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Going The Extra Mile With Self-Care

We talked about several different ways to incorporate self-care into your life in this, this, and this post. If you are someone who has already incorporated all of those practices and want to add on more, this post is for you.

1. Engage In Hobbies

Do things that make you lose track of time. For a lot of people experiencing addictions, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss, there’s something that happens and that thing is called anhedonia. What anhedonia is, is the loss of pleasure in things and activities that at one point would give us pleasure. 

 

So for example, if you were a kid riding a bike was just the most amazing epic experience of your life and now you’ve gone through this whole process of addictions, mental illness, trauma, grief and loss, and just the thought of getting on a bike is like “what’s the point, where are we going to go, it’s going to be so crowded over there, I just don’t want to do it.” See that’s this thing called anhedonia. That riding a bike gave you pleasure at one point but right now you can’t find it. So what we do is, we do it anyway, because as a kid it was never about where we were going or what we were doing, it was about getting on the bike and just going. It’s the journey, not the freaking destination. And as adults we forget that. We forget the joy that exists in the journey so if you want to break through anhedonia you have to do things that at one point gave you pleasure in your life, and you’ll find them and when you do, you lose track of time and that’s the magic. How did it get this hour of the day? It flew by. That’s the healing stuff.

When’s the last time you did something that made you lose track of time? When’s the last time you did something for the first time?

How about that question? The last time you did something for the first time? You know at some point in our life everything we did was the first time. At some point in your life everything you ever did in your life was the first time you were doing it, but now when I ask you when’s the last time you did something for the first time some of you might say years ago. That’s so sad. When did we stop living and we just started existing? Conscious choice again.

2. Limit Your Screen Time

Unplug to relax. Digital fatigue is a thing. I know that we all use these things called cell phones and laptops and we watch these things called televisions and we go to movie theaters and all that kind of stuff like that. I’m not saying that all of that is bad okay, so please hear me out, the same way that food isn’t bad, all this stuff isn’t bad. There is a beautiful time, a place, a purpose, a value from it, but you need to limit the screen time we have. 

 

Look at it this way – in big business like capitalist big business – rarely do they ever offer any of their products for free – it’s just the way the markets are, and we’re all cool with that supply and demand. There’s a cost for services – if you agree you pay for it they give you the service and it’s a handshake, it’s all good. So in big business there’s usually a cost associated with things but where a lot of people are struggling right now is on social media apps for example let’s just go with Tik Tok, Facebook, Instagram, when was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription for your Tik Tok account? When was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription for your Facebook account? When was the last time that you paid a monthly subscription to your Instagram account? The answer is never, never, never. So big business is providing us with a service for free, come on, that ain’t happening. So what is the commodity being exchanged for that service? If it’s not our money it’s our human attention – we are paying with us. We are paying with our attention and they can get that algorithm so damn good that your wall and your feet can be so personalized that it can capture your attention for hours and hours and hours and hours. 

 

Go look at your screen time on your social media apps and see if you’re using social media or is social media using you. For some of you older generation that may not have grown up with a phone in your hand, you might actually be using social media but for your sons, your daughters, your grandkids, your nieces, your nephews, your younger siblings, they think they’re using social media. Oh man, oh my, are they the ones being played. You know some of these kids got screen times of like eight, ten hours a day. Who’s using who? So limit your screen time. Unplug. I love going places, leaving my phone at home. People think I’m crazy, but I don’t care. I understand there could be an emergency and sometimes in life there is but I’ve also realized that in my 40 years of life there’s only been a few emergencies ever. If you break down all those into days you’ll come up with a very very very very very very very large number and if you break that down to the two incidents of the emergencies and that large number and you get a percentage it is so damn low that it’s not even mathematically important. What’s the point of being hyper connected to something that’s taking away our human attention to this thing called life? People functioned fine I guess back in the day without cell phones, I was okay, it was okay, life was good.

3. Seek Help When Needed

Mental health matters. Each of you that have logged on to this and are watching this live or later on you’re doing something for your mental health this is a professional – I am a professional – so you’re seeking professional help the same way you break something you go to a doctor, same way you feel something in your arm a tumor or something you go to the doctor and say, “Doctor, help me.” Mental health is the same way. I understand that it’s not until recent years, in the past 20, 30, 40 years that people started to really look at the mind and our mental health just as important as physical health but we’re here now and it’s important. If you haven’t already sought out help for it, do it. If you’re going through anything and you’re struggling with your mental health go get some professional help because it’s vital and critical and crucial for your survival. You can’t navigate this world without having your head on right. Our mental health matters. So if you are someone living this journey called life I hope this talk inspired you to be proactive and start to diagnose and assess what you actually need in life.

 

Create a self-care plan, execute it to the best of your ability, so when the time comes that life comes and punches you in the face you’re not going to get so disoriented that you can’t function. And that’s sometimes the best we can do. And you know if nothing happens then you’re just going to feel better and better and my hope is that every human being has a self-care plan and takes this seriously. The sad part about it, like I said earlier, it’s probably the most talked about Topic in mental health circles. When people get asked for help and it’s probably the least executed because, “Don’t you know, my situation is different, don’t you know how busy I am, don’t you know how stressed out I am, don’t you know how much responsibilities I have, I don’t have time for this stuff, I have to help this this and this person, oh I don’t have the money to eat that kind of food, I have to eat this kind of food, I don’t have the time to do it,” and as soon as you tell people to start investing in themselves all they do is tell you reasons why they can’t. I don’t know why that happens but you don’t have to be one of those people.

Live beyond your excuses, live beyond your reasons of why you can’t do something and find some reasons of why you not only can do something but you need to do something.

What’s the point of living life if you’re not living the best version of yourself? And the only person that could bring out that best version of yourself: go take a look in the mirror – it’s that person looking right back at you, and I hope that person’s smiling back at you today, and if that’s the case then we’re all good.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.