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Turn Off your Autopilot so you can Transform

Human beings are not born with autopilot. Autopilot is a conditioning that happens to us as a result of living in our society. As we grow up in our various stages of development we get programmed with expectations of what we’re supposed to be, who we’re supposed to be, how we’re supposed to be, the typical timelines of life, and it starts to become this tape that runs on autopilot. It completely overtakes our individuality, our unique desires, our unique goals, who we really are. It overtakes it and a lot of people struggle with that. Like I always say, “Do you remember who and what you were before the world told you who and what you’re supposed to be?” And when you’re able to recognize that a lot of that chatter is not yours and it belongs to something else, somewhere else. You can start to turn it off and then you can think clearly about what it is that you actually want. 

Create your own timeline, create your own standards and expectations of life, and then live by that. Who cares what society says? And who’s society anyways? Who cares what expectations of society are? And we’re all here for like 80, 90 years. You want to live your entire life trying to meet up to the expectations of something that’s just like man-made and created? Or you want to be the author, the creator of your own world?

Get Serious About Change

If you are serious about changing your life, about transforming your circumstances, and experiencing a different way of this thing called life you’ll find a way to change. And if you’re not, man, are you gonna find some good excuses. Human beings come up with the best excuses of all time for reasons why they don’t do the things they do. Number one usually is, they don’t have the time. That’s if we’re playing Family Feud and they ask what is the most common excuse human beings have for not being able to follow and pursue their goals and dreams and hopes and things they want to accomplish in life, number one is “oh I don’t got the time.” When somebody says that to me I kind of like chuckle inside because all they’re telling me is, “I don’t know how to prioritize my time. I don’t know how to manage my time. I don’t know the value of time.” That’s all they’re telling me. “I don’t believe that time is important.” So people love to find excuses.

As a clinician I’ll tell you this – I understand the significant impact that dysfunctional families growing up can have on the development of a human being. I understand the significant impact that things like trauma and abuse can have on the mind, body, spirit, the development of this thing called the human being. I understand that things like mental illness and addictions can really derail us from our path. However if you really want to transform and change you will find a way to work through all that, to heal from all that, because remember, if you don’t heal from your wounds you will bleed all over people who did not cut you, including yourself. So I don’t really know what you want to do with your life but I do know this. That if and when the day comes that you choose to transform and change your story there is no such thing as an excuse to prevent you from doing it.

“If you’re serious about changing your life you will find a way. If you’re not, you will find an excuse.”

Most people that try to change, the reason why they fail is because they focus on and breathe life into their excuses by minimizing tragically their potential power to change. It’s so sad when it happens. And what are some excuses? “It’s too hard. I don’t have time. It’s too expensive. It’s going to take too long. I’m afraid nobody understands, nobody gets it. If you only experienced what I experienced you wouldn’t be talking down to me like this. You have no sensitivity. You have no compassion. You have no empathy.” Alright, and now what? You’re still stuck in the same situation being prisoner to your past circumstances and living through the lens of the excuses of why you can’t accomplish your dreams. At some point we’re either committed to change or committed to the excuses for reasons why we can’t change. You’re either committed to transforming your life or you’re committed to the reasons why you can’t transform. It’s a commitment thing. 

Get out of your Comfort Zone. Go Explore!

So which world are you going to be committed to? I’m committed to the world of transformation. I live beyond my excuses. I don’t allow my excuses to penetrate my mind, even though sometimes I can have some. I don’t breathe air or life into these things called excuses. I find ways to overcome them. I find ways to silence them. I find ways to minimize them with massive action. Maybe it’s because I have a really clear vision of what I’m trying to accomplish in life. Maybe it’s because I just don’t want my story to end a certain way. Maybe because I’m hungry for change. Maybe because I’ve experienced it I know the feeling that it has and how powerful it is, and how meaningful it is, and how impactful it is, how it can help other people. And if you haven’t experienced those things yet I sincerely, politely invite you to live beyond your excuses. I mean, how many more excuses? Like it’s too cold outside, it’s too hot outside, what the heck man? It’s too far, it’s too close. I don’t know if you came here to hear things about how everything you’re doing right now is okay and just keep trying your best. I’m not it, I’m just not it. I can’t. I’m not going to dedicate my time to just sit here and tell people things that are kind of mild and mellow and easy to hear. If you’re not here to get a little uncomfortable with how you’re living your life or a little inspired to do a little bit better, even if you’re doing well.

