get there quick we have to get there now. We have to get there yesterday. No you don’t. You just have to be headed towards that direction. Direction is more important than speed.


Thank you for this comment here, Marilyn: Blessed to be in recovery. If Marilyn wrote this while she was an actual whatever the situation, if there was an active addiction going on in life they wouldn’t say I’m blessed, they just wouldn’t, but something happened along the lines in the class. The journey of Marilyn that she’s blessed for it now and there’s a lot of family members here that would be able to say the same thing. Or individuals in the recovery process.


So I like to define at this point what is failure and what is success. I know those are very subjective definitions and I know my definition is different than your definition. And your definition is different than the next person’s definition but overall this is what I kind of believe and this is again gathered from Jim Rohn applied to the recovery process. Failure is a few errors in judgment repeated every day – a few errors in judgment repeated every day. Eventually it leads you to this place called failure. Success is a few positive disciplines, simple disciplines applied every day. So when you wake up in the morning if you have a few failed errors in judgment “I should have, I shouldn’t have done that, I should have gone there, oh man I knew better…” if you do that every day you’re headed to destination Failure and if you wake up and say “I’m gonna do something positive for my mind, something positive for my body, something positive for my spirit,” simple disciplines, you’re headed towards success. I don’t care what my definition is but you’re headed there.


Hey absolutely Corey, you can’t control the wind but you can set your sails. I’m gonna borrow that. I borrowed it from Mr Jim Rohn you borrowed it from Mr Parham Nematola and I’m not saying Parham and Jim Rohn are in the same category but Corey, one day the beauty of this. You’re going to be sharing that somewhere to someone and someone’s gonna say, “hey Corey that’s some good [ __ ] I’m gonna borrow that,” and so is the story of human evolution. We all build on each other and I’m grateful to give that little nugget to you. See Marilyn said her recovery was from alcoholism so you tell someone that’s drinking alcohol, that it’s a blessing that you’re struggling with alcohol, they won’t believe it. But whatever happened on their journey to recovery it made all sense of it.


So now the next piece of life’s puzzle is this thing called your attitude. People think your attitude is just like “oh how you show up in a moment, this person is so positive, or this person’s so negative, or this person always has such a good attitude, this person always has such a bad attitude,” it’s deeper than that. Our attitude also has to explore the continuum of time, so what does that mean? What is your attitude towards your past? who you’ve been, what you’ve done, what is your attitude towards the people of your past, regardless of what they’ve done? Are there some opportunities for healing? Are there some opportunities for growth? Are there some opportunities for new relationships? What is your attitude through the present moment of life, of society, of this thing we called planet Earth, and the people and inhabitants of it? What is your attitude towards recovery? What is your attitude towards the future where you’re headed? What’s it going to look like – the when, the where, the why, the how? What is your attitude on the past and present and future creates our ability to be able to experience life to its fullest. 


I’m going to give you a news flash if you have a bad attitude towards your past and the people in it, and in this present moment you have a poor attitude and a bad attitude about your life and the impact of the people in the past had on your life, if you think that your future is automatically going to be better and it’s going to be just this wonderful place, that your attitude is going to be positive and you’re going to be happy and engaged and loving, you’re lying to yourself. If you don’t make right with the past and you don’t make right with the present, your future is doomed. And that’s what a lot of people don’t want to accept. They just think they hold on to the idea that somehow, someday, the future is going to be better for me. Really? When it starts with change I do believe it starts with education. Now I’m not talking about going into the school and learning your ABCs. Education about self, who you are, until you get crystal clear on who you are. Good luck becoming what you want to be and it’s tough! Because sometimes that path of education, about learning about oneself is. The reason why so many people that are in 12-step programs say “hey the 12 steps should be taught to everybody,” the main reason is this: because it allows you to take a mirror and look at yourself and how you are with self, how you are with others, how you show up in life, and it helps you maintain that each and every single day through different steps. So that’s what’s important about it. It’s not the actual 12 steps, the program everyone’s got exposed to. It’s the ability to get to know oneself is the power of the program. 


