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Understanding The Recovery Process

Explore the transformative journey of recovery as we navigate the intricate layers of self-rediscovery. Let’s dive deep into reclaiming your essence and overcoming adversity. For a more in-depth discussion on the recovery process, watch our YouTube video below and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more empowering content about addiction recovery.

Defining The Recovery Process

Recovery is a journey of the self, through the self, and to the self. At its core, recovery signifies more than just overcoming addiction; it symbolizes a profound exploration of one’s essence. To grasp the essence of the recovery process, let’s dissect its components.

Understanding Recovery

To recover is to reclaim what was once lost, stolen, or destroyed. It’s a poignant act of redemption, a testament to resilience in the face of adversity. But recovery transcends mere restoration; it’s a rebirth, a metamorphosis of the soul.

Deciphering Process

Process denotes a sequence of deliberate actions, meticulously orchestrated to yield a desired outcome. In the context of recovery, it represents a structured journey towards healing. Every step, no matter how small, propels individuals closer to wholeness.

Overcoming Stagnation and Regression

At times, recovery may seem like a stagnant pool, devoid of progress. It’s during these moments of stagnation that individuals must summon their resilience, pushing past the barriers hindering their journey. Similarly, setbacks are an inevitable part of the process. But in the face of regression, one must persevere, drawing strength from the lessons learned along the way.

Recovery is a Journey

Above all, recovery is a journey—a voyage of self-discovery and renewal. It’s a testament to the human spirit’s capacity for transformation, reminding us that within every setback lies the seed of opportunity.

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Your Inability to Ask or Receive Support is an Issue

How many mothers and parents try their best to control the outcome of the lives of their children and they realize the more they try to control it the more it becomes out of control. The more they try to control it the more they lose control themselves. And before you know it the loved one’s sick, the mom’s sick, everyone’s sick, and it’s just a very very dysfunctional family system. Please remember this – that you did what you did at the time and it was the best you knew. Especially if you were never raised well how are you supposed to give something you don’t have? But now my friends that are better, you are responsible to do better now that you know better, you’re just responsible to do better.

Are you Living the Unlived Lives of your Mother?

Living the unlived lives of your mother and not being true to your own dreams is a sign that you have had mothering issues. Children that come from family dysfunction, a dysfunctional maternal role in their life, they start to feel guilt. And when they get older they have this perception that they have to be someone that they’re mother or maternal role would say what I’m proud of, I love and care for. And often times they don’t know that by being authentically themselves they can achieve that same outcome. So what they do is give up on their own goals and dreams and do what it is that they think that maternal role wants them to do, or be who that maternal role wants them to be, in order to receive the love they never got. I’ve had many human beings say, “The life I’m living is not the life I wanted. It’s the life I thought my parents wanted me to live.” That is so sad to give up your own authenticity to give up your own genuine kind of individuality who you are because you want the world around you to say, “Oh thank you.” How many kids go to colleges and take majors that they don’t want to take because they think that by doing so they’re living the unlived lives of their parents. So sad because in that scenario they’re never going to experience passion, happiness, joy. If anything they’re going to be resentful, pissed off, bitter people, get into relationships with people that they think that their mom wants them to get into. Who’s living your life? And that comes from the deficiency and the deficits created in childhood. So if you are living the unlived lives of those who raised you and you’re giving up your own kind of dreams, hopes, passions in life, it is a telltale sign that you need to be remothered.