“A ship at harbor is safe but that’s not what ships are built for.”

When you look at a ship hanging out in the harbor, yeah it’s safe over there, but that’s not really what it’s built for, is it?What’s that ship made for? It’s built to go adventure, it’s built to go explore, it’s built to go travel, it’s built to go from one destination to another destination. It’s built for this thing called exploration and experience. Ain’t that the truth? Isn’t that what the freaking ship is built for? And human beings, you might be safe chilling, hanging out on your couch, you might be safe at your little nine-to-five job, you might be safe at your small routine that you’ve created for yourself, but I’m telling you this – just like the ship is safe in the harbor but it’s not what it’s built for you are not built to just live a small life that’s completely free of challenge, completely free of taking risks, completely free of putting yourself in situations which seem overwhelming or scary. Because when the ship actually goes to the middle of the ocean towards its destination it’s going to experience some choppy waters. It’s probably going to experience some storms, some waves, it’s going to rock that thing, but it’ll get to its destination. So when you leave the safety and the comfort of your comfort zone and you go out to change the way your story ends you’re going to go through some stuff. I’d rather go through the storms towards my dream than sit in safety and shelter and have my dreams never come true. I don’t know what kind of a takeaway you’re going to have from that type of a conversation right there.

Believe that Change can Happen

The way we view the world is based on who we are in the present moment. And as we develop and learn and grow and have new experiences we also change, we are no longer the same. So like a year from now you’re not the same version you are right now. We go through different experiences, different obstacles, and that ability to change our vision and how we perceive life, it’s infinite. 

One of my biggest pet peeves in life is individuals who have succumbed to who they think they are and then they say something such as, “well it’s really hard to change the older you get. It’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks.” It’s like, man, if you want to believe that go for it, but I can show you countless people who have learned a completely new way of life, completely new way of conversating, completely new way of relating to the people they love in their life, completely new way of taking care of their mind, their body, their health at an old age. So how come those old dogs were able to learn new tricks? But you’ve come to the belief that it’s hard to change because you’re older. It’s hard to change in general. It’s hard for the 18-year-old to change, it’s hard for the 25 year old to change, it’s hard for the 45 year old to change, it’s hard for the 60-year-old to change, and yes it’s hard for the 80-year-old to change. It has nothing to do with how old or young you are. Change is hard. What makes the difference is believing that you can change, believing that you can change. Once you believe you can change, change can happen. But if you don’t have that belief man of course, it’s hard.

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Are you in recovery but not making progress? Recovery is not only possible but attainable, and it all begins with reaching out for assistance. By addressing both addiction and mental health issues, individuals can break free from the cycle of despair and embark on a path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact Buckeye Recovery Network today and initiate your journey to recovery and improved mental health. Our dedicated team of professionals is here to guide and support you every step of the way.

Today is going to be the best day of your life.

Kelsey Gearhart

Director of Business Development

Kelsey carries multiple years of experience working in the substance abuse and mental health treatment field. Her passion for this field comes from her personally knowing recovery from addiction.

Prior to Buckeye she held titles of Recovery Coach, Operations Director, and Admissions Director. Kelsey was brought on at Buckeye Recovery as the Director of Business Development. She has a passion for ensuring every individual gets the help that they need, and does so by developing relationships with other providers.

Kelsey also oversees our women’s sober living environments – The Chadwick House for Women. She is committed to creating a safe, nurturing, and conducive environment for all women that walk through the doors of Chadwick.