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Afraid that you will Lose your Friends on Your Recovery Journey?

There are 3 fears that people inevitably face when they start their healing journey. Fears that you may lose your friends, people may not like the new you, and that people will judge you. While all of those may be true, you don’t need to be afraid of them. Yes, life will change, but for the better!

Fear that you will Lose Your Friends

Anytime you’re going through the healing journey there are certain people that were a part of the old life that probably won’t be a part of your new life because you can’t have both. Sometimes you got to let go of the old to embrace the new and I always say your new life is going to cost your old life. Are you willing to pay the price? So you’re gonna lose some friends – I call them acquaintances – they could be called using buddies. It could be just people of a certain lifestyle you’re going to lose them but you’ll meet some new people in your life that are really powerful and awesome. But then also you’ll be able to selectively find out who your true friends were, who the good people were, and they’re the ones. If you had 20 of them and maybe you only keep two and it’s always about quality over quantity. 

The fear of losing friends is not too significant but it does hit people sometimes, especially the younger population. If you’re in high school or college and your friends are your life, you know your friends are your everything. No, I’m not not judging it – it’s just what happens. In high school for example, you got 50 friends and the only reason a lot of those people are friends with each other is because they happen to go inside of the same building at the same time. Because they all live in the same city within like four or five miles. That’s the only reason these people are bunched up together. It’s not because they have interests or hobbies or likes. It’s not like they’re the same song, they vibe together long term. But you might keep a few like that. But for the most part life isn’t that way. It’s harder to make friends when you’re an adult but at least you get to pick what type of people you want to bring in your circle and who you want to give your energy to.

Fear that People will not like the New You

Well, newsflash! There is a very high probability that some people did not like the old you. It’s going to be so bad that in the healing journey and trying to transform people didn’t like the old you either, you know some people, and that’s okay. Because what’s the ultimate goal of the healing journey? That you can stand in front of a mirror and say, “I like the person looking back at me.” That’s the bar and if you don’t get to that bar you’re constantly gonna look for other people to approve you and you’re going to look for other people to validate you and you’re going to look for other people to say, “oh you’re a good person.” You can’t achieve that true essence of approval until you can approve yourself and that’s one of the byproducts of the healing journey.

Fear that People will judge you

I’m gonna give you a newsflash, my friends. Ready for this? Something you might not like. People are always judging you. People are always judging me. We are always judging people. So some people right now might say like my friend Sharon just said right there from Florida, “hey you’re great, thank you for what you do, I appreciate it.” Someone else might say, “hey these talks really help me.” Someone might say, “your face is annoying and I don’t like the way you talk. You’re actually cocky or condescending.” Someone might say, “this is a waste of my time.” Someone might say, “this is such a valuable use of my time.” We are always being judged and we are always judging people. So when you go on the healing journey, yes some people will judge you. They’ll say, “oh you gotta go get help for this.” This kind of stuff happens to everybody. Just get your s___ together. They’re gonna judge you and some people might say, “I’m so proud of the work you’re doing for looking in the mirror.” “I’m so proud of the fact that you’re trying to break multi-generational patterns of trauma in your family, keep going. We’re always going to get judged. So you can choose to listen to the negative stuff or stand in your truth, stand in your authenticity, and just keep moving forward in the direction that you need to go to get to know yourself. 

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.