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Lack of Purpose and Ambition Leads to Mediocrity

Why do people fail in their lives and why do people fail in their recovery? It’s a good question to ask because first of all we have to define what does that failure mean to you? What is failure? I don’t know, I’m not a big fan of the word ‘failure’ believe it or not, because I believe that a life experience that is negative, that one can perceive as failure, can also be the catalyst in the opening for positive changes in life to happen. Because if you ever do something and you fail, the failure gives you a bunch of data and information of why it happened, why did that outcome get achieved, and once you know the why of that, the next time you can go about it and change the outcome. Without that lesson it’s hard to get to success.

Lack of Purpose

In this early stage of recovery for people, if you’re in an early stage, if your loved ones are just figuring it out, if you’re in an early stage for yourself, the only purpose you have is just to get well. I’m talking about your mind, your body, your spirit, your relationships, just to get them healthy again. And that’s a beautiful purpose to have, a beautiful wonderful purpose to have. In the program, the 12 step programs, they teach that our primary purpose is to help the next person that’s suffering. So that could be a wonderful purpose to have too. However I want you to know this. That in life as a whole, not just the recovery component, of life as a whole, people that fail oftentimes lack a well-defined purpose in their life. What’s your why? What’s your motivating factor? What’s the reason when you get up in the morning and do the things you got to do? What’s the sense of purpose you have? And a lot of people tie that sense of purpose to someone else. I do it for this. I do it for my kids. I do it for my job. That’s okay, it’s beautiful, it’s honorable, but if you don’t have a purpose for yourself and you don’t define what that purpose is for yourself, the day will come when you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, angry, tired, whatever it is, and you’re going to feel lost in this world. Having a purpose is such a powerful thing and if you don’t know what it is maybe sit down and think what do you want it to be? We all need it. We all need to have that sense of purpose in this thing called life because it gives us a compass. It gives us a directional map. It gives us a reason to get up every single day and do the things we do.

Lack of Ambition to aim above Mediocrity

So you know how you go to a restaurant and they bring you some food? If the food is straight mediocre, I’m talking about like a 3 out of 10, a 4 out of 10, you might take a few bites and be like, “oh I don’t know if I want this,” and you might leave it and say that was horrible. Now if you’re hungry and starving and you eat it and you’re like this is horrible, but you’re gonna eat the food. What happens is if you’re continuously hungry it doesn’t matter what the type of food is. Mediocre is going to do okay. Life is the same way – you might have a life that you’re just not excited about. It feels like that food tastes – it’s not horrible but it’s definitely not good. And what happens is we get comfortable in that space of living a life that is not horrible. But it’s not great, it’s not exciting, and when did that happen? Why did we just settle for mediocre? Why do we settle for mediocre relationships? Why do we settle for mediocre life experiences? Work life balance? Mediocre communication skills? Mediocre health? Why do we settle for that? It’s because people lose the ambition to aim above it. Because it’s too hard, it’s too far away, it’s too impossible. That’s okay. That means you’re just committing to a life of eating that food at that restaurant that’s a 3 out of 10. So please, if you experience mediocrity in your life ask yourself why am I not aiming a little bit higher? Why am I not raising my standards to get to that next level, to get to that next step, to get to that next life experience, so I can feel happy, joyous, free, fulfillment. Is it fear? Probably, but if we don’t overcome those fears then we’re just settling for what we got. So it’s a choice. Either you do it and get a life a little bit better than the life you got, or don’t do it and keep the life you have. And that’s okay. It’s none of my business. But I hope you make the choice for yourself.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.