Human Beings Need Support

The inability to ask and receive support is huge in life because as human beings going through life for the very first time we need to ask for help. You need to get support or else you’re not going to know what the hell you’re doing life. It’s very similar to a very complicated box that comes from Ikea and it’s got 5,000 different things that you got to do to set up one stupid item. If that box did not come with an instruction manual you will have a really hard time. Well guess what, life does not come with an instruction manual and it’s the most complex box you could ever get that you need to assemble. In order to do so you must ask for help and support. And growing up, if you were not able to ask for help from your maternal role because maybe that person was going through a lot themselves and you thought by adding a little bit of your stuff to it it’s going to overwhelm the family system, and potentially it’s going to cause harm to them, and potentially it’s gonna be a burden on them, guess what you did? You closed your mouth, you didn’t ask for help, you didn’t need support. You tried to do it on your own. Well if that was the case how is it working for you? How is life? How is living in this complicated world without asking for help and support working for you? I know it’s not really working. I’m a clinician. I sit with people. They tell me about their inability to ask for help and they’re never living lives. They’re thriving and for those people to say, “Well, I just didn’t do it because I don’t want to be a burden, I don’t want to…” where did you learn that lesson? You think if you’re an adult right now saying I don’t want to be a burden on somebody else, where do you think you learned that lesson? Please please don’t think you just learned that right now, or you’re being mindful or you’re being kind of respectful. You learn that because at some point you felt like you were a burden. So if you have the inability to ask for help seek support. It is a very very telltale sign that you need to be remothered in life.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations in Your Relationships?

If you have unrealistic expectations in various relationships it is a telltale sign that you need to be remothered by a maternal role. A mom doesn’t necessarily have to be your biological mother. A mom doesn’t necessarily have to be the person that’s supposed to be your mom. Sometimes mothers come in various different ways and shapes and sizes and forms. Sometimes it could be a stepparent. Sometimes it could be a grandparent. Sometimes it could be an older sibling and it also doesn’t even have to be a female. We had a counselor here who sometimes pops on. His name is Tony – he played the maternal role, playing the maternal role to this day, when he started working with us seven or eight years ago. He had a four-year-old daughter and the mom was not in the life and he as a father took on the maternal role and raised this person like a mom would. So a maternal role could be played by many different people but regardless of who your mom was and how they showed up or didn’t show up, I believe that all human beings that come across our path in life they’re there for either like a blessing in our life to really just say, “God, I’m so grateful to have this in my life,” or they come in, they teach us a lesson.

Know Better, Do Better

Sometimes learning what not to do is just as important as learning what to do.. By learning how not to be is just as important is learning of how to be – we learn from all that stuff if we choose to put aside the resentment, animosity, anger that we may have from an experience and say, how can I learn from this experience. And if you’re also a mom watching this right now I know that you’re here because either your loved one has had some addiction in their life, maybe they’ve had some challenges in their life, and you just want to do what you want to do to help. I want to tell you this. Please know that you didn’t solely cause the addiction, and you can’t cure it either. I know you want to just take away the pain of someone and you want to be able to make sure they’re okay but you can’t cure this thing. And trust me when I say this. You can’t control it either. How many mothers and parents try their best to control the outcome of the lives of their children and they realize the more they try to control it the more it becomes out of control. The more they try to control it the more they lose control themselves. And before you know it the loved one’s sick, the mom’s sick, everyone’s sick, and it’s just a very very dysfunctional family system. Please remember this – that you did what you did at the time and it was the best you knew. Especially if you were never raised well how are you supposed to give something you don’t have? But now my friends that are better, you are responsible to do better now that you know better, you’re just responsible to do better.

When You Notice You Have Unrealistic Expectations

A child has certain expectations. What are those expectations? To show up, to be present, to be emotionally available, to have compassion, to have love, to have support. And if you did not receive that growing up now you get into your own relationships in life and because you have this deficit of this need for a version of a human to show up in a certain way and they never showed up, guess what’s going to happen in your personal relationships? You’re going to have unrealistic expectations of your partner, of your spouse, of your child, and if you constantly see that you are hoping and expecting someone to show up a certain way and they don’t it’s not because that person’s wrong or bad. It’s not because you’re bad. It just has to do with the fact that growing up you wanted someone to show up in a certain way and they didn’t. So that’s a telltale sign right there – number one, unrealistic expectations in various relationships. So you can do your own assessment of the relationships in your life and check what your expectations are of the people and places and things in it. If they’re unrealistic, if you want someone to do something they can’t do, potentially it goes back to your own upbringing in your own childhood.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