And this is, by the way, this is a very important nugget from a man with a lot of nuggets. “If my attitude is in gratitude it gives me the motivation to do more.” I think the attitude should always be in gratitude. Mine is. What do we say? Grateful people are happy people, and those who aren’t, aren’t. It’s one of the most common measurable pieces of assessment for a clinician when having a conversation with somebody to know if this person is genuinely going to have a positive attitude and be okay. So the amount of gratitude they show, the amount of gratitude of those who are not grateful, those who take everything for granted, those who just look at everything from a negative light, they tend to repeat that over and over and over and over again. And if you can’t find things to be grateful you just ain’t looking. If you can’t find things in your life that you’re grateful for, you’re just not looking. Or your perspective is so skewed that you’re only looking at it from this type of a lens when you go macro. When you open it up and you go bird’s eye view and you look down in your life you will realize that gratitude is available and accessible to you – you’re just choosing not to access it. For all of us, for all of us. It’s funny the people that aren’t grateful, people that have a real problem with gratitude and it’s like nothing’s ever good enough and they’re never happy and they’re always pissed off, like “but if I get X Y and Z in my life then I’m going to be grateful. I just don’t have those things yet.” If you’re not grateful with what you have in life right now you will not be grateful for what you have in the future. If you need to learn that lesson yourself and come back one day and say “yo dude, you were right, I was never grateful and then I got all these things I thought I wanted and I still wasn’t grateful.” Start small, start simple, look at your life, find things you’re grateful for – it’ll change your attitude. Look at your past and five things you’re grateful for, change your attitude.


So the next one that I have here is this thing called activity. It’s the third puzzle piece to life and recovery. Now there is one word that I always use in here and that’s transformation. I did a whole talk on it a few weeks ago. I talk about it every single week and so when I talk about transformation I want to talk about disaster. Here’s the definition, if you want to write it down, if you want to jot it down, put it in your phone, however you want to get this down. Disaster equals should change, could change, won’t change. Definition of disaster. Transformation equals should change, could change, will change equals transformation. So break those down. You’re sitting down in your life and you have a list of things that you should change. You can identify them very easily. I should change my spending habits, I should change my diet, I should change my social interactions, I should change my lifestyle, I should change my habits, whatever they are right? None of my business and then you say, could I change these, should change, could change, could I change these, could I make a little bit of improvement? One percent better on each of these every day, and then if you won’t change, should change, could change, won’t change you are leading to disaster. If you think that those things on your list that you should change but you won’t change are going to change on their own you’re lying to yourself. And transformation is should change, could change, will change and that’s as simple as that. Now why some people change those things and some don’t, why some people stay stubborn and some don’t, why some people stay self-righteous about the fact that they can’t or they won’t, whatever it is, I don’t know, I stopped trying to figure that stuff out. I could say the same talk to 100 people – five people run with it, five people say I’m crazy, the rest of the people just say “oh that was nice and they go back to their own life.” I just stopped trying to figure all that out to be honest with you guys. 


Things don’t really change – the only way things will change is if you change – let’s just stick with that theme. I mean that’s kind of like a cute thing of humanity – human beings have situations in their life and circumstances in their life that they’re not happy with. Okay how do I know that? Because I’m a licensed therapist. When someone comes and sits in a therapy room they don’t sit there telling me about all the highlights of their life. They tell you about all the things in their life they’re struggling with right? So they know they’re aware they have insight of what it is in life that they need to change or they hope to change. And then the weirdest part is is that they actually could change those things, they could make changes, but then the baffling part, the weirdest part is the fact they won’t change. Wow you got to change something but you won’t do it and what in their mind, they’re like “oh it’s too much work.” “Well it’s not my fault this happened it’s somebody else’s fault.” “What’s the point if I try? Nothing’s going to change anyway.” They have this poor philosophy on change, poor philosophy on transformation, so whatever you want to do you got to identify what it is you got to change and then get to work. Some of it on your own, some of it in a support group, some of it with a trained professional therapist or clinician, some of it with a pen and paper on a beach, some of it with breathing exercises, some of it was just tapping into commitment of why you want to do it in the first place, getting into gratitude to find some motivation like Jim said. Oh man, I don’t know what it is but your philosophy on activity will dictate your future. Your philosophy on activity will dictate your future.


