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The Relationship Bank You Need to Invest in

The question that I want you to ask yourself is, am I investing in myself? What a concept – am I investing in myself? What do you mean? I mean, how can one invest in oneself? I mean, we can invest in other people, or we can invest in our job, or we can invest in the thing called the market, the stock market which we think we have control over. No man, do you invest in your most precious commodity, which is yourself? So in order to teach you what that means, I want to teach you something about this thing called the Relationship Bank. We have relationships with anything that is not us. But guess what? You also have a relationship with yourself. And in that relationship with yourself there is this bank account present – it’s called the Relationship Bank, and it’s an account that you have with yourself and just like any other account.

There are two options: 

  1. you invest and deposit
  2. you take or withdraw.

What Happens If You Don’t Invest in Your Relationship Bank?

Now in this analogy or this metaphor that I’m using with yourself each and every single day we have a choice. We take from this bank account to do the things we have to do in life but my question is, do you invest in yourself? Do you invest in this Relationship Bank? Do you put deposits in the relationship bank? Because if you don’t here’s a dilemma – you don’t have to be a rocket scientist, or you don’t have to be very good at math to understand what potentially may happen. What will happen if I take and take and take from an account and not deposit back? What was it that I took? What will happen? You will one day have an account that is severely declining in assets, to the point that it gets to zero, and from zero if you think that’s as far as it goes you’re lying to yourself, because it starts to go into the red, and go into the negative. And when that account is in the negative the relationship with yourself is in the negative – you start to experience things: frustration, agitation, annoyance, anxiety, depression, lack of motivation, lack of enthusiasm, lack of vitality, and you think there’s something wrong with the world. But guess what, the only reason that you feel those things is because you stopped depositing in yourself and in your life and in your future. There are so many good things!

All human beings including myself, we have this thing called a Relationship Bank, and that happens with ourselves, just like any other account: there are two components – withdrawals and deposits. Life has us withdrawing from this account all the time, and it is our responsibility to deposit back into this account by investing in ourselves. If you do so you will always have a healthy and thriving bank account that you look at, you’re proud of, and also allows you to get the things done you need to get done. But if you don’t, you will experience the pain of being broke in this account and if you’re broke you are unable to do the things you want to do and develop the way you want to develop.

How do you invest in yourself?

Invest in your mind, sharpen that mind, keep that mind open to new experiences, possibilities, opportunities. Learning is not just for children in grade school and Junior High and high school and for young adults in college. College typically ends around, let’s call it, the 20s, early 20s, mid 20s, late 20s. That’s a typical, average bell-shaped curve of when formal education ends. Well, guess what, your education actually starts when formal education ends. How can someone tell me that the education they need in life ends at a time in their life that they barely begin? Have you talked to a 22 year old, a 25 year old kid? They know nothing about life, but that’s when a lot of us start learning because that’s when we were supposed to learn. So if you’re not learning something right now then what are you doing? What are you investing in? So that’s the mind and that’s learning. 

But guess what, you must invest in your body, you must invest in the vehicle that takes you from point A to point B, the same way you do your maintenance on your car, and you do your oil change, and you rotate your tires, and you take it into the shop, and you do X, Y and Z and make sure it’s operating well, so you can get from point A to point B for life. What about your body? Do you invest in your body? 

And then do you invest in your spirit? The thing that holds all this together. Our body is nothing but a physical thing. Our mind is just a part of us that creates this sense of self, this identity. But what about the spirit? The X factor that connects it all together, the thing that makes you feel certain feelings that you can’t explain. Do you invest in that spirit, or is your spirit just broken because of not taking care of your mind and your body? So you must invest in yourself, my friends.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.