In Part 1 we talked about the 3 foundational pillars of success. In Part 2 here, we dive deeper into the next 3 pillars that are simple but powerful steps towards success.
At Buckeye Recovery, we use these pillars of success as a personal development tool with our staff because we believe that all human beings would benefit from gaining these.
4. Achieving Goals
Ready for the statistic? Over 90 to 95% of people don’t have their goals written down. A lot of people have their goals right here in their mind but I believe a goal that is not written down is just a wish. And who makes wishes? Little kids, on their birthday cake. That’s who makes wishes. Adults, people who want to taste and achieve and accomplish and conquer their goals and succeed, we don’t wish – we write those goals down like we talked about last week in our Think and Grow Rich discussion. We create tangible, actionable, time-oriented plans to achieve those things. And we address them day after day after day after day till they’re accomplished. So don’t be so wishy-washy my friends, make your life happen, and start by writing down your goals. And just carrying them in your pocket, or in your notepad of your phone, however you want it.
5. Proper Use of Time
This is one of my favorite quotes when it comes to time management and the quote is as follows:
“Most people major in minor things.”
What’s a minor thing? Things that a week from now, a month from now, a year from now, will have little to no impact on your life. People that a week from now, a month from now, a year from now, will have little impact on your life. Situations and circumstances that a week from now, a month from now, or a year from now, will have little to no impact on your life. Those are all minor things. What are the major things that from your past have had significant impact on your life, events that have had significant impact on your life, people that have had significant impact on your life? The major things in life to spend your time on is to address all of what you’ve experienced to heal from it, to recover from it, to transform from it. And why should we do so? So your future doesn’t look like your past. The only way your future is going to change is if you change the way you experienced all that you experienced and change your perspective and heal and grow from it. Because what do most people do? They major in minor things. You want to know why? Because when you focus on the person, the situation or the circumstance in your life right now that’s minor you don’t have to do one thing – guess what that one thing is? Focus on yourself. Focus on the major things.
What people do is they hyperfocus on these minor things, hyperfocus on stupid drama, hyperfocus on the most minute minuscule stuff that has no relevance or pertinence to their life in the future. And when the future comes, what happens? They say, “Why does my life never change?” It’s because you just major in minor things and the important part is to know that when we focus on the major things it’s hard. So as a clinician, I understand why people don’t want to do that because it’s hard, it’s overwhelming, it’s difficult, and they just take the path of least resistance. They take the easy way out and they focus on the minor things in life, thinking that they’re making progress, hoping that they’re making progress, wishing that they’re making progress. But like I said earlier, who wishes? Little kids, on birthday cake and candles, that’s who wishes.
I wouldn’t be doing this if I just wish you all well. I want you to do well, I want you to act well, I want you to major in the major things of your life, not the minor things of your life. And hey there’s some who say the powers to be might want us hyper focused on the minor things so we have no power when it comes to the major things. But whatever they do to us, however they condition us in society, don’t do that to yourself. Focus on the most important things in your life and everything else just look at it as a distraction, commercials and noise. Focus on the main event, focus on the main event.
6. Surround Yourself with the Best People
You might be saying to yourself, “Well how the heck do I know who and what the best people are?” Well, I’m going to give you some questions to ask about the people you spend your time with.
So you want to sit back, relax and think about the people in your life.
Who are they?
How long have you known them and in what context?
What is the type of relationship you have?
And then you want to ask the following questions.
Who am I around you?
Kind of see how you spend the majority of your time, what effect are they having on me?
So are they a plus in my life, or are they a minus in my life?
Do they add to my life, or do they subtract from my life?
What do they have me reading?
What do they have me watching?
What do they have me listening to?
And if you’re wondering, “well why do the people in my life have to do those things?” it’s because people in life that are going somewhere in life, they’re usually reading something, watching something, or listening to something that takes them to a higher vibration. So you want the people in your life to also see you, what type of suggestions they’re making to you.
The next one says,
Where do they have me going?
Do they have you going to places that are going to positively impact your life?
Or do they have you going to places that are like minor in the big scheme of life?
Do they have you go to places that you’re not going to grow in?
And the most important question I think to ask is, what do they have me thinking?
And ultimately, what do they have me becoming?
So when it comes to surrounding yourself with the best people this is what you got to do. You take a snapshot of the people in your life today – just take a picture, write their names down and then ask the following questions that I just said. And the most important ones are these people in my life – where do they have me going, what do they have me thinking, what impact /effect are they having on me? And what am I becoming as a result of being around these people?
If you don’t like the answers to those, what are you supposed to do – I suggest you find other people and you might be saying, “Well, some of these are my family members, some of these people are my friends, I can’t just leave them.” Well, then you’re responsible for reducing and minimizing the amount of exposure you have to these people to a point that the effect they have on you isn’t so negative, the direction they have you going isn’t so negative, the low vibration, low kind of quality of thoughts, and conversations you have isn’t so severe.
Go find something better, and if you can’t find something better go on YouTube, search things that’ll elevate your mind and elevate your thinking and elevate you as a person. And just entrench yourself with that stuff.