5 Keys to Re-mothering Yourself

Today we are talking about Mother’s Day, and here’s the reality of it. So either you were mothered in life, you have a need to be remothered. Either your mom was loving, supportive, nurturing, or your mom was cold, distant, absent, or it was a combination of both of those things. It’s not this or that in life, it never is this or that in life. Some people are a range of life experiences but the most important part to know is this. At the end of the day it is our responsibility as adults to look at the life that we have, to look at the world that created ourselves and our development, and also to look at the future that we’re walking into. So if you had love, care, nurture, support growing up, and right now you’re doing okay and you’re in healthy relationships, good on the world that raised you the way you needed it. And if you didn’t, and right now you have all these challenges in your life, I want you to know the following. That it does not mean that’s going to be the story for the rest of your life unless you choose not to do anything about it, and not take responsibility for your healing, and not take responsibility for potentially the need to re-mothered. Here are 5 keys how to re-mother yourself.

1. You Need to Have Patience

How long did it take for you to grow up? It’s relevant to how old you are but those first few years. It took some time for those neural pathways to get developed for your ability or inability to trust the world to get established, for your communication patterns to be rooted into your mind, for the way you process your emotions to be able to manifest, it took a while. And now you’ve said, “Okay well, I need to be re-mothered now.” It ain’t going to happen now. You got to be patient in this process. Patience is a virtue. Patience is something that lacks in our society. Patience is something that lacks on an individual level. Because we are all transformed into these damn instant gratification junkies that want everything to happen right now. And if you want to be re-mothered that is whole and healthy and loving and nurturing, and like I say every week and I’ll continue to say it every week, direction is more important than speed. So as long as you’re going in the right direction you’re going to get there but you have to have patience to do it.

2. Learning that Discipline is a Good Thing

Who would have thought that discipline is a good thing? Oh my God, it is discipline. Unfortunately in our society it has been entwined or intertangled or bunched together with negative connotations. When someone is bad they must be disciplined, when something has gone wrong it needs to have discipline to course correct it. There’s a time and place for that. However discipline, true discipline, has nothing to do with the actions you’ve taken or haven’t taken. Discipline has to do in the present moment, on a day-to-day basis, how you live your life. Are you willing to do the things you need to do even when you don’t want to do them? Are you willing to do the things that you need to do even when it’s uncomfortable to do them? Are you willing to sacrifice some of your pleasure and leisure to take care of business in order to create times to have pleasure and leisure in the the future? Discipline is a very powerful thing. It’s the key to success in the recovery process, the key to success in life, in business, in school, in relationships. Those who have discipline are the ones who succeed. Because if not, you just wake up and you say, “I’m the spontaneous type and I like to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I like to do what I feel like doing.” Man, you’re going to live such a mediocre life. You’re never going to feel like doing the things you need to do all the time. Discipline, structure and it’s things we need. A lot of people come from homes like a divorced household, or a split marriage household, for a fact that the guilt that existed in mom or dad or both was so high sometimes that they just let you get away with whatever you wanted to get away with. There was no discipline. You turn into their friend, you turn into their homie that you could do whatever wrong, or no one’s supervising you. There was no discipline. So if you lack discipline growing up and no one’s around, I mean no one’s disciplining adults right now,  so you got to discipline yourself. That’s a form of re-mothered self-care. It’s the key.