So the next one is called results. And by the way I’m not putting these things up so just so what we talked about – the first one was personal philosophy, the next one was attitude, the next one was activity. I was so prepared for this night I dropped the ball now we’re getting into results. Okay there is no point to get into action and to have activity towards your goals if you don’t stop and measure the results, because first of all how the heck do, when you got there, how do you know that you actually improved on the day before? How do you know if what you’re doing is even working and getting you to the right direction? So you got to measure the results and if you haven’t started that yet about the future I’ll give you an exercise you could do when you think about your philosophy on activity. This is what I want you to do – I want you to look back on the last week of your life and write down all the things that you accomplished based on the things that you should have done, on the things that you need to do, that you wanted to do. Let’s avoid the word ‘should.’ I know some people get weird about it. In the past week, what did you need to do, what did you want to do, what did you have to do. And then write down all the accomplishments in the last month – what did you need to do, want to do, should have done, all that kind of stuff. Write them all down. In the last year what have you accomplished? In the last decade what have you accomplished? Now look at that list with pure honest eyes, non-judgmental eyes. This is an exercise – it’s not to make you feel bad about it, it’s not to make you feel ashamed about it, it’s not to make you feel like you’re just wasting your life, or you’re just spitting in circles, it’s none of that. It’s for you as an adult or young adult, whatever age you are watching this, to look at that list, to look at it and just get really honest with yourself about the results of your activity. Now some of you might look at that list and say “wow, I’ve over accomplished, I’ve achieved, I’m so happy, I’m so grateful, I can see that all the work I’m doing is leading me to all these beautiful accomplishments.” And some of you might say “I can’t even think of five things to write on a piece of paper about the last year. And whether you’re in the first school of thought or the second school of thought it’ll matter at least where you are, at least you’re being honest with yourself and then you say “okay, if I did this exercise next year would I be happy with the same results?” Some of you might say “yeah, I’m cool with it,” and some of you might say “no, I don’t want this for another day of my life, let alone another year of my life.” And that’s when you realize how closely your philosophy to activity has to do with the results you get in life. If you are trying to get specific results in your life and you’re not getting them, your philosophy towards your activity is flawed and skewed. I’m telling you this, I keep saying this, this is probably my fifth time in the same talk saying this. If you think your future is going to change without doing something different today you are delusional, you are lying to yourself, you are just pulling the thing over your eyes, and just hoping you got a blindfold on, you’re throwing darts and there’s no target in front of you. 


So this is big. By the way thanks Eileen I find that letting go of judgment of myself and others helps to open door of change. 100%! And it’ll answer that question for you Mely in a second. So once you get true with yourself of where you are you don’t look at it and say “oh I’m so bad, I’m so lazy, I’m so this, I’m so that,” you just say “okay that’s where I am.” You don’t resist it, you don’t fight it, you don’t judge it. If anything, you say “hey, you’re a wonderful human being that’s about to go on a journey, let me get you, I got you.” But when we judge and critique and criticize and all that kind of stuff a whole lot of bad stuff happens so Mely, I don’t know if this question is for yourself or for someone that you love, but the answer is going to be the same. So first of all thank you for having the courage to talk about a very important topic when it comes to recovery. And in this case it’s called relapse. So for people that don’t know, relapse happens after somebody is on the recovery journey, whether that’s from substances, or eating disorders, or mental illness, or grief and loss, trauma, whatever you want to call it, and they’ve been able to achieve a little bit of recovery time, so they’re working on themselves again and know themselves or finding out their cravings or triggers, they’re building a support network, they’re changing their whole entire way that they live their life, and then boom, something happens right? Something happens that was more than their ability to regulate their emotions – so maybe they got to experience something really sad, maybe they experienced something really good, we relapse over different things but then there was a relapse which is the continuation of the use. So they picked up the drink, let’s just call it, and they started drinking again, they picked up the drug, and they started using again, and thankfully in this case the person is still alive. Because unfortunately we always don’t get another relapse, sometimes we don’t get another recovery. So here’s my best advice to you Miss Mely – you just get back up and you start again. And here’s the reason why I say that. Because let’s just say you had x amount of time and then there was a relapse when you pick up and start again. It’s not like all of that valuable information and discovery and recovery all goes away with the date. It’s still inside you so when you pick up and you move forward you get to use all that experience, all that knowledge, and the most important part, you better find out what it was that led you to that relapse. Because if you don’t get clear with that, if you don’t get right with that, if you don’t get fully fully fully present with it, the odds of that same thing taking you out again is going to exist. So in this case the relapse becomes a wonderful learning lesson, a wonderful tool that allows you to find out what you need to do differently to prevent that from happening again. And remember this – in the program they say that addiction and alcoholism is progressive so if I’m drinking let’s say a bottle of alcohol a day and then I stop for a while and then I pick up again, it’ll take me not too long to get back to that same amount of alcohol. Recovery is the same way – recovery is progressive – if you were doing all these things for your recovery and you stopped and you relapse, when you pick up again you can get back to where you were like with a significant amount of time, in a shorter amount of time. So long story short Mely, you’re gonna be okay. That’s how you deal with it. There’s no magic potion. And also you got to do this every time you want to quit – remember why you started. There is a reason, there is a why, there is a motivating factor in people’s sobriety. I don’t know you, I don’t know what yours is, but I do know this, that you have one. Make sure that thing, that image, that motivating factor is so fresh in your foresight at all times. If you have to put reminders for yourself, if you have to put pictures, if you have to put Post-its, whatever you got to do, make sure that reason is crystal clear, make sure it’s crystal clear.  


