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Ill Health and Unfavorable Childhood Can Lead to Failure

Ill health is one of the biggest causes of failure. And ill health is not just what happens, like a disease you get in your body. Ill health happens at the level of the mind and the thought, the type of thoughts you have, the quality of thoughts you have, the way you think, the way you perceive. If that is disrupted, if it’s ill it’s going to lead to failure. Your physical body, if you’re unable to move, bend, stretch, walk, take care of your physical body it will lead to failure with your relationships, your communication. If it’s not there, if it’s not healthy, if you suppress all the time, if you avoid your emotions, if you overt the truth it’s going to lead to ill health. I’ve yet to meet somebody that’s really doing well in life and is really really sick mind, body, spirit. They might have something. You might say, well that person is a psychopath and they’re doing well in life financially. I’m not talking about that stuff man. Money’s cheap, money’s cheap.

True Health includes Mind, Body, Spirit

If you don’t have it it’s really hard to succeed in life because I don’t think those people that are psychopaths that have a lot of money, if you ask their loved ones about what they think about them they’re not going to be like, “oh he’s wonderful, he’s always there, he’s always present! That person’s like a shell around their family. This is what Jim’s talking about. He’s going through some health challenges and he’s had to overcome them, so not the recent ones but before it goes to the doctors, give them some reports, they give them some numbers, they give some suggestions on how to improve those numbers and change them, and that’s the information the doctor provided. Now Jim has the option. Do I make the changes necessary? Change my lifestyle, improve my health? Or do I continue doing what I’m doing because it’s too hard to do so or I don’t want to. That’s the only choice. Jim made the choice to make improvements and he goes back to the doctor six months later, years later, and all those numbers that the doctors reviewed with them had completely changed. Some of them eliminated and gone. Some of the medications no longer needed. See it’s not like he just got lucky. He created it. And I want you to know that whatever you’re experiencing in life that is causing you to have ill health there are solutions for it and I know there’s some rare stuff out there and this and that and my heart goes out to you, because that’s just life sometimes for people. But for the most part the things that we create for ourselves as a byproduct of the way we live our lives, if it got caused by a negative way of living life, then it could probably get at least improved with a positive way. So please please please don’t underestimate the power of your health.

Unfavorable Environmental Factors in Childhood

So most people that experience some type of trauma growing up, maybe some type of abandonment, some type of abuse, mind, body, spirit, soul, some people that experience moving a lot city to city, disruption in the family, early death of someone, parents being addicted to drugs and alcohol, or mental illness in childhood has an impact. Now I know some of you might be from the old school. Probably don’t watch this if you’re that way. But some people say none of that stuff matters, what happened to you as a kid. Figure it out. Well I mean, good luck, because the reason why it matters is because when you’re going through traumatic experiences as a child your brain’s developing so your brain develops in a moment by moment interaction with the environment. And when it’s developing these neural pathways, the way that we’re able to download information, process information, take action based on that information, the way we’re able to regulate our emotions, and experience emotions, all that stuff gets disrupted. So as an adult if it’s not dealt with it can lead to failure because what’s gonna happen is you’re going to fail in interpersonal relationships. You’re going to fail with professional relationships. You’re going to fail with connection to self. And you think it might not relate but it does. Here’s the thing. it’s not a death sentence because there are a significant amount of human beings in this world that have experienced some or maybe even all of those challenges in their childhood. And if it meant that if you experience it then you’re done it’s not the case. Because our brain has the ability to make new connections and create new neural pathways. There’s something called brain plasticity which our brain kind of regenerates with beautiful things and relationships. If you had bad ones and you start having some good ones with people that are rooted in trust and connection you start to heal all that, and when/ if you do so what happens is those unfavorable environments in childhood, while they never go away they don’t have the same pull and the same gravity on you.

Why People Repeat Childhood Experiences

Sometimes people say, “Well in my childhood someone was abusive.” Do you guys know that 75% of people that experience some type of abuse, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, that kind of stuff, they repeat it in their life with other people. You might say they don’t have to or they don’t need to or it’s a choice. I agree with you but only 25% of people were able to actually not do that. So does that mean the other 75% have something wrong with them? No, that’s how hard it is to break through the unfavorable environmental factors of childhood, because that child when they’re a kid, and let’s say they were being physically abused, do you really think that when they grew up they said I’m going to physically abuse somebody? No man, it was the most painful experience they ever had – they felt unwanted, unloved, they felt this small, they felt like they didn’t mean anything in life. And because they didn’t heal from it later on in life, if they’re doing some type of abuse they’re like, “What the hell’s happening?” But that’s how these multigenerational patterns continue. Someone’s parent was a drug addict, alcoholic and the kid’s like, “I hate that stuff. I’ll never do it,” and later on they’re drinking and doing drugs. Do you think that kid planned for that? So these are real examples by the way, and there are people that say, “Hey, I was abused as a kid. It was horrible. I’ll never do it to somebody,” and they don’t. But the statistics say the other version of it is actually what happens more often. So please don’t discredit that stuff. I know for those of you who are on this channel, you obviously know that mental health matters and development matters, and who you are as a human being matters and all that kind of stuff. So just know that we have the ability to transform. We really really really do. And if I didn’t believe that I swear to God I would not be doing this. I would not be doing this if I didn’t know that.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.