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Honor, Respect and Leaving a Legacy

Memorial Day is a day of remembrance of those men and women who have fought for this land or whatever land they got. They lost their lives, the ultimate sacrifice. They’ve sacrificed things that are very important to them. I mean, if you see someone with a veteran hat or you see a young guy or a girl wearing an active duty thing you walk up to them and oftentimes they’ll give them a little handshake and say, “Hey yo, thank you for your service.” There’s places like Home Depot which have designated parking spots for those individuals to visibly demonstrate their respect and the honor they have for them. And we know what it is to honor those people. We know what it’s to respect those people. They do something that is honorable and respectful because it’s so damn hard. 

Honor and Respect in the Recovery Room

But if we have accepted the fact that I’m correlating the experiences we have in life when you endure substance abuse, trauma, mental illness, grief and loss, if we accept in this conversation that even though they’re completely different on paper, they’re different experiences, but the impact that it has is very similar, then guess who else deserves that honor and respect? A person watching this right now, the human who’s endured all of that in their life and they’ve been resilient and persevered and got here to this moment, deserves that honor. But guess what we do with ourselves? Oftentimes we don’t honor ourselves, we don’t honor our mind, our body, our spirit, our soul. Sometimes we don’t respect it. You put things in your body that purely disrespected it. So because I know you understand that honor and respect with them it tells me that you should understand it with you. And if you understand it with you and you choose not to honor and respect yourself, then you got to stop and ask yourself why. What is it in them that I see that I don’t see in myself? What is it in them that I respect that I’m not respecting in myself? Because if you have the same characteristics and you don’t give it to yourself then there’s a significant problem.

Extend Compassion to Yourself

There’s a quote that says, “Compassion that is not extended to self is incomplete.” Extend that compassion to yourself, honor yourself, and also honor the journey that you have been on. I just did this talk a few minutes ago for our program participants and I said, what’s really fascinating to me is that there are 8.something billion people in this world and not two life journeys have ever been the same. Think about it – the journey that you’re all on is completely different than the journey of any other human being in this world. That’s awesome man, honor that, cherish it, respect it, but I will tell you this. When you get off this talk and you go do whatever you’re going to do this weekend, or next week, or next month, or next year, or next decade, you’re still on a journey. And if you choose to live life through these principles that we’re teaching today you’ll be able to honor the hell out of that. But if you live it the way you did before with all the pain and agony and all the discomfort, all the heartbreak, why do you think your journey is going to change? See, I don’t think that the journey stays the same because I believe in the possibility of human transformation. So if you transform yourself, you transform your journey. Now it’s a matter of what kind of journey you want to live.

Leaving a Legacy

On Monday, at a lot of the different cemeteries in the United States people go and they have real memorial services honoring those who have fought and served and lost their lives. And again it’s not just them. Please don’t ever forget about their moms and their dads, their spouses and their children, don’t even forget about their dogs. I’ve seen a German Shepherd – man, destroyed me, this little German Shepherd which was a canine, a military canine. He lost his handler and the human that was taking care of him and he went to his memorial. Oh my goodness, he knew that he’s in the boxes. I’m sure he could smell it and it was just the saddest thing I’ve ever seen. So don’t neglect those little guys, they’re awesome. To leave a legacy we learn that and people go to these memorial sites and they sit there and they look at their names of these people that have lost their lives, and they left the legacy. I mean, that is it, that’s a legacy. 

So why is it important for us to leave a legacy? Here it is man, simple. I’m 40 years old. If I’m lucky I got another 50 in me. If I’m super unlucky I got another 20 in me. And if I’m somewhere in the middle, all the things I do in my life, all the things I say, all this and that when it’s all said and done, it’s over. However, the way we realize in the military because of what they did and how they lived their life their memory remains. So you, my friends, have the same choice in life. Some of you might have 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, some of you might have 60 years, 70 years, maybe if you’re watching this in your young 80 years, if you’re just super advanced and you want to level up your life, I really envy you if you start that young. But that’s it, somewhere between 10 and 80 let’s just say is the range of this audience, then it’s all done. So leaving a legacy becomes probably the most important factor of this whole thing called life. How do you want to be remembered? What do you want to leave behind? How are you going to go about accomplishing that? See, when you think about that higher purpose, that greater purpose, that greater cause, the little things you go through day in and day out in life shouldn’t matter as much. Because if it’s not in the legacy it don’t matter. If it’s not in the end why does it matter? 

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.