The quote that I really love says the following. “It’s better to be sober and inside the rooms of recovery thinking about drinking, than it is to be drunk wishing that you were in the rooms and sober.” There’s nothing wrong with thinking about this stuff but make sure you talk about and get support around yourself. I’ve known many people who have had long-term sobriety, lost it and achieved it again – it is possible. I’m not selling something that’s not real. And if there’s been any type of new trauma, new life event situations, don’t sleep on getting some therapy support okay? I know therapy sometimes for people could be expensive. If you don’t have the proper insurance please look into local resources, look into any colleges around you, sometimes they have training sites with interns that are really freaking good, there are gradual level interns online, there’s a lot of ways to do therapy right now. But just don’t sleep on all that stuff – it’s very important. If anybody ever tells you therapy is not important, it doesn’t work, it’s the philosophy they have towards therapy. Those same people usually have trust issues, those same people usually think that there’s always an angle to something, they’re very pessimistic, they think that something works for someone else but not them, has nothing to do with the therapist or the therapy. I hope that helped Mely.


And the last one that I have here is the fifth one – it’s called your lifestyle. So what is a human lifestyle my friends? And this is your lifestyle in life and in recovery. Lifestyle is defined as learning how to live well. Again, I like it because it’s so vague because living well for me might be different than living well for you. Living well for you might be different for someone else and that’s okay. We don’t got to live the same life but you got to find out what it is and the areas here for living, how to live well. Number one is wealth. And this is not in a superficial vein, I’m not a person that talks about money as important, all that kind of stuff like that. Yeah, it’s a tool – money’s a tool that in our society creates a sense of comfort and freedom, but I’ve been on record saying this and it’s something I’ve learned through the research and I’ve learned through different documentaries and there’s truth in this next statement. So money doesn’t bring happiness. Money doesn’t bring happiness, and if you’re telling me I’m full of whatever that’s okay, because here’s what the research and the data says to a person who does not have their basic needs met, to someone that is homeless, doesn’t have a roof over their head, doesn’t have food, clean water, doesn’t have the resources for life, to that person additional money does bring happiness to that person. But to anybody that has all of their basic needs met, they have everything that they need in life, additional money doesn’t bring additional happiness. Because if that was the case the richer the person, the happier they would be. And trust me when I tell you this, that’s a false thought. Sometimes people say like “hey, how come people with money…” Jim Carrey was quoted saying this. Jim Carrey was/ is very big on “money doesn’t bring happiness” because he’s actually a voice for mental illness and mental health and he talks about depression and he’s just a really wonderful resource. He was saying that “hey, money doesn’t bring happiness,” and someone says, “how come it’s all you rich people that say money doesn’t bring happiness?” and he likes looks and smiles like, “Well, what if the ones with a lot of money be the ones to be able to tell you that money doesn’t bring happiness?” It’s very very very true. So you got to find out what wealth means, and wealth doesn’t always have to be these cheap little things called treasury notes, called money. Wealth could be the relationships in your life, wealth could be the knowledge in your life, wealth could be the love in your life, wealth can be the compassion in your life. Man, we could be wealthy in many different ways. If I die, by the way I don’t really care to die with a lot of money, but I care to be a really wealthy man with love and in life experiences and that’s good enough for me. 


