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Learn, Unlearn and Relearn: Intellectual Courage

Intellectual Courage says, to learn, unlearn and relearn with a flexible mind. If we’re going through this journey of life with any hope or intention to be able to grow, adapt, evolve, transform, we must have intellectual courage. If all of the information that you’re running and all the thoughts, ideas, beliefs you have are things that happen in one point of your life and you stay so rigid and inflexible that today you have the same exact ideas, beliefs, thoughts, all that kind of stuff and even worse, you say that five years down the line, ten years down the line, I’m still gonna have all that kind of stuff, oh I really worry for you. You’re gonna feel really disconnected from society because we always got to evolve. 

 

And it’s important to remember this – that learned behavior is what we experience in life and what we’re exposed to in life. We learn things that get downloaded onto us but anything that can be learned in life can be unlearned. And then when it’s unlearned it creates a canvas, an opening, a space for us to be able to learn a new experience, a new way of life, a new way of being. And in that is where transformation exists, that’s where transformation is possible.

Cultivate an Open Mind

If you have learned things in life you can unlearn them, you can relearn them and you can transform, but what’s the key to all that? You got to have an open mind. Without an open mind you’ll never be able to unlearn the things that you probably desperately need to unlearn. And you’ll never be able to learn the things that you probably desperately need to learn. So the open mind is the key to that intellectual courage. 

 

Sometimes people come from dysfunctional homes, which I know a lot of our audience comes from, and the family members come from dysfunctional homes, dysfunctional societies, what does that do to somebody? It teaches you so many things that are wrong. If you come from a really chaotic house with a mom and dad that’s just explosive and abusive and then later on you’re like, well that’s where I learned what a relationship looks like, those were my models, those were my examples, that’s where I learned it. And later on that person goes on in their own life and they get in a relationship with someone that’s toxic or abusive or explosive and then you know they’re sitting back and saying, “well, I don’t know any different, that’s what was taught to me, that’s what I re-experienced,” because human beings tend to repeat things that are familiar to them, there’s a sense of comfort in it. But here’s the thing – I’m not going to give that person a pass. The first time I will, because they don’t know any different, but once you know better, that you can reprogram yourself and unlearn and relearn in a healthy way, what’s the excuse? 

 

You got to go do the work, you got to heal from those wounds of the past, you got to make a commitment of who and what you are, and who and what you want to be with, and what you want to experience in life.

When in Fear Due to Inaccurate Info

Too often, we hold on to information that is no longer accurate information. The fear of the void, of the transition, keeps us stuck. We’re talking about courage so you can’t talk about courage without fear because what is courage? The ability to take action despite fear. And our intellectual courage kicks in. I don’t know why people are so afraid of letting go of what they know, as if what they know is like the absolute truth. I’ll tell you this – everything that you know is just based on the experiences that you’ve had and what you’ve exposed yourself to. If you think that you know it all my friends, oh are you gonna be in for a rude awakening. The day I feel like I know it all is the day that I need you to come probably drug test me. 

 

It’s hard to tell that to adolescents. If I tell a 19 year old kid, “you have no idea what you’re talking about,” he’s gonna go, “yeah I do, just watch me.” He actually doesn’t have any idea what he’s talking about but that’s where he or she is in that stage of their life and we got to meet people where they’re at and understand that that kid’s got a little bit more journey of life to go. But if you’re like an adult, grown person and you have an established world and you think that you figured it all out, just wait till life gives you a spoonful of surprise and I hope you remain open-minded.

Too Smart for Recovery?

When you come into recovery as somebody that is intelligent, has some degrees, has a specific type of a work duty, job duty, knowledge base that they have and they kind of know it all in that space it’s really easy for them to come into recovery and be too smart for the recovery process, to say, “I already know all these things. What am I going to learn from these people? Don’t you know what I do? Don’t you know the schooling I’ve had? Don’t you know the journey I’ve had in life, the challenges I’ve gone through? I’ve learned so much in life. You have nothing to teach me.”

Courage to Finish a Commitment

Take Drug Court, for example. I know a lot about drug court. Most people don’t. This is something that’s offered in probably a lot of states now but California has Drug Court, DUI Court, mental health court and it’s an alternative sentencing to prison. And you might think well, they get off easy, oh my goodness there’s so many people that are in drug court that someday go up to their probation officer or their case manager and they say, “You know what, this drug court stuff’s too difficult man, I’m gonna go serve. I’m gonna go do the time.” And if you’re thinking that’s crazy, trust me, it happens all the time. Because they make it so difficult for you to start and finish drug court. But guess what, if you start it, and there might be some times you fall down or fumble, and just something against your own will, even you’re a minute late to something and they push you back to the beginning of the phase, whatever it is. If you go through the whole process which takes longer than they say, but you go through the process, at the end of it, all of a sudden it becomes a courageous act. 

 

Action despite fear, that not only allows the person to build a foundation for their recovery but it also provides you access to physical courage, social courage, moral courage, emotional courage, intellectual courage. All is a byproduct of that program. 

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.