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The Most Important Key for Self Transformation

We talked about Stages 1 and 2 of transformation here , and stages 3 and 4 here. But the final 2 stages cannot be accomplished unless we can figure out the most important key of self transformation: how to learn to overcome obstacles. 

If you notice, all of the stages have ‘re-’ in front of them. Everything that collapses can oftentimes be built not only better and stronger than the previous version, but with all of the lessons needed to make it not collapse again. Every great empire I know. Every great empire in the world has collapsed at some point. That’s just a part of nature.

Resurrect: Overcome the Obstacles in your Progress

Resurrect kind of sounds intense but here’s what the definition of this is, in this context. Resurrect is when you begin to rise above the obstacles that have held you back in the past so if that’s trying to get clean off drugs and alcohol right now, there is a point of your transformation that you must resurrect, which means to overcome the obstacles that prevented you from making progress in the past in order to get to the other side. If anybody’s struggled with mental health, there comes a time in your transformation that you have to resurrect, which means overcoming the obstacles and barriers that prevented you from doing at the time before. This time around, relationship’s the same, your physical body is the same, your job is the same, you gotta resurrect and you begin to see differently and feel a calling to pay it forward. 

Anybody that’s ever accomplished something they never thought they could. You know what they love to do with it? They’ll have to give it away and share it. They love to tell the next person how they did it. I watch this all the time. I do family support groups and there’s a mom in there or a dad in there saying, “hey, my son/ my daughter is struggling. He’s overdosing, he’s going in and out of detoxes,” and then all of a sudden another family member that’s been there, done that shares their experience, their strength, their hope, and they say, “I remember those days. This is what I did.” Now whether their loved one found and sought and maintained their recovery doesn’t matter. They give them their experience that helps them navigate through the most difficult challenges of their life and we gotta pay it forward. I mean, if you’re watching me talk like this and you’re not paying this kind of stuff forward to other people and having conversations about transformation then you’re not really going to get in that transformation space.

Every time you show up, whether it’s places like this, or in-person, or your own stuff that you’re doing, if you’re committed to saying, “I don’t want to live the way I used to live before. I want something different for myself, for my health, for my mind, for my body, my relationship, my spirit,” whatever it is you’re on the path of transformation. And one day you’re going to look back and be like, “Wow, I went from there to there,” and it’s going to seem like you didn’t do anything but it’s a grind, it’s a hustle, it’s daily effort, and you’re on the path.

Desire to Make a Difference

And then on the same Resurrect, it also says that your desire to make a difference in the world begins to grow as you find ways to enlighten others with your insights. You are living in a higher state of awareness and enlightenment. You don’t – let’s just call it what it is – whether you’re in active addiction, like you’re struggling with addiction yourself or you have had loved ones, spouses, children, grandparents, parents, struggle with addiction or mental illness or trauma, it’s safe to say that we’re not living in a higher vibration. We are in something called survival mode, which is almost the same as animals. And I’m not saying this in a disrespectful way. All we want to do is preserve our survival to get through it. There is nobody that’s in survival mode that’s living on a higher vibration and making changes so you could choose to live in survival mode and constantly be in fight or flight, and anxiety, and depression, all that kind of stuff. Or you can resurrect, you could transform in Resurrect.

Respond: Go Beyond the Limitations

This is my favorite one because it goes beyond the limitations of personal transformation and it goes to the greater, the bigger picture of societal community and human transformation. So what it says here is this. Respond is the stage when you begin asking what can I do, how can I contribute to making a positive impact in my life, and ultimately the world. For starters, set a firm intention to become a better leader, a stronger communicator, an exemplary role model for others, especially our younger generations. So once you transform what’s the end purpose of it? Is it just to become like this completely altered positive different version of yourself, and to keep it all to yourself? To walk around and being, “I’m transformed, my life is good?” If that’s the case I promise you’ll burn out of that and you’ll get over it in five minutes. Because once you transform you have to look around and see what can I do for this world? And I’m not talking like, “hey, how are you gonna end the homeless crisis or poverty in Africa?” None of that stuff. How are you going to help the next person that you see struggling? How are you gonna reach out and talk to somebody that might need to hear just someone to listen to them? How are you going to make your world a better place? And if you live on those things make sure that you’re giving it to the younger generation.

The 6 Stages of Transformation

So in summary, the six stages of transformation that we talked about:

  1. Realize that the life you have is not the life you want. Only you can decide that for you, and if it is then just live the way you’re living. 
  2. Number two is to Release anything you’re holding on to from the past that’s preventing you from transforming you. Gotta let it go at some point, and you might not be able to do it on your own, and you might need some professional help, and you might need some support, and you might need all the above, and that’s okay, but once you get all that it’s gonna take some time. You’re the only one that’s gonna let go of that. 
  3. The next one that we have is Rebound. Oh man, this one’s good. You must allow time to process your recent life changes. You’re all going through something. Don’t expect yourself to go from where you are to where you want to be overnight. Nourish your mind, nourish your body, nourish your spirit. 
  4. The next one we have is Reinvent, and this comes from the first one which is Realize, so when you realize the life you have is not the life you want now you get to reinvent it. You create a space for possibility for who and what you want to be, and how you want to live your life. 
  5. And the next one we got there is Resurrect. That is when you begin to rise above the obstacles that used to hold you down, rise above them. 
  6. And the very last one is Respond, and this takes transformation from the personal self to the greater world.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi

So many people sit back waiting for the world to change, waiting for others to change, waiting for their situation to change, waiting for their circumstance to change, and guess what? They wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait until they’re six feet under. Why not go be the change you want to see in the world? So many people talk about how society is so divisive, and these people are right, and these people are wrong. Or society has no more passion or love or compassion. Who cares? Why don’t you be someone who doesn’t care about the divide? Why don’t you be someone who brings the love, and brings the compassion, and beliefs, brings a generosity? Why do we have to wait for other people to live a life that all of a sudden we want to be engaged in? Let’s all do it ourselves.

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Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.