Did you guys know that 95% of people don’t have goals beyond what is immediate and short term? We’re not talking about having bills due this week or next week. We’re talking about personal and professional development goals. Many people have some ideas and thoughts in their head but they’re rattling around like marbles because they haven’t been written down. They don’t have a plan on how their goal is going to become a reality.
Did you know that a goal that is not written down with timelines, objectives, milestones and checkmarks is just a wish? So you may be going around life just making wishes: “I wish that happens, I wish this happens.” Wishes are like those flowers that you blow on and they go all over. If your goals are just inside your mind, and you’re wondering why you’re not able to achieve them, grab a pen and paper, write down a goal that’s beyond what you’re doing today or tomorrow or what you’re buying at the grocery store.
Come up with a 6-month/1-year goal
Write it down.
Look at it.
Breathe life into it.
Make it a reality.
And if you do so then you’ll start to realize that you can accomplish some of your goals and dreams, that you can transform your wishes into reality.
Here’s something to think about. Let’s say we’re now in this country called America. This country happens to be on this planet called earth, which is in this thing called space, and we are spinning around our axis very, very fast. Not only are we spinning around really fast, we’re also moving through the galaxy even faster. We are on this giant rotating rock in the middle of nowhere, between an expanding emptiness and nothingness. This is why so many people feel lost in the world.
If you live this life without goals, you’re going to get lost.
The only way to feel grounded and secure is by having some goals, knowing what we are doing on this rock called earth. This is not just about recovery. This is about life. Make some goals for yourself. Accomplish them.
For family members of loved ones who are in recovery, it is important to recognize that your goals are not your loved ones’ goals. You have to individualize yourself as a human being, as a separate entity and create something for yourself, goals for yourself that are completely separate.
If you’re thinking you don’t have any goals for yourself anymore, if you’ve lost touch with what’s important to you and what you want to accomplish in life, this may be a good time to do some soul searching to find out. Don’t just give up on yourself. Don’t think that it’s not important anymore, or that you accomplished all you want to accomplish. There are so many experiences in life that can move you and inspire you.
Your journey is not all about your loved one getting off drugs and alcohol – that’s the easy part. It’s when people get off drugs and alcohol how do they stay off it? When family members get their child into recovery how do they find themselves? That’s what this journey is all about.
Sometimes people set out goals in the future when they haven’t really found peace with who and what they are today. Without finding peace with what they are today and how they are living today it’s hard to achieve those goals in the future. Because it creates a misconception in the mind that when they have that goal, that they will be ok. That’s not true.
“All the little goals and larger goals all boil down to being able to be ok with me today.” -James Shand
The true thought process is to first ensure you’re ok today and then start working toward achieving that goal. Whether that goal gets accomplished or not, we are not in the outcome business. We’re just in the action business.
People set themselves up for failure when they say, “When that happens then I’ll be ok.” Anytime you say “when this, then that” you’re setting yourself up for some pain. We take the best actions we can with the information we have, with the current situation we’re in and hopefully if we take enough actions consecutively over time it takes us to the destination where that goal is more attainable.
Today is going to be the best day of your life.
Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.
Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.
Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.