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Make your own Magic with these 3 Clues of Success

Success in successful people, and whatever your broad definition of success is, it’s very subjective. There are probably some clues that they’re leaving behind on the way they live their life, how they talk to people, how they interact with themselves and others, that are just signs and signals for us to be able to look at and hopefully replicate, so we can duplicate the same type of success.

Here we talk about 3 clues that in combination, bring a kind of magic that you make on your own!

Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is not something that you’re born with. Self-confidence is not something that you can go by. Self-confidence is not something that you could sit around and wait and one day it’s going to knock on your door and appear in your life. 

Self-confidence is earned. Self-confidence is created. Self-confidence is nurtured, fostered and maintained.

Self-confidence comes from not neglecting the simple daily tasks of life, when you do what you are supposed to do, what you need to do, what you’re required to do, on a day-in and day-out basis, it starts to create this thing called confidence of the individual that’s doing those acts. You do it for a while and all of a sudden you look at the mirror and you see a confident reflection, because you did not neglect the daily disciplines of your life. One of the biggest challenges that people who come into this healing and recovery space is they share that they have low self-esteem and low self-confidence. 

My self-confidence when I came to these types of worlds back 15 years and 9 months ago was epsilon – it was smaller than small – it was just non-existent. Why, because I was just going from failure after failure. I was starting things and I wasn’t finishing them. I had to-do lists that never got done. I had daily disciplines that needed to be completed yet I failed to do all of them. As an end result my confidence was minimal, and as I started to realize that hey, I have to take care of the little things in life because the little things are the big things. I started to put one day after another one day after another. Eventually I started to get confident and confidence is different than cockiness. See, a person that’s cocky feels that they’re entitled to something without putting in the work. A person that’s confident knows that the reason why they deserve a certain feeling is because they put in the work. So self-confidence is something that you must strive to develop.

Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is something that definitely cannot be purchased. Enthusiasm is definitely something that you just can’t roll over one day and get up out of bed and say “I’m going to be enthusiastic today.” Enthusiasm comes from self discipline. It’s born out of self confidence. In order to be successful in life you must be enthusiastic about the things you do, the places you go, the interactions you have, and the life you live. I’ve yet to meet a successful person who’s not fiercely enthusiastic about what they do, believe in what they do. And where does that come from? It comes from self-confidence. Where does self-confidence come from? Not neglecting the daily disciplines of your life. 

You see me here every Saturday. For the most part, this level of enthusiasm that I have is not something that I just say, “Okay one, two, three, lights on! What’s up everyone? I’m going to be enthusiastic today.” Man, it’s something that exists inside my soul for this type of work I do. I didn’t have it until I became confident in the skills that I possess in relaying information and having the ability to communicate, articulate and transfer information from one person to another. So if I hope I’m modeling what enthusiasm looks like and it’s 90% inside 10% outside. 

Sometimes people think that enthusiasm, they’re going to be struck by it one day. No, you’re not. That’s a momentary window of opportunity. It’s like a spark. Now what you do with that spark? You know Jim Rann, who is one of the fathers of personal development, you know what he said? He said, “I hope to God in life that you either get desperate or inspired to change. We only change from one or two things: desperation or inspiration.” Desperation is painful, tough, rough, scary but good. Inspiration is easier, softer, gentler, but good. I hope you choose inspiration rather than desperation. But from my research through human development and working with people for over a decade I’ve realized that desperation usually is the catalyst to change, because inspiration is short-lived. You can get inspired by a talk I have and say I’m going to go do some good [ __ ] today but next week, next month, next year, if you’re not exposed to this information you’re going to fall back to the same old ways.

Expertise

Most people that are very successful in life demonstrate and possess a level of mastery of what they do, also known as an expertise in what they do. Think about your favorite actor, musician, athlete, writer, artist – do you like them, love them, look up to them, are inspired by them because they are just good at what they do, or are they great at what they do? Are they extraordinary at what they do? Are they exceptional at what they do? I know the answer. 

Successful people are literally in possession of expertise and mastery of their craft and it doesn’t just go to these popular people that are in the limelight. The best teachers in the world, the best physicians in the world, the best nurses, doctors, mechanics, pilots, whatever field you’re talking about, the ones that are really, really good have a level of expertise. So my friends, if you’re trying to become successful in life you must become an expert at what you do. And if you say, hey man, I’m just happy and content with the way I am, that’s okay too. There’s a lot of average people that do average things. Nothing wrong with that. And I’m not talking down on it. If you just say you know what, I just want to be good enough, that’s okay, but if you want to be successful to the point that you’re the best, you must have the skill set of the best. And maybe it’s a challenge, maybe it’s scary, maybe it’s overwhelming, but I’m telling you – the same way you look up to specific people because of how good they are at what they do, therefore it shows you what it is that you need to do to be just as good. Expertise – it’s a beautiful thing, you know, and I always say I can go back. 

We usually come in and we’re desperate. Desperate to change, desperate to grow, desperate to just experience something different.

And once we do then the gift of desperation goes away. That’s why it’s a gift. It goes away. We have to access the transformative power that desperation exists and then we have to put ourselves in spaces, in places, in surroundings in which we are continuously inspired to maintain those changes. Sometimes people say, “well, why do I need to get motivated or inspired all the time?” It’s simple. Why do you take a shower every day? Because if you don’t you’re going to stink up the place. The shower you took on Wednesday doesn’t mean anything today, on Saturday. You must shower again to be fresh. The inspiration you were exposed to in a talk a week ago doesn’t mean anything today if you don’t get inspired again. Very simple logic. Constantly put yourself around moments and people and experiences that inspire you to change. We need it because if not we take the path of least resistance. We are afraid of the unknown. We are overcome with doubt, self-doubt crippling us from our progress. But as long as you’re inspired you can take on anything so hopefully that helps somebody out there in this world.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.