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Disordered Eating is a Telltale Sign You Need Re-mothering

If you are unable to practice foundational self-care, taking care of yourself, you may notice it in other areas of your life, such as disordered eating. So what does that mean? Well, who’s supposed to take care of a child? The family system, right? The mom, the dad, and there are certain things that the maternal role needs to do and that is to provide care for the child, to love, to support, to help them rest, to help them understand the value of taking care of themselves, to help them feel safe in this world, that oftentimes could feel unsafe and scary if you did not receive that support and love and care from the primary caregiver in the maternal role, you are unable to do so right now as an adult. You don’t care what you put into your body, you don’t care what time you sleep at night, you don’t care what time you wake up, you don’t care about your emotional needs, you do not address foundational self-care in your life. You never learned it growing up when you needed to learn it and now that everyone’s telling you that you must do X, Y and Z, you don’t know how to do it. So if you look through your life and all these counselors and clinicians and self-help places are saying self-care, self-care, self-care but you’re constantly avoiding and neglecting self and not taking care of yourself, it is a sign that you need to be remothered.


What is Nutrition?

So nutrition is kind of the gateway to our overall health movement. Nutrition is feeding our thoughts, feeding our mind, feeding our soul with things that nourish us. Where do we learn that from? Often times from the maternal role growing up. I mean, the connection of intimately feeding a human being is our first relationship that we have with food. The way that we’re loved and nurtured when breastfeeding for example, or bottle, whatever it is, it’s our first experience of exposure to food. So if that relationship was dysfunctional and on top of that if you had a mom that was hypercritical, if you had a mom that was judgmental, if you had a mom that had her own issues because their mom was the same way to them, guess how they’re going to be with you? They’re going to say things that are going to be harsh and mean and critical. They’re going to make comments about the way you look and the way that you present yourself to the world. They’ll even say, “If you look like that you’re never going to find happiness in life.” And when you start doing that at a young age to a human being and a child that’s developing, they’re going to start to have certain ideas around nutrition and eating and diet and it could turn into Eating Disorders. 

Body Dysmorphia is a Co-occurring Disorder

Eating Disorders are not exclusive to females. Please break that stigma that it’s just a female thing. Males have Eating Disorders as well. Body Dysmorphia is not just a female thing. Males have Body Dysmorphia as well and it all comes from low self-esteem, fear of criticism, feeling like you’re not good enough if you don’t look a certain way. I have a lot of compassion for people that struggle with eating disorders and body image issues and stuff, because food is one of the only drugs in this world that we actually need for survival. We actually need it for survival. And if you have an unhealthy relationship with what is needed for survival imagine how survival is going to be. It is not a pretty experience. Eating Disorders are also comorbid or they’re also co-occurring with other mental health disorders such as anxiety disorders, such as substance abuse, such as maladaptive behaviors, and coping skills like self harm, cutting, all that kind of stuff. So it’s very tangled and it’s very impactful to the life of a person. So if you have an eating disorder and by the way, live in society we sometimes need re-mothering. Here’s another word, here’s another phrase. Some of us, if not all of us, need to re-mother ourselves from the way that society has raised us. Society creates these standards, these goals in these kind of ways of being that are idealistic, sometimes not realistic, and it becomes this vision that we need to live up to. First of all, who the hell is society in the first place? And why do we have to live up to the standards of it? So we need to mother ourselves from what we’ve been programmed, of how we need to live this thing called life. And if you struggle with eating disorders please get help for it. It’s something that needs to be addressed. The sooner you have a healthy relationship with food and what you consume the sooner you’ll be able to start improving your mental health. Because if you’re always in a deficit nutritionally it’s really hard to address anything else. There’s a form of therapy called intuitive eating. Intuitive therapy. You should look it up. It changes your relationship with food if that’s what you’re going through. If you have Eating Disorders it’s a telltale sign that you might need to remother yourself.

Asking for Help can be Difficult in Early Recovery

‘I got this’ is not our solution.” ‘I got this’, in general, once in a while it’s okay. Like, “Hey no, I got this,” if you feel competent enough to do it, it’s okay to say ‘I got this’ but if you have no idea what you’re doing, like no idea, and you say ‘I got this’ you really got to look into why am I even doing that? Why am I even thinking that I got this when I don’t? It just means you come from dysfunction that you had to get this on your own or else nobody else would.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.