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Don’t Be Realistic. Dream Big

You know when someone comes to me and says, hey, I want to do this or I want to do that, I say, “heck yes, let’s! That’s what you want to do? Do you want to go to school to do this? Let’s find out what you got to do to get there. It’s going to take you a while. Do you understand?” They’re like, “yes, alright man, nothing can get in the way now.” You start with where you are, with what you got, you take a class or two, you know it took me seven years. I started going to school at 25. I didn’t graduate school till I was 32. I wanted to be a therapist so if I said I want to be a therapist at 25 they’re like, “man, just be realistic, just get a regular job. You got to make some money, you got to do this, you got to do that.”

Don’t Water Down Your Dreams

When people tell you to be realistic, or people kind of water down your dreams, or they kind of discourage you to not pursue something, you know what that actually is? It’s their own fears and their own inadequacies and their own understanding that they didn’t have the courage to actually do what they wanted to do. And guess what, that is so sad. Just because somebody else doesn’t have the courage to actually do something that the world thinks is crazy doesn’t mean you have to follow suit with that. That goes back to society man, and that goes back to the wrong ways of thinking. Don’t get me wrong – if you come to me, if you’re like a 5’6” person that’s never played sports before and you’re 18 years old, you say “I want to go play in the NBA,” I’m like “ah, do you love basketball?” and you might say, “yes.” I’m like, “do you love being around the sports?” You might say, “do you know the human anatomy? Do you like understanding how to heal and help and all that kind of stuff?” They might say yes. I’m like, “Alright man, Kinesiology. Go try to work for a professional sports team. Go try to be a trainer. Go try to be a part of an organization. Go try to be a staff member. Go try to be the person that records videos. Go try to be the person that scouts. There’s a world within a world of basketball. You might not be one of the athletes on the court but guess what, each team has over 23,000 staff members that work for them. Each college, university has hundreds of staff members that work in the athletic departments. Pursue your goals and dreams, man.”

“As soon as anyone starts telling you to be realistic, cross that person off your invitation list.”

I’ll never put anybody down with their dreams ever, because you want to know who actually gets things done are those who are crazy enough to go out and do it. Nobody’s ever done anything like all these entrepreneurs think everybody in their family tells them it’s a bad idea, go to school. Every single person. And they’re like, “no, I just have to do this,” and they eventually do it, and trust me there’s a lot of failure in that world. But don’t ever listen to people that tell you to play life safe. Strive for the best and you’ll be the best. I’m a big believer of this. It’s your own best. If you can strive to be your own best version every day you’ll become the best 100%. But when we compare ourselves to somebody else’s best, that’s where we can go wrong. But always you know, strive for your best.

Having Sight but No Vision

I don’t know what it’s like to be blind, right? I could close my eyes and I can go through this thing called life and I could really struggle through the uncertainty and the unknown and potential fear and darkness, but I get to open my eyes again, right? But there are people that walk around this life with their eyes open, seeing the things in front of them, seeing what’s coming at them, but they have no vision beyond that. They can’t see beyond the present moment. They can’t see, they can’t visualize a week from now, a month from now, a year from now. Because if you’re able to have a vision of the future then you can actually make it become a reality. I say this every week and I’ll say it again – everything in life is made twice – once inside the mind, and once inside reality. If you can’t visualize a world for yourself that is different than the world you have, the world in the future will not change. If you don’t have a vision of who you want to be, how you want to live, how you want to feel in this thing called life, then none of those will ever come true.

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.”

See, you can have sight, you can see, but seeing and vision are two completely different things. Eyesight and vision are two completely different things. I could see this computer screen but if I can’t see a moment in my life a year from now, that’s not able to be tracked with my eyes in this current moment, then that will never come true. 

I visualize everything. I can’t even tell you guys, I visualized becoming a therapist when I just started back at Community College. I visualized my college degree. I wrote my name on it and wrote a bachelor’s in it when I didn’t have one. I visualized becoming a college teacher. I could just see myself, close my eyes and see myself teaching the students in the college. I visualized becoming a business owner, you know seeing my name as one of the owners of a business. I visualized myself standing on a podium of a sport that I’ve never played in my life but somehow I’ve managed to earn multiple medals in different competitions in different states of the United States. Long before I accomplish any of these I visualize it first, I crystallize it. And not only do I just visualize it, I experience it. I experience the emotions that would be connected to the moment that I actually make it a reality. And those emotions have intensity, and that intensity brings a sense of urgency, and that sense of urgency brings a sense of passion and purpose. If I have a goal 10 years down the line to be traveling and doing speaking engagements for thousands of people I don’t just wait for 10 years down the line to come and happen. In my mind right now there’s already thousands of people in a conference room somewhere listening. I just haven’t spoken yet. That moment just hasn’t arrived yet, but that moment’s already been crystallized inside my mind. It’s already happened. I’m just waiting for the moment to arrive. For it to be a part of reality, the vision’s already been casted, the actions to make it reality are already in motion. 

The more you realize that, the more you’re going to realize that even the bad things in your life that are happening, sometimes they’re a byproduct of the vision that you’ve had about them. If we create the good, don’t you think we create the bad? So the power of your thoughts, the quality of your thoughts, the type of your thoughts create your world. Be very careful of what kind of thoughts you have. Negative thoughts make you sick. There’s something called psychosomatic illness. If you don’t know what it is I urge you to look it up, but I’ll give you a little hint. Psycho means the mind. Somatic means the body in Latin. Mind-body illness. If you stress all the time, if you worry all the time, if you catastrophize all the time, if you see negative outcomes all the time, your body will get sick. Your immune system will shut down, you will be exposed to things like autoimmune diseases, potentially even things like cancer. You will have chronic fatigue. You’ll always be sick. It’s not just those things that happen to some people sometimes.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.