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Stay Optimistic. Stay Teachable

Optimists do more. A positive outlook just provides so much abundance and so much resources and so much access to resources in life. I think the difference between experiencing life in a way that’s fulfilling, in a way that feels defeating, is the outlook we choose. The optimists versus the pessimists. Whenever someone comes into session and they’re dumping all the negative I say, “hey, we’re going to address all that stuff. I’ll make sure we address all of the 12 negative things in your life that are happening right now. But before we do so, can we please focus on identifying just a few of the good ones?” And at first they’re like, “Well, nothing is good in my life.” I’m like, “Alright, well if that’s the way you feel then I have a lot of compassion and empathy for that, because that’s just a painful existence.” But over time when that person keeps coming back and they start to identify the good and learn what it means to identify the good it just starts to create some type of balance. Because my friends, life isn’t always good or bad. All these negative things in your life that are happening are happening but there are beautiful things in your life that are happening too. And it’s always a gift of perspective. If the roof is over your head, if the food is in your fridge, if the clothes are in your closet, if you have some support around you, you have a job that you can go to, you have a body that is able, that can function. If you’re not living behind bars like caged animals, if you’re not living like a street creature, if you don’t know where your next meal is coming from, if you don’t know how you’re going to be able to survive in this world. Look at those two life experiences. But for whatever reason we lose perspective and we think that when we’re having some bad life experiences that everything’s messed up. No it’s not. Zoom back, step out, look at the whole 360. It’s your responsibility to choose your perspective. It’s your responsibility to not look at life through such a narrow lens, and look at it as the total big picture of your life. And I can’t do that for you, nobody really can. It’s just a conscious choice.

Winning is an Attitude

Success is not only achieving a specific outcome but also about cultivating a mindset of positivity, determination and resilience. So a lot of people want to succeed and they think that succeeding and winning are two in one, they’re the same thing, but it’s not. I’ve had some of the biggest successes in my life in moments of perceived failure. The biggest successes in my life, the biggest accomplishments in my life happen when the scoreboard said I was down and someone else was up. You want to know why? Because in that moment the attitude that I can take on, the attitude that I can choose, is that this experience helped me grow personally, professionally and develop resiliency. It developed a sense of strength that when the next time it comes around I can go in with a little bit more confidence, knowing and understanding all the lessons I learned from that previous experience. It’s all an attitude. An attitude is a straight choice – you can choose your attitude. So many people tell the little kids, “you have a bad attitude.” I guarantee you, that kid learned it from somewhere. Very seldom, and I’m not going to say never, because there’s always the outliers out there. Very seldom does a child come up in a family system with a bad attitude when all the parents around them have really good attitudes. What do you think a child with bad attitude is learning that experience from? You think it just naturally comes from themselves? It’s because whatever the heck the environment is modeling for them, they’re just downloading it. Anytime a parent tells, “Okay, you have such a bad attitude,” I wish I had an hour with that Mom or Dad to point out the same thing to them, “You got a bad attitude.” Because I have a feeling that it exists there. So attitude’s a choice and winning is an attitude. Winning has nothing to do with the score at the end. It has to do with the attitude that you choose when you go about it. And winning is to remain focused on the bigger picture even when faced with setbacks. Always remember that please.

Stay Teachable

Embrace the concept of lifelong learning. Please please please please please please never become an expert in anything. Always be willing to have a student mind, always be willing to have an open mind, always remain teachable even in areas that you think you are an expert. I mean, how cliche is it that all of the scientists and all of the scholarly people and all of the smartest people in the world used to think that this whole globe, this round planet was flat, and everyone believes it. So don’t think that just because you know something right now that there’s no new knowledge, information, value that could be added to your current resource, your current list of information. I always stay teachable, I always stay coachable. I do my best to stay open-minded because I know for a fact that the second I think that I know it all is the second that I stopped gaining the momentum to be able to continuously develop and grow and to become a more evolved version of myself, to become better one percent every day. Because if you think you’re perfect there’s no room to grow.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.