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Face your Fears and Embrace your Failures

Fears can be internal and these fears can be external, but we have to face our fears. What are some of our fears? The fear of intimacy, the fear of trusting people, the fear of getting sober, the fear of trying something and failing, the fear of trying something and actually succeeding, the fear of not being able to do the things I used to do, the fear of trying something I’ve never done before. We have to face our fears and if you’re wondering why, because everything that you want in your life is on the other side of your fear. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. We have an acronym system in the rooms of recovery. Fear is spelled F-E-A-R so we have an option with this word. You can either ‘Face Everything And Recover,’ or ‘F— Everything And Run.’ So when you’re faced with your fear you got two options – you deal with it, you face it, and you recover from it, and you learn something from it. Or you just say this is too much for me, I’m out the other way. That choice is yours, my friends, that choice is yours.

Is Drug Use Genetic?

Is it possible that it’s genetic if one member of family uses drugs, one of the parents, is it possible that one of the kids would inherit the genes to be receptive for using drugs? I am not going to sit here and say that genes and genetics don’t play a role in how we express ourselves and how it manifests and how it shows up in life, but I don’t want anybody in life to ever think that just because their mom or dad or grandparents had substance abuse issues, or were alcoholics or drug addicts, that because of that that they too will become that. That is categorically false. See it’s not the genes that get passed down from generation to generation that makes people engage in the use of substances. It’s the environment in which alcoholism and addiction exists. For example, if you have an alcoholic father and that alcoholic father comes home every night and is angry or is emotionally disconnected and it creates a space in life that the kid feels scared, or the kid feels unheard, or unseen, and they feel their parent doesn’t care about them, if they feel all those things and all of a sudden that kid goes one day and starts drinking alcohol, and all of a sudden it feels warm and feels comfortable, it feels happy and feels passionate, and feels they are okay, all of a sudden it wasn’t because they had the alcoholic gene. It’s because alcohol gave to them something that they were missing from their environment. 

So the environments of addiction get passed down which creates the same behaviors in them. That’s what I truly believe. We always have that nature versus nurture argument. I know nature has something to do with it but I’m telling you, it’s mostly nurtured because I know many people and Rula, I know people over I’m talking about more than a thousand people, that despite of any type of alcoholism and addiction in their family despite of having the potential gene, all that kind of stuff, they do not use. It doesn’t express itself in their lives because they chose for it not to. It’s treatable. I can’t say things are curable because I’ve seen other people come around later on in life and they can struggle again but it’s treatable on a daily basis, and I hope that helped you, I really do. I can do a longer time I try to answer your question in two minutes but that’s an hour response that I really would need to give.

Embrace Your Failures

Embracing failure is a part of every successful person’s story, it really is. We sometimes think that if I do something and I fail that means I’m a failure. No you’re not, people. Show me someone who’s never failed in their life and I’ll show you someone who’s never tried. Damn that was good huh. Show me someone who’s never failed in anything in their life and I’ll show you someone who’s never tried in anything in their life. Because if you try things you will fail. I say every week. Failure is not a bd thing. Failure is an awesome thing because it teaches us so much about what to do if we ever did it again. And then we got choices. Then our failure becomes where our wisdom exists. I’m a perfectionist and I’ve been a perfectionist since I was a child and that’s why substance abuse was a very weird thing for me. If you think about it, if someone’s a perfectionist why would they destroy their entire life? So imagine that the conflict that I was in but I’ve learned the beauty of failure even as a perfectionist because then it just allows me to perfect my craft a little bit even more with every failure.

Spirituality of Imperfection

There’s a book called The Spirituality of Imperfection, a pretty good book. It makes you kind of become friends with your perfectionism if you struggle with it. I liked it, it helped me out. But yeah, it’s an important thing for sure, to embrace it rather than reject it, or run from it, or be ashamed of it. It’s really good to be able to just own our failures. If you’ve tried something with your loved one and your child and it didn’t work out don’t be hard on yourself. It just taught you a lesson of what not to do again. But the parents that do something and it doesn’t work despite of professional guidance they do something doesn’t work and they fail through it when they repeat it again it’s still another lesson but you’re going against some evidence, you’re going against some personal evidence that it didn’t work once. You do it the second or third time. It really isn’t about that no more.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.