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How to Connect With People in Recovery

Connection, not Isolation, is key to recovery. Having a sponsor, a strong support system, and attracting a network of people who will lead you in the right direction is an important part of long term recovery. And then to lead others on their recovery journey. The Law of Magnetism and the Law of Connection discussed here are taken from the 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, by John C Maxwell.

The Law of Magnetism

Some of you that are from the old school are going to think this is some hippie pippy stuff and you’re going to think this is some hocus pocus stuff because you don’t believe in that kind of stuff, but oh my goodness, is this law real! The law of magnetism: “What you seek in life is seeking you.” A poet named Rumi said that. The law of magnetism is so real.

Who you are is who and what you will attract.

There is reality to the fact that our thoughts become things. There is truth to the fact that everything in life that you look around and see has been created twice. Once inside the mind, and once inside of reality. When you see things in your mind, when you see them clearly, you have a vision, you conceptualize them, and then you take the action to make those dreams become reality. That’s how things are created. Thoughts become things. What you think becomes your reality. And you might not believe that and you might not want to believe that but I’m telling you, there’s truth to it. And it’s not just something I’m saying because that’s what I feel. For thousands of years, societies of various backgrounds have come to the same freaking conclusion. You know, your world is a reflection of who you are and how you think.

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world.” -Wayne Dyer

Same world. You ever wondered how we all live in this floating, flying rock in this vast endless universe in a galaxy that also has 50 million other planets in it? But we only know like eight or nine of them. You ever wonder how we see the world so differently? It ain’t about the world. It’s about who we are and how we perceive it. You know, your life has been your life and you have a perception towards all the experiences you’ve had. What if I told you, not all those are the absolute truth? Oftentimes we create stories and we create narratives based on things that actually happened to us as a child or an adolescent and then we might be a grown man or woman still believing that everything we thought of when we were children is the absolute truth. And anytime you catch yourself in that, I challenge you to go have a heart-to-heart 30 minute conversation with a 10-year-old, and ask them all the deep questions about life, and what they think, and what you should do about your relationships, and what you should do about your mental health, and what you should do about your life choices. Afterwards when you start chuckling inside and laughing about how innocent and funny and ridiculous their responses are, I hope you consider that if you don’t realize that potentially some of the decisions that you have been making in life, and are making in life, and some of the ways that you go about your life, are not based in who you are right now, but based in the stories and assumptions and mind of a child that was wounded one day, and you believe certain things about the world and others, you might change your mode of operating. You might realize you haven’t been the pilot and it’s about time to take the wheel, you know to take flight.

The Law of Connection

John Maxwell coined this next phrase which I really respect, and he says, “You can never touch a heart until you’ve connected to a hand.” You know, good leaders in life never ask for a hand until they’ve touched the heart. If you look at yourself in the mirror and that’s the reflection that you’re trying to lead in your life and you’re telling it to do X Y and Z and no matter what you do it doesn’t respond, no matter how much you tell yourself to go do this and do that, and do this, but you keep failing to accomplish your goals, did you ever stop to consider that maybe, just maybe, you have to touch the heart first? You have to look at that mirror and say, “you know what, I forgive you for everything that’s happened to you. I forgive you for your journey and I want to let you know that I have empathy for you. I want to let you know that if the world doesn’t see you or hear you or feel you or understand I do.” When you connect to yourself and you touch the heart of yourself then you can ask yourself to do anything in life. Because guess what, there’s a better chance you’re going to follow through. Don’t ask yourself to do things when you have anger and guilt and shame towards your reflection. You really think they’re going to do it. If you ever wonder why sometimes you tell your loved ones in addiction and mental illness recovery to go do something, they don’t do it? They look at you like this and say, “okay, okay, okay,” and then five minutes later they just, that was like in one ear and out the other. I don’t know, it’s a Saturday morning, coffee has kicked in officially, man. 

Connection is a big thing and you must connect with people before you call them into action. I’ve never told anybody at Buckeye to ever do anything without making sure that they understand that I care first. No staff member, I’m not going to ask them to do a lecture. I’m not going to ask them to do a talk. I’m not going to ask them to even freaking lock up the building, without them knowing that I care about them first. You know, that’s a good rule of thumb, there we go.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.