If you’re an individual that’s using substances, if you’re using them with some of your friends, in some cases your family members, in your mind they may not be bad people, but recognize that your success depends on surrounding yourself with the best people.
There are a few questions you can ask yourselves about the people around you:
If you like the answers you get back to all of those there is a high probability that the people around you are the best people for you.
Statistics show that most of our friends in high school and college don’t end up being lifelong friends. The only reason we are friends with a lot of people in high school is because we happened to be in the same building called school, because we lived in the same city, and it was the place we were being raised in. That’s the only main reason why a lot of us become friends with people. Can we find some lifelong friends among them? Absolutely! But when we become adults and we individualize those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
Sometimes people say they don’t have any friends. In such cases, you can ask the same questions about yourself:
If you have a small social circle, then you can expose yourself to the best people on YouTube or on audio books so that you can level up.
“The best will bring out the best.” -Alan Miozza
You want to surround yourself with people that support you, who don’t put you down.
Whether you’re in recovery for yourself or for someone else, there is a history and a timeline that happened before you got into recovery. Oftentimes that history and that timeline is convoluted with mistrust, with difficult situations, with heartbreaks, with challenges.
When you get into recovery everything changes. New people come into your life. New worlds open up. It’s really important to not use the past experiences and place them on all the new experiences.
“Experience helped me find the best people in life. I started with a blank sheet.” -James Shand
For example, if a person gets into a new relationship, but if in their past relationship they got cheated on or got hurt, they start projecting it on every new person who comes into their life. And the pattern keeps repeating itself.
The blank sheet in recovery is important. It is important to be open minded, to let go of the past. You want to let go of everything you know so you can open up and embrace the new experiences.
Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.
Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.
Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.