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Practice and Celebrate the Small Successes

Anytime you start something new or you try to change something, you’re ready for this clinical term? You’re going to suck at it. That’s as a high level cerebral clinical terminology that I can use for this conversation. Anytime a human being starts something new they will not be good at it and first of all why should you be good at it? Like what’s that expectation that when I try something new I’m supposed to be good at it? No you’re not.

Practice is Necessary

When someone is new in recovery they are like an infant, like a child. No matter what a child does, they are not good at it. I mean they can barely grab their hand and put it directly into their mouth without guidance, and we understand that about a kid. But when it’s like a 20, 30, 40 year old person we’re like, they should just be good at it by now. I know kids that they’ve never had a job in their life and I’m not even exaggerating. Never had a job in their life. Just kind of enabled by the parents. Now they’re like 30 or 60 days sober. the parents are like, “I want them to dress up and go to a job interview and get a 40 hour a week job.” I’m like, Bro, this kid could barely do chores. Like literally they could barely do chores. You tell them to go clean a countertop and they don’t know what to do. You tell them to do their laundry and they’re like tell them to go sit in a job interview with a resume and talk to somebody about a 40 hour a week job. They can’t do that kind of stuff but the parents want them to. So at early stages it needs practice, like serious practice. An easy example for some of you that might benefit from it is, let’s say that this group of 20 people watching this right now, all 20 of us have never seen or touched a piano. I’m talking about just a complete blank canvas. And some teacher comes and teaches us 15 – 20 different keys that we can hit in a sequence to create a little bit of a rhythm and we go home. 10 out of 10 of the people watching this, they don’t touch the piano, they don’t hit the keys, they don’t practice. Five of them do it twice a week, two times in that week. And five do it every day for an hour. When you come back a week later out of those 20 students what do you think’s going to happen? It’s not like rocket science to realize the outcomes of the five that practice an hour a day every day will be able to repeat and play back that exact same thing the teachers taught them, 20 keys in a sequence an hour a day. You’re going to get it. The five that practice here and there, they’re going to make a bunch of errors and they’re gonna be like, “what was the next one again? Oh I’m sorry, I’m sorry I got it now.” And the 10 that didn’t practice, they’re going to sit there wondering why the hell are they failing in life. 

There is no secret sauce to this stuff, my friends. If people are not achieving certain things in life they’re just not practicing at it. And yeah we all have different leans like some person might be more right brained, left brained, some person might be good with numbers, some people might be good with aesthetics and colors and designs and working with their hands, and I get all that. But regardless if you practice something all the time you’re going to get better at it. And practice is necessary, I tell the kids that I coach.

Small Successes are Big

So it’s a little play on words. When people are trying to make change in life it’s usually a drastic change, usually it’s a change that is a completely different world from the world they live in now, or on the way to there. So if you have big plans in life you better expect big failures. The bigger your goals the bigger the problems. Because there’s so many things you have to overcome to achieve them. So what happens is people make these lofty big goals and dreams and visions for themselves and you know a few weeks go by, a month goes by, sometimes a year goes by, and they’re not there. And guess what they do? It’s not working not for me, when in reality if every single time you achieved a small success you celebrated it you know. I have a good example here. We were in the back in 2008 when I was participating in some treatment program. We walked off to the grocery store so this was in Irvine. We walked off to Albertson that was really close to the house that’s what everyone did in the afternoon, and we went to go buy some food. I remember telling the the cashier, “Hey lady, I’m 10 days sober today,” and she’s like “good for you,” and I said “No no no no no I don’t think you got what I said. I’m 10 days sober today and that even includes alcohol and weed, nothing.” And she said, “well good for you!” But here’s the thing – to that lady that didn’t mean anything, nothing, but for me when I couldn’t go one day without drinking or using some type of substance, not even one day, 10 days was a freaking awesome accomplishment and I made sure I celebrated it and I make sure I celebrate. When I was in school 25 years old for God’s sakes with no college degree or any plan to finish college, I’m talking about nothing. Just some Community College units and I wanted to get a master’s degree. To go from that day to gt my master’s I’m like seven years away. So if I’m going to class and the master’s degree is not coming, man that’s discouraging, but you best believe I celebrated the hell out of that first class I passed. See the little steps make the big ones. If you’re trying to lose 50 pounds or 100 pounds if you don’t celebrate the five pounds you lose you’re not going to lose that 50. You can say I’m wrong, but you know what, I’ve done it before in the past. Okay well did you keep it? Yeah that’s another thing a lot of people change and they’re like well I’ve done it in the past before. I’m like alright, well there’s one thing about changing but maintaining change is just as important. Just because you did it in the past doesn’t mean you’re able or capable of doing it because you’ve never demonstrated the ability to hold on to it. So that’s an important thing to think of there. But make sure that you celebrate the small small small victories.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.