3. Learn how to have Balance in your Life

If you never had someone to care for you must learn how to have balance in your life in order to care for the mind, the body, the spirit, the soul of you. How do you live a balanced life? A lot of people say they struggle with balance. The reason why they struggle with balance is because they struggle with balance on a day-to-day basis. See, if you want to have balance in your life here’s the tip. You got to have balance in your day. So if you want to feel rested in life, if you want to feel like you’re having fun in life, if you want to feel like you’re moving forward in life, if you want to feel like you have relationships and social relationships and personal relationships and downtime in a balanced way in your life, then you’re responsible for creating all of that in one day. If you have it for one day, you have a balanced day, if you repeat that process the next day, the next day, the next day for seven days in a row you will have experienced potentially for the first time, your first balanced week in life. Put four of those weeks together and you might have a balanced month. Put 12 of those months together and you’re going to have a balanced year and you no longer will struggle with balance. And how do we have balance in our day? Well, look at all the things you need in your life. You need rest, you need nutrients, you need fun, you need work, you need passion, you need socialization. Okay, eight hours of it, give or take, go to rest. If you’re sleeping at midnight and waking up at 5: if you’re sleeping late watching TV, this and that and you’re tired in the morning you just caused balance to not exist in your life. It has nothing to do with life. So eight hours of it goes to sleep. Eight hours of it could go to work, whether you’re home, or in the office, or go to school, whatever, it is eight hours of that. There’s eight hours left. If you do not incorporate balance in those eight hours you will not have a balanced life. Spend some time eating stuff that’s nutrious and balanced that feeds you, that fuels you. Spend some time talking to people that you love and care for. Spend some time doing something that’s fun for you. Spend some time doing something for your body. Spend some time, whatever else the other things you need in life to have balance, do it one day, you have a balanced day. Do it every day and you got a balanced life. Some people say every day is a little too much for them. Well, guess what? Either you’re gonna do it or you’re not. Either you’re gonna have balance in your life or you’re not. I personally don’t care what you do or not. I do, I got structure, I got discipline, I got balance, that’s how I have this vitality to do what I do. And if you’ve never seen me talk before and you’re just watching for the first time go watch the past four years of videos. Every single time I’m just like this. The only way I show up like this is because I have balance in my life.

4. Have Compassion and Unconditional Positive Regard

If you’re trying to mother yourself have some compassion for the self. Remember, if you came from a traumatic upbringing, if you didn’t have love, if you didn’t have nature, if you didn’t have nurture, if you didn’t have support, guess what? There’s still a wounded child inside of you. That wounded child is who you are trying to mother, and if something or someone is wounded and you don’t have compassion towards that person what does it say about you? I know you’re not cold and callous and harsh but if you don’t have compassion for your wound itself you’re not doing a good job in the re-mothering regard. What does that mean? No matter what you do when you’re trying to change, don’t be so harsh on yourself. You will make mistakes and that’s okay. You will struggle with your transformation and that’s okay. Just have unconditional positive regard. Because you’re trying the best you can to change these multigenerational patterns.

5. Break the Cycle

Show up as the person you always needed but never had. Show up as that maternal role that gives love, nurture, caring to self and to others. If enough people break the cycle and remother themselves when needed they will be able to transform this freaking world. However, despite the fact that probably millions of people need to do it only a fraction of them actually do and that’s just human nature I guess.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

10 Clues for Success in Recovery

Success leaves behind a trail of clues. Are you ready to follow them? Let’s delve into this concept by drawing inspiration from the profound insights of luminaries such as Rob Bell, Jim Rohn, and Anthony Robbins. In our YouTube video below, we unravel the ten essential clues left by successful individuals, providing a roadmap for transformative change. Join us on this journey of discovery and unlock the secrets to achieving your own success. Remember to watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more insightful tips on personal development.

10 Clues to Transform Your Life

Finding Purpose:

Reconnect with your purpose, transcending conventional notions of religion.

Self-Confidence:

Cultivate confidence through consistent daily habits and disciplines.

Enthusiasm:

Nurture your goals with relentless enthusiasm and proactive effort.

Expertise:

Sharpen your skills and knowledge to become an expert in your field.

Preparation:

Success favors the prepared mind; be ready to seize opportunities.

Sense of Responsibility:

Embrace accountability and ownership for your actions.

Image:

Present yourself authentically and positively to the world.

Character:

Develop integrity and values that elevate your worth.

Self-Discipline:

Master the art of doing what needs to be done, even when it’s challenging.

Extraordinary:

Differentiate yourself by going above and beyond the ordinary.

