People think your attitude is just like “oh how you show up in a moment, this person is so positive, or this person’s so negative, or this person always has such a good attitude, this person always has such a bad attitude,” it’s deeper than that. Our attitude also has to explore the continuum of time, so what does that mean?
What is your attitude towards your past?
Who you’ve been, what you’ve done?
What is your attitude towards the people of your past, regardless of what they’ve done?
Are there some opportunities for healing?
Are there some opportunities for growth?
Are there some opportunities for new relationships?
What is your attitude through the present moment of life, of society, of this thing we called planet Earth, and the people and inhabitants of it?
What is your attitude towards recovery?
What is your attitude towards the future where you’re headed?
What’s it going to look like – the when, the where, the why, the how?
What is your attitude on the past and present and future that creates our ability to be able to experience life to its fullest?
The Future Won’t Someday Get Better Unless…
I’m going to give you a news flash. If you have a bad attitude towards your past and the people in it, and in this present moment you have a poor attitude and a bad attitude about your life and the impact of the people in the past had on your life, if you think that your future is automatically going to be better and it’s going to be just this wonderful place, that your attitude is going to be positive and you’re going to be happy and engaged and loving, you’re lying to yourself. If you don’t make right with the past and you don’t make right with the present, your future is doomed. And that’s what a lot of people don’t want to accept. They just think they hold on to the idea that somehow, someday, the future is going to be better for me. Really?
When it starts with change I do believe it starts with education. Now I’m not talking about going into the school and learning your ABCs. Education about self, who you are, until you get crystal clear on who you are. Good luck becoming what you want to be and it’s tough! Because sometimes that path of education, about learning about oneself is. The reason why so many people that are in 12-step programs say “hey the 12 steps should be taught to everybody,” the main reason is this: because it allows you to take a mirror and look at yourself and how you are with self, how you are with others, how you show up in life, and it helps you maintain that each and every single day through different steps. So that’s what’s important about it. It’s not the actual 12 steps, the program everyone’s got exposed to. It’s the ability to get to know oneself is the power of the program.
Attitude of Gratitude
If my attitude is in gratitude it gives me the motivation to do more. I think the attitude should always be in gratitude. Mine is. What do we say?
Grateful people are happy people, and those who aren’t, aren’t.
It’s one of the most common measurable pieces of assessment for a clinician when having a conversation with somebody to know if this person is genuinely going to have a positive attitude and be okay. So the amount of gratitude they show, the amount of gratitude of those who are not grateful, those who take everything for granted, those who just look at everything from a negative light, they tend to repeat that over and over and over and over again. And if you can’t find things to be grateful you just ain’t looking. If you can’t find things in your life that you’re grateful for, you’re just not looking. Or your perspective is so skewed that you’re only looking at it from this type of a lens when you go macro. When you open it up and you go bird’s eye view and you look down in your life you will realize that gratitude is available and accessible to you – you’re just choosing not to access it. For all of us, for all of us.
It’s funny the people that aren’t grateful, people that have a real problem with gratitude and it’s like nothing’s ever good enough and they’re never happy and they’re always pissed off, like “but if I get X Y and Z in my life then I’m going to be grateful. I just don’t have those things yet.” If you’re not grateful with what you have in life right now you will not be grateful for what you have in the future. If you need to learn that lesson yourself and come back one day and say “yo dude, you were right, I was never grateful and then I got all these things I thought I wanted and I still wasn’t grateful.”
Start small, start simple, look at your life, find things you’re grateful for – it’ll change your attitude. Look at your past and five things you’re grateful for, change your attitude.
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