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Find out if you have these 2 Foundational Clues for Success

Luck comes your way all the time but you have to bump into it yourself. The more you listen to successful people the more they will tell you that at some point in their life they came across something or someone that changed their life around. But what they also don’t say is that something or someone didn’t just come around when they were sitting around. People that are successful are in this constant quest and hunger to become successful. So that means prior to bumping into that person they were doing everything they possibly could every day to become whatever heck they were going to become. Then one day life just put that person in front of them and that’s the whole thing that a lot of people don’t understand. People just think that person is going to show up and they’re going to catch their break. No, you’re not, no, you’re not. You catch your break when you put in the work and I hope you believe that.

Here are 2 clues that are foundational to finding success.


It’s believed that life does not waste success on those who are not prepared. If you fail to prepare in life then prepare to fail in life. There are humans who go through this thing called life completely with a lack of preparation of what is needed on a day-in and day-out basis in order to succeed. If I decided to go to Alaska right now or the North Pole and I just roll up in some Cali clothing, a little t-shirt, a little bag, some Lulu Lemon pants and I just roll up to the North Pole, yo I’m gonna die. I’m gonna freeze. In order to not die in the North Pole I will get prepared for a trip that’s going to be -20 degrees, I will have thermals, I will have heat packs, I will have the warmest clothing that’s available to buy online, I will have supplies first. Otherwise, the person freezes and dies.

Because if you fail to prepare then prepare to fail.

In life it’s the same way. You are going through this thing called life and you’re not prepared. What do you think is going to happen? Do you just think by chance, by luck everything’s going to work out? Get prepared and then take on life and see what happens. Life does not waste success on those who are not prepared. I don’t know why sometimes we think that we could just show up. Don’t get me wrong, showing up is more than half the battle. Oftentimes those who succeed and those who don’t, one of the main reasons is because one of them just showed up over and over again, and eventually they just caught something, or realized something, or figured out something in that journey. But if you’re not prepared and you don’t show up and you’re just sitting back and hoping and wishing and dreaming for life to get good, to become successful, I mean you really think it’s going to happen? I like how people sometimes hold on to a little bit of hope. Life ain’t a lottery ticket, man. I understand there’s this thing called the lottery that we’ve created and it brings hope to people but remove that for a second. The rest of life is not a lottery. You don’t just walk around and just get lucky.

There is no such thing as luck. You create your own luck.

Some people believe that luck is the intersection that hard work and opportunity cross each other. Some people call that luck but you know what? Without the hard work and without the opportunity, and by the way hard work includes planning. There is no such thing as luck. I’ve had times when people say, “man, you’re just lucky. You’re at the right time at the right place.” Come on, you think I just ended up at that place by chance? The reason I was even there was from the hard work, opportunity arose, I took it. Some call that luck. I don’t. You can create your own luck, you could generate your own luck, and that might be a controversial statement for those of you who feel like you just never catch a break. But there is some truth to it.


Successful people leave behind this characteristic frequently. Responsibility is the highest form of human maturity. It’s okay to make mistakes in life, it’s okay to fall short in life, it’s okay to sometimes just not get it done, but are you willing to take responsibility for what you did or what you did not do? Are you willing to take full responsibility for your life and the quality of it? As soon as things fall apart, was it your fault, or do you look around and scan the room and scan the world for reasons why you failed, and say, “Ah, that’s it right there! It’s not my fault. Look what they did to me. Look what they said to me. Look how they treated me.” It’s just a choice on how you perceive and how you experience this thing called life. 

Whenever something big, like an airplane crashes, let’s say one of the big carriers. There’s a big unfortunate airplane crash and you know, when they have a press conference and you watch CNN or Fox or whatever the heck you watch, and all of a sudden they say, “Oh oh, we’re going live to the press conference,” who stands in front of the room and answers questions? It’s usually a very, very high level executive, like the CEO, or the CMO, or the COO, and they say, “Myself and our company takes full responsibility for this man.” The guy was probably traveling on his holiday bonus somewhere to some fancy island with his family, he wasn’t even a part of this whole process, but he took full responsibility, or she took full responsibility. It’s because it’s what leaders do – it’s what successful people do.

Tragic happenings in your past are not your fault, but you’re responsible for healing from it.

I want you to know that I’ve been on record countless times saying that there are things in your life that have happened that were not your fault. I know this for a fact. I’m a freaking clinician. I’ve heard tragic stories of people saying things that have happened to them that are just so heartbreaking and so intense and so sad. That wasn’t their fault. They just happened to be brought up in a world that was dysfunctional and chaotic and they got the worst of it. But I also say this to them, that even though it wasn’t your fault, all this happening to you wasn’t your fault, you’re actually responsible from healing from it. And that’s a hard pill to swallow for some people. It’s like, “hey, didn’t you hear what I told you? What he or she did to me? You’re telling me I’m responsible for it?” I said, “No it’s their fault, but you’re responsible for healing from it.” And the moment you realize that, even though things happen to you, especially at a young age when you were vulnerable, and just at risk, and as an adult right now you’re responsible for taking care of those wounds, is the moment you start to realize something about life. That you could change your life, you could change your story, you don’t have to live in the confines of your past, you can create a future that’s endless and limitless and beautiful, full of success. How you go about this, how you navigate through this is really your responsibility. I feel responsible for sharing that.

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Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.