Take Action Toward Success

Now armed with these invaluable clues, it’s time to take action. Whether you’re on the journey of addiction recovery or seeking personal growth, incorporating these principles into your life can lead to profound transformations. Watch our YouTube video to dive deeper into each clue, and start applying them today.

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For personalized addiction treatment and support, contact Buckeye Recovery Network at 949.258.7580. Don’t forget to watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more insightful content on addiction recovery and personal development. Your journey to success starts now.

The Keys to Personal Development

“For things to change, you have to change.” These words by Jim Rohn encapsulate a fundamental truth in personal development. Understanding and embracing this quote is pivotal in the journey toward growth. Let’s explore this statement’s significance and break down the acronym “Development,” revealing the essential characteristics for meaningful change. Watch our YouTube video below for more in-depth insight on this topic. Remember to share and subscribe to our channel for valuable personal development and transformation insights.

Deciding for Change

D – Decide: At the core of personal development lies the power of decision. It’s about committing fully to a path, understanding that to move forward, you must eliminate other options.

Embracing Eagerness

E – Eagerness: Recapture the excitement of anticipation. Channel that eagerness into your pursuit of growth, fueling your journey with enthusiasm and a relentless drive for progress.

Embodying Values

V – Values: Your values are the essence of who you are. They guide your actions and shape your identity. Embrace your unique set of values, allowing them to permeate every aspect of your life.

Consistency Every Day

E – Everyday: Success is not achieved overnight. It’s the result of consistent, disciplined effort every single day. Embrace the journey, knowing that small daily actions lead to significant long-term results.

Embracing Lifestyle Changes

L – Lifestyle: Transformation often requires leaving behind the familiar and stepping into the unknown. Are you prepared to let go of old habits and embrace the lifestyle necessary for your desired future?

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

O – Overcoming: Break free from the shackles of limiting beliefs. Challenge the narratives imposed upon you and take bold, decisive action to redefine your possibilities.

Harnessing the Power of Planning

P – Planning: Success favors the prepared mind. Embrace the power of planning, laying the groundwork for your aspirations and ensuring you’re equipped to navigate challenges along the way.

Cultivating a Growth Mindset

M – Mindset: Your mindset shapes your reality. Take ownership of your thoughts and beliefs, recognizing that you have the power to create the world you desire.

Managing Expectations

E – Expectations: Manage your expectations wisely. Recognize that unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and heartache, tempering them with realism and resilience.

Learning to Say No

N – NO: Learn the art of saying no. Prioritize your goals and guard your time fiercely, understanding that saying no to distractions is saying yes to your dreams.

Thriving Together

T – Together: Foster connections and collaborations. Recognize the value of community and support as you embark on your journey of personal development. Remember, if you want to go far, go together.

Take Action Today!

Remember that transformation is within reach as you enter your personal development journey. Watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more insights and guidance on your path to growth. For addiction treatment and support, contact Buckeye Recovery Network at 949.258.7580.

The Backpack of Life in Addiction Recovery

Imagine carrying a heavy backpack everywhere you go. But this isn’t just any backpack—it’s filled with the weight of your past: regrets, traumas, and unresolved emotions. This metaphorical burden, known as The Backpack of Life, weighs on your shoulders, influencing every aspect of your journey. Join us as we explore this concept through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections. We explore the profound impact of addiction on individuals’ lives and the transformative power of shedding the past’s burdens. Watch our YouTube video below to gain a more in-depth understanding, and don’t forget to share and subscribe to our channel for more insightful content.

Understanding The Backpack of Life

Addiction isn’t just physical; it’s a complex mix of psychological and emotional burdens. The Backpack of Life represents the weight of past traumas, regrets, and unresolved emotions that individuals carry, often without realizing. Like a heavy burden, addiction strains the mind and spirit, profoundly impacting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

When suffering loses its value, healing becomes instantaneous. Confronting The Backpack of Life helps individuals break free from addiction’s chains, paving the way for healing and growth.

Codependent Toxic Relationships

In the realm of addiction, codependent toxic relationships only add to the weight of The Backpack of Life. These relationships, marked by dependency and enabling behaviors, further entangle individuals.

