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Happiness is a Choice. Be a Goldfish

If you’ve never seen Ted Lasso you’re probably wondering what the heck am I talking about, but he tells one of his players that you gotta be a goldfish and here’s why. Because goldfish have a very short memory span, very short memories. Whatever happened in their recent past they forget about it. But what do human beings do? We do the exact opposite. Something happened five years ago, a year ago, three months ago, two weeks ago, if it’s something that we have some guilt around, if it’s something we have some shame around, what do we do? We dwell on it, and we think about it, we ruminate on it, and what does that do? It disempowers you, it takes away your energy, it takes away your creativity, it takes away your vitality, it takes away so much of your abilities in life. So my friends, you gotta be a goldfish. You got to be able to say, “You know what? It happened. What can I do to prevent it from happening again?” And you gotta forget it and move on. Don’t get me wrong. You have to learn the lessons of the past in order to not repeat them in the future, but once you learn the lesson you gotta let it go. So be a goldfish. And if you have a hard time remembering that one just put a goldfish somewhere in your vicinity, put a little picture of a goldfish, just be a goldfish. Especially if you are in recovery and there are some dark days of your past that you’re having a hard time with, the only thing you can do is to be a goldfish and forget it.

Happiness is a choice

I know some people don’t believe that because what we do as human beings is we measure our happiness based on our circumstances. I am aware enough to know that our circumstances do influence our levels of happiness, so when your circumstances are good it’s easier to be happy in that, but what if I told you that your happiness is a choice irregardless of your circumstances? The best lesson in that, if you ever want to understand what that really means, go purchase either the book or the audiobook of a Man’s Search for Meaning. You will find out how somebody despite circumstances, which is concentration camps in World War II, was able to find peace and find some serenity despite those circumstances. That’s like the most extreme version that one day I don’t know I hope to God I’ll be able to achieve and I don’t think I ever probably could, but if that’s the goal and it’s possible because someone wrote that book while experiencing that, it gives a lot of hope for people like me, when my circumstances aren’t that bad. If I can’t find happiness in it, it has nothing to do with my circumstances. It has to do with me.

“I hope that either all of us or none of us are judged by the actions of our weakest moments, but rather the strength we show when and if we’re ever given a second chance.” -Ted Lasso

So peace and serenity is what we’re looking for. Happiness is good, don’t get me wrong. I hope you all experience moments of happiness and joy, I really do, but I really hope you experience peace and serenity because that’s the good stuff, that’s really the good stuff.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.