So there’s a couple people here talking right now about the recovery stuff so Mely, I’m glad that helped you. Yeah, feel free, I’ll be using this in my next group. Sharon go for it, I appreciate your knowledge. You make me a better therapist. Well, hey, thank you, I’m glad as a therapist you’re still willing to learn and that’s what I do too. There’s a couple people in this group that I learned from and if I can’t find anyone around I’ll go on YouTube, or go on a podcast and I’m always trying to improve myself. We’re blessed to have such a life. Oh look at this, I’ll read this one Sharon: “We are blessed to have such a wise man in our presence to help us through these difficult times.” I just like hearing that about myself – the wise man – that was funny at some point in my life. There’s no way you would have called me a wise man, but that’s the possibility of human transformation. And yes Eileen, money for sure brings freedom and it is a gift and I do believe that money is a vehicle or a tool that brings freedom. I think our perspective can also be the same. There’s a book that I’ve suggested and I’m pretty sure you’ve probably read it but it’s called ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ and it was written by a gentleman named Victor Frankl in World War II concentration camps. Heavy read, short but heavy, and he was able to, by changing his perspective, find freedom, despite living in those circumstances. So money is a vehicle that allows us and it’s a gift that allows us to bring freedom but I think the right perspective and attitude can also be very freeing. Yeah, there you go – peace and serenity, good enough for me, it is for me too Jim. I swear man, the less stress I got in life, man the happier I am, and I always remind myself of that. So besides wealth for your lifestyle, is also your health. And again, that’s a very subjective thing. I mean you can go to the doctor and they can give you some results and they could tell you if you’re healthy or not but there’s just more to health. Mind, body, spirit, soul, relationships, you got to find out what that is for you. Your communication – a lot of people have a hard time with communication. That’s one thing I get a lot of compliments on. They say you take all these things that we always think about and you put them in a way that’s easy to understand . Well that’s a skill. What I mean is that I’ve trained at this, I’ve worked at this and I’ve gotten there. But communication is so important to overall lifestyle because if you can’t get out your thoughts and feelings you’re always going to feel like you’re kind of trapped. You’re always going to feel misunderstood and to have a good lifestyle you want to feel understood. The next one is travel and culture, and sometimes people say I don’t have the resources or the means to travel. Even traveling to different parts of the United States, even on a road trip or something like that, there’s a lot of experiences we get that take us out of our current perspective. I’ve shared this with many of you before – when I started my recovery journey I didn’t have the ability, the means, the resources, to be able to travel, I didn’t. It wasn’t even like a thought. And someone told me it’s really important for you to travel and get a better understanding of the world and culture. So what I did was I started watching this TV show called ‘Parts Unknown’ with Anthony Bourdain. I ended up falling in love with Anthony Bourdain and how he just captures moments with words, and how he articulates stuff, and how he would go to the most obscure parts of the world, and sit down with people in their homes and have meals with them, and teach about the history of the country, but I felt like I traveled the world with that man. Rest in peace. He passed away from suicide a few years ago, but man did I travel the world just sitting on my couch. So when people say they can’t travel it’s like “hey there’s ways you could travel.” We’re living in a time and generation era that you can you can see the whole damn world from your phone and that show really helped me. And the next one is your education as a part of your lifestyle. It doesn’t mean like formal education, it could be passive education, this and that. So the part that we have there is combination of personal philosophy, attitude, activity and results, creates your lifestyle. So all the four forces we talked about create your lifestyle, what you create, and how you create it is all on you, it’s none of my business, as I like to say. 


So today was pretty dynamic. There were a lot of interactions and conversations. I just want to say thank you. This Tuesday we won’t be having my family support group in person at 6:30 at Buckeye and the reason is because we’re having a memorial for someone that passed away in our community. If you want to know more, if you’re from our community, you want to know more about it, send me a message. I kind of don’t want to put it on public right now but send me a message and let me know and I can tell you if you’re interested in coming. It’s just going to be a gathering of people sharing stories and celebrating the life of a wonderful human being. I love you, I appreciate you, thank you for your compliments about this and thank you for your interaction. It really feels good for me and I will be back next week, same time, same place with another family education support group love. Appreciate all of you! Have a wonderful weekend!

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.