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People are Different. Learn to see the Good in Others

All people are different people. Embrace the power of diversity and individuality. Recognize and celebrate these differences to create a more inclusive and productive life. So this one becomes really important. I’ll tell you why. Because we are currently living in a world, whether it’s the country of the United States, or the global kind of the bigger picture, the macro picture, that many people believe that only their version of life is the right way, and whatever the other people are doing is wrong. And that’s the biggest myth and lie in the world. Because here’s the thing. We might have different beliefs, we might be different people when it comes to certain ways we view the world, but all people are different people. And in that diversity, in those differences, there’s also a lot of beautiful things, there’s also a lot to be able to learn from one another. I mean, we’re coming up at a time, at least the US, in the next 365 days it’s going to get a little wild out here. People are going to be really really on top of their rooftops yelling and screaming why their way of life is the best, and you’re wrong, and all that kind of stuff. And what happens in the midst of all that? We miss out on the connection of the differences of each other that actually helps us move forward. When you’re in the recovery process and you say, “Well, hey this is the way I did it and that’s the way you have to do it, and if you don’t do it my way then you’re wrong,” you’re missing out on the chance that that person’s individual journey for recovery might be different than yours, and that’s okay. Show up and support them in their journey. Be an example of what’s possible when you’ve recovered and how you can actually help the next person also recover, even if it doesn’t look like yours. Especially if it doesn’t even look like yours, and that’s what we really got to do.

Diversity is Beautiful

One thing I’m very proud of – I know a lot of you have never seen Buckeye Recovery Network or have never had a chance to come down to our facility because of limitations, distance, travel, all these barriers we have. If you ever saw our staff at Buckeye Recovery Network, let’s just say there’s 20 people. If you’ve never seen them you would be so… it’s interesting when you do, because from the time you walk in downstairs and you go upstairs and all the support staff around it is the most diverse group of human beings that you can ever imagine. And the diversity is so beautiful because it looks like we hired some marketing company to take a picture of a bunch of people from different backgrounds to say, “Hey, we’re really inclusive and diverse,” but it’s the reality – it’s who we are and what we do. I didn’t even set out to do it like that strategically. It just organically happened. Because when people come in for the interview process I see all people as different people and that means everybody has something to teach, everybody has something powerful.

Fear Promotes Divisiveness

I think a lot of the divisiveness and a lot of the us versus them in society comes from fear, and it comes from ignorance, and it comes from lack of understanding, and it comes from lack of empathy. One thing I’ve learned – obviously I’m a clinician so I’m a little bit trained to do this – if someone comes in and sits in front of me and is different than me, the way they think or believe, and all that is different than me, all I have to do is put myself in that person’s shoes and see what their upbringing was like, and why they’ve perceived the world that way. And all of a sudden, it’s not about me, it’s about them and their journey and their life experience. And all I try to do is just embrace the differences, find the common ground and the similarities, connect and help. And you’re absolutely right, I mean a lot of this stuff comes from fear, and it’s unfortunate, because there’s so much beauty in the differences of human beings.

See the good in others

Oh man, I wish more people did that, to see the good in others. You create a positive environment where everyone can thrive and you can encourage people and support people. When you go to a support group, if you ever go to a support group, one thing that they tell you is to look at the similarities and not the differences. Because what we do in society is we just kind of look at the differences and if people aren’t the way we are, what we do is, we label them as good or bad. If this person believes in this political ideology then they’re bad. If this person believes in this way of life then they’re bad. But you know what? What if that person that has certain beliefs has beautiful characteristic traits? What if that person has values that actually align with us but they have different political ideas and beliefs? 

Why can’t we see the good in that human being? I know I do. I have people on this talk that will be able to vouch for the fact that I do that. I don’t care if I’m different than you in two or three or four or five areas. I’m gonna find the one, two or three areas that we’re the same and guess what I’m gonna do? I’m gonna water that, I’m going to nurture that, I’m going to cherish that, I’m going to celebrate that. Why not look at the similarities and the good that we have amongst each other as human beings? Because those same common goods that we can identify and find if we look for them exist in all humanity, in all cultures, in all backgrounds, in all ethnicities. Human beings have a certain thing that everybody wants: love. Everybody wants to be acknowledged. Everybody wants to be appreciated for who and what they are. Everybody wants to be supported. Everybody wants to have somebody tell them, “I believe in you.” Universally, we all do, but what happens is when we start seeing the bad in other people we forget how easy it is to connect to the common good that we have. The common good, if we start really nurturing that good, increases significantly to make changes in this world. And so focus on the strengths of other people. Leave everything else aside.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.