Awareness is crucial for liberation. Recognizing codependency patterns within The Backpack of Life empowers individuals to build healthier connections grounded in respect and support.

Take Action With Buckeye Recovery Today

Ready to embark on your journey towards healing? Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today at 949.258.7580 to take the first step towards liberation from addiction’s grip. Remember to watch our accompanying YouTube video for deeper insights and inspiration. Please share it with those who may benefit from it and subscribe to our YouTube channel to stay updated on our latest content.

Embracing Change in Addiction Recovery

If you seek to make changes in your life, it’s crucial to understand that it takes more than just wanting it. You need a set of essential ingredients to fuel your journey. Imagine a simple acronym, ‘CHANGE,’ representing the fundamental elements necessary for meaningful growth. From summoning the courage to face fears to embracing humility as you progress, each component is vital. Our YouTube video below explores the art of making meaningful changes in your life, especially in addiction recovery. Watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more inspiring insights.

Defining "Change"

Change isn’t merely a concept; it’s a process that demands dedication and resilience. Let’s break down each ingredient of “CHANGE”:

C – Courage: Summon the bravery to confront your fears head-on. Despite the uncertainty, taking action is paramount.

C – Commitment: Sustain your momentum beyond the initial burst of motivation. Genuine commitment endures, even when enthusiasm wanes.

C – Compassion: Practice kindness towards yourself. Silence the inner critic and embrace self-compassion as you navigate challenges.

H – Honesty: Align your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Acknowledge and express your emotions authentically, without judgment.

H – Help: Recognize the power of seeking assistance. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a courageous step towards growth.

H – Humility: Stay grounded amidst progress. Remember your journey’s beginnings and remain humble as you evolve.

A – Accountability: Hold yourself responsible for your actions. Whether to yourself or others, accountability fosters growth and integrity.

A – Adaptability: Embrace flexibility in your approach. Be willing to pivot and adjust course when necessary, embracing detours as part of the journey.

A – Acceptance: Embrace yourself unconditionally. True transformation begins with accepting yourself at every stage of the process.

N – NO: Set boundaries and prioritize self-care. Master the art of saying no to protect your well-being and honor your goals.

G – Goals: Set clear objectives and milestones. Our video “6 Steps to Riches” guides you through establishing and managing goals effectively.

G – Generosity: Share what you can, however small. Cultivate a spirit of giving, knowing that generosity breeds abundance.

G – Gratitude: Express appreciation openly. Gratitude fuels positivity and connection, enriching your journey with meaning.

E – Everyday: Consistency is key. Take daily actions aligned with your goals, knowing that progress is made one step at a time.

Your Journey Starts Now

Change is not just about starting; it’s about finishing with integrity. At Buckeye Recovery Network, we’re here to support you every step of the way. If you’re ready to embark on a transformative journey toward addiction recovery, call us today at 949.258.7580. Watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for insights, guidance, and inspiration. Remember, the power to change lies within you. How bad do you want it?

9 Emotional Masks in Addiction Recovery

In Japanese culture, it’s said you have three faces: one for the world, one for close ones, and one deeply hidden. Going beyond that, let’s uncover the nine emotional masks people hide behind. Understanding these emotional masks can be particularly enlightening for those in addiction recovery, offering invaluable insights into the complexities of identity and self-discovery on the path to healing. For a more detailed explanation of this topic, watch our YouTube video below and share it with anyone you think may benefit. Additionally, subscribe to our channel for more inspiring insights.

Understanding the 9 Emotional Masks

Emotional masks serve as shields, concealing our true selves from the world. These masks, rooted in past experiences, traumas, and unresolved emotions, manifest in various forms, each with its unique purpose. Let’s uncover the nine masks:

  1. The Humorist: Using humor to deflect deeper emotions.
  2. The Overachiever: Striving for success to mask insecurities.
  3. The Martyr: Sacrificing for others to gain validation.
  4. The Bully: Projecting strength to cover vulnerabilities.
  5. The Control Freak: Seeking control amidst chaos and uncertainty.
  6. The Self-Basher: Criticizing oneself as a defense mechanism.
  7. The People-Pleaser: Prioritizing others’ needs over one’s own.
  8. The Introvert: Withdrawing to avoid confronting inner turmoil.
  9. The Social Butterfly: Seeking constant external validation through social interactions.

