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How to Overcome Fear that Change is too hard in Recovery?

One of the major fears in the recovery journey is the fear of change. Change can come in many different ways, and it’s the uncertainty of change that people fear. Fear that they may not be able to fix the mistakes they made in the past, fear that change is too hard, fear that this is a battle they will have to fight for the rest of their lives. That’s the wrong way to look at change. Change can be beautiful. Change can be transforming. Change can be empowering.

Fear that you will never fix your mistakes

This fear is categorically false. You can ask anybody that’s been a part of this thing that we call humanity. In society we love second chances, we love third chances, we love fourth chances. You want to know why? Because everybody’s waiting for the true version of that person to come out, and when he or she does society rallies around them. There were a lot of mistakes with guilt and shame and all that kind of stuff that I didn’t think I could overcome, but I could probably say I have the intention not to repeat them. So we do these things called living amends. We say, “if I harmed you or hurt you please forgive me.” If they don’t you just one day at a time live in a way that you’re able to one day get it and eventually they do. And if they don’t at least you know that you’ve never harmed another person that same way again, and it’s a very powerful thing. So some of you have guilt and shame for some of the actions you’ve taken or haven’t taken in the past. Don’t allow the fear that you’re never going to overcome those mistakes get in the way of your progress and your healing journey.

Fear that it’s too hard

Well, another newsflash! Another one that everything’s hard so staying actively drunk, ripping and burning and getting money for the lifestyle and getting high and getting by, that’s really hard, it really is. The hustle is hard. Doing the healing work, looking at your past, looking at your wrongs, taking different actions, changing your life, building a foundation, that’s hard. They’re both hard, so you got to just choose your hard. You just got to choose which one you want to do, this one or this one. So I can’t make that decision for you. If you’re signing into a detox right now and it feels like you’re looking up a mountain and you’re like, “dude, this is too hard,” so is addiction. Addiction is a mountain you’re looking up to. It’s just one you’re more familiar with. It’s all hard. You just gotta choose your hard.

Fear that you will have to battle the rest of your life

I don’t like to use the negative connotation of the word ‘battle.’ I like to use the word ‘dance’ – you might have to dance with this for your whole life. Sometimes, some chapters in life, the song is so mellow and you’re just barely there, just kind of slow dancing and smiling and it feels good. And sometimes the music turns into some crazy psychotic techno thing, and it’s overwhelming, the strobe lights are going and you don’t know what to do or how to dance. Or you’re just overwhelmed and flooded with emotions and you just gotta dance your way through it. This healing journey is not linear. There’s a lot of blind twists and turns but it’s not a battle every day, it just isn’t. In the early stages it is so please know, if you’re in your first six months of sobriety, and I’m like, “this ain’t a battle.” You’re like, “dude, I feel like I go to warning every day trying to stay clean.” It is hard at the beginning but eventually it starts to just be like a dance. It’s a part of your life and eventually you get familiar with the steps and the movement and the song and the rhythm and it becomes a lot easier. It becomes a way of life. Anybody that has a certain way in life they never say their way of life is hard. They just say, “it’s just what I do.”

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.