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Change your Negative Life into a Positive Life

In the world of people who struggle with mental illness, substance abuse, maladaptive behaviors, they love instant gratification. I mean, our freaking whole society does, but they love it even more. Because when they feel their emotions get dysregulated they seek for something to chill it out right then and there, to calm them down right then, and then take the anxiety away, take the sadness away. People in society, if they’re feeling down and stressed out they’ll go buy a bunch of stuff, they go to the store for retail therapy. They’ll feel a little bit better right there. People go eat a bunch of stuff to feel better right there. They go date somebody, call someone they know they shouldn’t hang out with, just to get that little validation and that warmth and that lack of loneliness. But here’s the thing – if you have an uncontrolled desire in life to continuously get something for nothing, to not put in the work, the effort, the energy, the bandwidth needed in order to earn what it is you get, it’s going to lead to failure because it’s not sustainable. Now once in a while it’s okay to just come home and relax and just kind of be at peace and not do anything. That’s okay once in a while, but in life you have to do, in order to get. You have to be engaged in order to receive. I mean it’s just that’s the way it works. And a lot of people who struggle with mental health, mental illness, they don’t put in the work and it’s because their life has been so hard before, and now it’s like, “Man, I just don’t want to do it anymore,” but that’s not going to work either.

The Power of Perspective

Our negative personality people out there, where are you? I have a lot of empathy for you, you know, I really do, because I don’t believe that it’s something that we’re born with. I don’t believe that some people are just super negative all the time, I really don’t. I know that if someone is very negative as an adult there is a very high possibility and probability that somebody was very negative in their life, very critical in their life, never saw the good in their life. And as a result they start to develop a specific way that they view themselves and view the world which is in a negative light, but again it’s a choice. So I’m going to teach you guys something about the power of our perspective. When something happens in life or when you view something in life or when you experience something in life, in that moment, in that very moment, we are given a choice and that choice is the perspective that we choose to view that event or situation or person as if you view it in a negative way. That doesn’t mean that thing is negative. It just means that you’re viewing it in a negative way. If you view it in a positive way it doesn’t mean that thing is positive, but you’re just viewing it. Things and circumstances have no meanings on their own. They really really don’t. It’s the meaning we give to it. It’s the perspective we give to it. It’s the choice of the power of our perspective. For example, someone might wake up in the morning and say I have to go to work today, and someone wakes up in the morning and says I get to go to work today. See, “I have to go to work” – the negative connotation about the force, the being pulled somewhere against your own will because you have to, because you have to pay the bills and survive. Versus “I get to go to work today,” meaning I’m lucky enough to have a job, I’m lucky enough that my body and mind is able to work, I’m lucky enough that I’ll hopefully get some money out of this so I could pay my bills. Just that different view – “I have to go to work,” “I get to go to work today.” Just that different view, I promise you is the difference between a high quality life and a low quality life. You might be saying this guy’s crazy but now apply that to everything. “I gotta go work out.” “Oh my God, I gotta go work out.” “I have to go work out,” and “I get to go work out today, thank God!” Apply that to everything.

Your Homework Assignment

If you’re a negative person, well the homework assignment that I have for you – I have some homework for you. Each day, whether in the morning or sometime like a spot check throughout the day or just at the end of the night, I want you to sit down on your phone or pen and paper and write down five positive things that happened. Five positive things you saw, five positive experiences you had, five positive moments that you downloaded that day, write them down. And I want you to do that every single night. Five positive things that happened and you know what, if everything else was negative in your life that’s okay. Force yourself to find five. If you can’t find five try a little harder. If you can’t find five try a little harder and what happens is by the end of a month – it’s only a one month assignment –  you’re going to have 150 examples of positive things that happened in your day, in your world, in your life. And as a negative person I want you to look and say I see the world negatively at all times. I think everything’s bad and you know doomsday is happening. But you see those 150 examples of positive good things that happened in your life and I want you to really look at it and really start to challenge your mindset and say, “Wait, is the life I have as negative as I think it is? Are the situations I’m in as negative as I think they are? Or is there some positivity in my life?” And what happens is, the more you start to focus on the positive side something really cool is going to happen. The world is going to start showing up more positively. 

There’s a couple quotes in when I talk about perspective I always share. They’re both by Wayne Dyer. The first one is, “Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world.” Same world. The second one is, “When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.” So there it is for you. When it comes to your perspective if you’re a negative person it’s all a mindset thing. I could find happiness and peace anywhere if I choose to, anywhere in any given moment. And early on in recovery I was trained by somebody that told me, “in recovery we only have good days and better days. We don’t have any bad days.” And he said, “A bad day is when you close your eyes and you take a walk down memory lane to a time and place in which you were depressed, hopeless, helpless, lost under the influence of drugs. People don’t trust you. Those are bad days. Everything else now is just good or better.” We can experience some painful life experiences but they don’t have to dictate the perspective we view life in. It’s just a moment in time so remember you have the choice of the perspective you choose in all given situations.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.