Unmasking the Masks

Our video above offers invaluable insights and eight practical tips for peeling away these masks and embracing authenticity. By confronting our fears, acknowledging our genuine emotions, and aligning with our core values, we can embark on a journey toward genuine self-expression.

Questions to Consider:

To further your understanding, ponder these questions:

  • When and where did you learn to wear your mask?
  • How does it serve or hinder you? What are the costs?
  • What does living authentically look like for you?
  • What fears hold you back from removing the mask?

Take Action with Buckeye Recovery Network!

Ready to shed your emotional masks and embark on a path to genuine living? Contact Buckeye Recovery Network at 949.258.7580 to explore our tailored addiction treatment programs. Don’t forget to watch, share, and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more empowering content.

Follow your Values and Do the Right Thing

To understand and implement your personal values first you got to clearly define what your values are. President John F Kennedy said, “Stand for something or you will fall for anything.” So you got to make sure what are the things in my life that I stand for, what are your values? Are they honesty? Are they integrity? Are they healthy communication? Because if they are, every time you’re dishonest, every time you have no integrity, every time you communicate with passive aggressiveness, or with anger, you are living incongruent to your values. And what happens if we live incongruent to our values? That’s where a lot of stuff, frustration and guilt and shame, and lack of passion, and lack of motivation, lack of drive lives. When our values and our actions align that’s one of the strongest version of ourselves. And if you don’t know what your values are go online, look at values clarification exercises, identify your top 10 most important values, and then live by them. You’ll transform your experience. When you live by your values, if someone says my values is health and they’re eating crap and they’re sitting on a couch and they’re not moving, their values and their actions do not align. Therefore they’re going to feel bad about themselves. They might even go to the point of saying, “I don’t like myself, I hate myself.” But if someone says my values is health and they eat clean and they don’t consume crap on television and they go outside for an hour walk every day, all of a sudden they start to feel better and say, “I kind of like myself.” Values, actions, align them, it’s a positive thing.

Do the Right Thing when No One is Watching

This is very important because when we do the right thing when no one is watching, it creates this thing called integrity. Integrity for example, Integrity of furniture means it’s really strong and sturdy. Integrity of a human being allows them to not break despite of circumstances around them really really wanting to break them, despite of people around them, people, places and things really trying to break them. Integrity makes us stay whole and complete despite of circumstances. How do we develop our integrity? Do the right thing when no one’s watching. Do the right thing when no one’s watching, and that’s how we get to experience it. It’s a powerful, powerful thing. And in the early stages it’s easy to kind of do all the right things and say all the right things because you feel if the spotlight’s on and everyone’s watching and all that kind of stuff, but down the line when no one’s around who are you, and what are you doing, and how are you living your life?

Recovery is for Me

June 13th of 2008 is the day that I decided I can no longer live the way I’m living with drugs and alcohol, and I need to do something different for my life. At that time in my life, you got to understand this, I was pretty depressed. I was a 25 year old with no education, a 25 year old with no real job, a 25 year old that was struggling in all different aspects of life, no relationships, none of that stuff. And during that time my family was going through some stuff. My mom wasn’t feeling that well. She was diagnosed with some health conditions and I was just tired of hurting them, hurting mom and dad, and hurting all those people, and pretty much what I wanted to do was do it for my mom. I know in recovery there’s certain people that say if you don’t do it for yourself it doesn’t matter. I believe it’s okay in the beginning to do it for someone else but here’s the thing – that won’t work and it won’t sustain if that’s the only motivating factor. So eventually the goal of recovery is to go from being externally motivated which I was for my mom, to being internally motivated which is I’m here for myself. 

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.