COVID-19 Update: We are currently accepting new clients with increased safety measures. LEARN MORE ›

Taking Care of the Self in the Sobriety Journey

One of the most important things I talk about is Self-care. Why do I talk about it all the time? It’s because our society as a whole is completely in a deficit of self-care. Everybody is running on stress, everybody’s running on fear, everybody’s running on anger, everyone’s running on sadness, everyone’s running on differences. And self-care is what slows us down and allows us to take care of our self, the person that’s experiencing this life, to hopefully show up 1% better each day. The biggest hack I could tell you about how to implement self-care in your life is simple. Every day when you wake up, make sure you do one thing for your mind, one thing for your body, and one thing for your spirit. Don’t set it for another time of the day because guess what, when life happens and it evolves and stress kicks in? The odds of you saying, “I’m just going to do a little self-care right now” goes out the window. I prioritize self-care first in my day so I don’t have to fit it in later. I fit my day around self-care, that’s the difference. And self-care doesn’t always have to be going to get a massage, or self-care doesn’t have to be taking a little nap, or this and that. Self-care could just be a quick five minute introspection of self. It could be a quick 15 minute walk around your neighborhood. It could be sitting down and having that apple on the table. I don’t know what self-care it could be talking to a friend, a confidant, but please please please please make sure that you get all these things right.

The Story of your Self

How is your story another one of the main components of the recovery and transformation process? Well, this is for all human beings. Most of us identify with the stories of our lives with the events that you’ve gone through, with the things that have happened, good or bad, with the decisions you’ve made. Some are you’re proud of and some you hang your head and you’re full of guilt and shame. And the more you identify with the stories of your past the more your future will be filled with your past, because your story is constantly changing and evolving. If you don’t identify with one version of it, for those of you who continue to repeat the same story over and over again, three times, five times, 10 times, have you ever stopped to consider that maybe life just isn’t happening to you? It’s just like, what am I supposed to do? It keeps happening but what are you doing that’s influencing the same outcome over and over and over again? Some quotes are really good and some quotes are kind of corny. There’s a corny quote that I like and it says,

You are the author of your life. You are the creator of your life.

And the quality of it, the story you are experiencing when you realize that you’re writing it in the present tense and not in the past tense. That’s the moment you realize that you can write whatever the heck you want. You can create whatever the heck you want. You can influence whatever the heck you want. I’m not saying in the lives of others. All you codependents are like, “Okay, so if I change my story, my son or daughter’s story is going to change?” No, change your story so your life can change, and hopefully they do the same.

The Story That Keeps Repeating

For the repeating stories, just to give you a nice metaphor of how powerful it is, let’s say you go to the movie theater and you sit down and you’re excited to watch this movie, you’re excited to watch this story. And two, three minutes, five minutes goes into it, and it shows some characters. It shows a potential hook, a plot, something like that, and you’re like, “Okay, I’m getting into this, it’s good!” And then all of a sudden the movie theater stops and it repeats from the beginning. Again the same exact five minutes you watched and you look around whoever you’re watching it with, “Did you see that? Was that weird?” And you’re like maybe it was just a glitch, maybe the film just automatically started from the beginning and that can’t happen again. And you watch another three, five minutes of the very same thing you watch and all of a sudden it stops and it starts right back from the beginning again. And you’re like, “Oh my God, is this someone punking us? What’s going on over here?” Maybe you get up and want to go tell the movie theater manager, but be like, “No, no, let me just sit through this. This can’t be happening.” And after five minutes, the same thing happens again. After five minutes the same thing happens again. After five minutes the same thing happens again. After the fifth time of watching the same thing over and over again you’re going to walk out of the story and say that was a waste of time. You’re going to go complain to the manager, get your money back and walk out of there. 

Now some of you have been doing the same five minute dance for five years, for 10 years, for 15 years, over and over and over again. The moment you realize that you have the ability to change the story of your life back, the moment the story of your life will change. We write the story of our lives in the present moment, in a moment by moment interaction. Everything you do from this moment moving forward will change the story. However, if you’re not willing to sacrifice the past, if you’re not willing to sacrifice who and what you think you are, if you’re not willing to stop identifying with the stories of your past, the future will look exactly the same. That’s up to you to decide, my friends.

Call Buckeye Recovery Today!

Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.