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Don’t Sabotage your Recovery with your Fears of Failure or Success

While there are many fears that can destroy your recovery journey, the two fears we are talking about here are kind of strange. Fear of failure stops many people in their tracks, but did you know fear of success can also sabotage your healing journey?

Fear of Failure

We’ve talked about this one numerous times. And the problem that we have with this is, people are so afraid of failing. And why are they afraid of failing? You want to know why? Because they get their past experiences of failure, so maybe they failed in a relationship, or at a job, or they failed with their fitness routine, or they failed with their ability to communicate with their loved ones. They take that experience, they bring it in the present moment, and they project it into the future.

“Whether you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right.” -Henry Ford

So in the present moment if I think that I’m gonna fail in the future guess what’s gonna happen my friends, you’re gonna fail. For those of you who are in the recovery process and you’re saying, “You know what, I’m going to relapse in the future,” you’re gonna relapse. And it’s not like, “oh I’m just a realist.” No, you’re not. We’re meant to be dreamers. We’re meant to have goals, dreams, aspirations, hopes. We’re not meant to be cynics and realists. Anybody that’s ever achieved something, what do they say? I made my dream become my reality. They don’t say, “oh it just happened. I made my dream become my reality,” because they believed they could. 

Everything in life happens twice – once in the level of the mind and once in reality. You have to visualize yourself and see yourself as someone that succeeded and it becomes true with the right actions. The hocus pocus stuff doesn’t happen unless you take the actions but the fear is something that’s really important.

Fear that you will Succeed

Now some people might say, “Well, Parham, isn’t that a good thing if I succeed?” Absolutely, but what happens is people have a fear that if they succeed then they have to maintain it and then they start saying, “I don’t know if I can maintain it, if I get the good job, how am I going to keep it? If I get the good relationship how am I going to keep it? If I get the sobriety how am I going to keep it?” That’s so overwhelming, that’s so scary. And you know what people do? They feel like they are not worthy of it, they feel like they don’t deserve it. So what do they do? That was my sound of self-sabotage and destruction. They blow it up. 

But if you’re reading this I want to tell you something: you are worthy of it, you deserve it. If you failed a bunch of times and you’re finally starting to taste a little bit of success I want you to sit in it, experience it, feel it, be grateful for it, and tell yourself, “I’m worthy of this success,” because a person that believes they deserve to succeed has a much higher probability of maintaining it. If some of you in the addiction recovery world if you’ve done a lot of bad things, let’s just call it what it is, you live the lifestyle that you’re not proud of, and now you’re achieving a little bit of happiness and joy and fulfillment in your sobriety where you’re like, “I just don’t deserve it,” you feel like an imposter and put all that stuff. Besides, you deserve it, we all deserve it. What is it besides the fact that we work hard to get positive things in our lives today? What else do we got? 

Anybody that’s ever succeeded in something and maintaining it is proof that it’s possible.

If you can ever break through the fear of success it’s by succeeding and maintaining it and having some tangible evidence that you’re able to do it. So if they’re able to do it you’re able to do it. We’re all the same species. By the way, I understand some of us might be more intellectually capable of doing certain things and some people might be more artistically capable of doing things and some people might be more creative and some people might be more oriented with numbers and stuff like that. Our intelligence manifests in different ways but we’re all the same species. If one species can do it I could do it, you know what I mean? If there’s a human out there that could do something I can do I’m going to be able to do it. For example, Kobe Bryant can play basketball. Maybe I can’t be Kobe Bryant but I can play basketball. Hope is a really important thing my friends.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.