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Believe in Yourself. Doing the Right Thing is Never Wrong

If you watched the show Ted Lasso, they have the little side on the locker room and it says ‘Believe,’ and I’ll tell you why this is important. We can go back to what Henry Ford said a long time ago when he said this: “Whether you think you can or you can’t you’re right.” Lots of human beings come into the recovery process, either themselves or their families, not knowing or believing if they can succeed and they’ve already missed the most important foundational element of succeeding, and that’s the belief that they can. The same way that I say I believe in the possibility of human transformation is the reason why I see transformations. It’s because of that belief. If I didn’t believe in it I would never see transformation. And you gotta believe that you watching this right now can accomplish what it is you set out to accomplish. I’m telling you, if you don’t believe you can do it you can’t. 

And the show right here, it really emphasizes that. I mean that’s a central theme that if you believe that you can do something you really can. And this is something that we tell kids all the time. We tell little children that if you believe it, you can do it. If you believe it you can conceive it. But with adults we forget that message and that’s such a sad sad sad transition.

Belief Creates Self-confidence

A lot of people coming into the recovery process don’t have confidence that they can achieve their goals. So where does it come from? If at the end of the day, you were able to achieve a list of tasks that you had set out for yourself, at the end of the day you start to gain a little bit of self-confidence. And if you repeat that process over the course of a day, a week, a month, your self-esteem and self-confidence increases. Self-esteem comes from doing esteemable acts. What kind of sustainable acts do you put in your day to accomplish? And once you get that your self-confidence will inspire those around you to foster a sense of trust and respect. How many of us want to be trusted? How many of us want to be respected? All of us. Well, how do we become trusted and respected is by believing in yourself and having self-confidence in the things you’re doing, including the recovery process. 

Doing the Right Thing is Never the Wrong Thing

In a world filled with ethical dilemmas and gray areas, prioritizing integrity and moral values is crucial. Make decisions based on what is right and fair, not just what is convenient and profitable. So there’s never a wrong time to do the right thing, never. And how do we know? In a world full of ethical dilemmas and gray areas how do we go about it is this. Identify your values. I can’t be more serious about this – to identify your values. My values and your values might be different but you have to identify your values, and here’s the reason why. If your values in life are honesty, hard work and family, for example, you’ve sat down and said these are the important things in my life. And if you don’t live a life that’s honest, if you live a life that’s free of hard work and you just kind of coast every day, if you live a life that you don’t engage with your family, or try to spend time with your family, you will feel negatively impacted. You will feel disempowered. You will feel weak. But if you live a life that aligns with your values, you tell the truth, you work hard, you spend time with your family, you will feel empowered. So if you want to find out what you do in life matches what your values are, it’s called being congruent. The more congruent you are the better you’re going to feel.

Discipline is defined as doing what you know you need to do even when you don’t want to do it.

So discipline can also be referred to as the right thing, and that’s a very important factor when it comes to recovery. Because guess what? A majority of the things that you have to do in your recovery process and early recovery are things that you don’t want to do. But you got to do them. And so that’s number two, which I think is really really important in a strong moral compass, kind of like our North Star. It’s our way we navigate through life, so make sure you got a strong one. Make sure you understand what that means for you.

Remember to tell the truth

This is a big theme of Ted Lasso but honesty is essential for building trust and credibility. A culture of honesty fosters accountability, mutual respect. It’s really important to be transparent and tell the truth. Sometimes we think if I tell the truth, what are they going to think? If I tell the truth how am I going to be perceived? If I tell the truth, are they going to judge me? See, what people do or don’t do when you do the right thing is none of your business. We tell the truth because telling the truth is what we often need to do to set ourselves free. Now if that truth comes with a little bit of judgment, if that truth comes with a little bit of talking about us in various ways, it’s none of your business. You tell the truth because you got to tell the truth. The truth will set you free. We’ve heard this thousands of times before but we’re so afraid of telling the truth because we’re afraid of the consequences that it might have. Primarily the consequence of judgment. But the more you tell the truth the easier it is to live an honest life. So tell the truth, tell the truth. Not just about the actions you take but tell the truth about your feelings. When someone asks you the following question, “Hey, how are you doing today? How are you feeling today?” and you say, “I’m okay,” but if you’re actually dying inside in that moment you didn’t tell the truth. Maybe you didn’t lie directly, maybe you lied by omission but the moment you say, “I’m actually really struggling today, I’m full of fear, and I don’t know what to do,” in that moment you showed up and in that moment you have the possibility to access the possibility to change. But as long as you just suppress things and lie and omit and all that kind of stuff you’ll never truly transform. 

I got to be able to be a truthful, honest human being, because that’s what I have to do for my mental health, my recovery, and whatever my family thinks or doesn’t think it’s okay. And we don’t tell the truth for other people. I mean that’s ridiculous. We tell the truth for ourselves and hopefully other people benefit from that transformation.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.