Emotional Courage refers to feeling all of your emotions without attachment or guilt. Why is this one courageous? Because through this journey of life we have been taught (unfortunately) that certain emotions are good and certain emotions are bad. It’s bad to be angry, it’s good to be happy. It’s bad to be afraid, it’s good to be feeling at peace. It’s bad to be disgusted, it’s good to be kind of accepting. All that kind of stuff, whatever the positives are we’ve been spoon-fed, that lie. But you know what the research and the data says? That we cannot selectively pick and choose what emotions we get to experience. So if you suppress your anger and your fear, and you avoid your anger and your fear, by default you will be unable to experience joy and peace and contentment. You can’t pick the good ones and avoid the bad ones. You gotta experience all of them and it says to do it without attachment. So what does that mean?
You are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts, you are not your emotions. You are a Human Being having thoughts, experiencing feelings, and having emotions.
The same way that Monday morning feels different than Friday afternoon. It’s the same way that feelings pass, emotions pass. If you attach to them then you are unable to be free. You are fully consumed – it will guide your actions, oftentimes in a negative way.
So feel your feelings, feel your emotions, don’t numb them, don’t suppress them, don’t hide from them, don’t minimize them. Feel them fully, own them and observe them and let them go.
What to do When Feelings Overwhelm you
If you think it’s not that easy to feel your emotions, just sit in your emotions for a couple days and see what happens. And if you can’t do it on your own, grab a pen and paper and write, pick up the phone and call somebody, go on a little nice walk, do a little self-care, and I promise you this. The way you feel 48 hours later is going to be different than the way you felt before all that.
Emotions are not as scary as they are when we’re children. When you become an adult you can actually handle things differently. If you give a kid that’s five years old a budgeting sheet and say, “Here kid, I want you to budget out an entire month’s worth of expenses and costs and all that kind of stuff on a spreadsheet,” the kid’s gonna be like, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” You give it to an adult, they might not know how to do it but they’ll figure it out. Emotions are the same way – a kid really has a hard time experiencing some heavy emotions but as an adult we might not be good at it but we can figure it out. And if you can’t figure it out on your own, reach out to people.
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